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PrintableSUPRMAN said: TD3 said: Domestic abuse (I have issues with that name and definition) can and does happen outside of the home, any place, and at any time. Unless you think a Lamborghini is a home. Second point: men do rape, beat, and abuse women and more often than not justice isn't served and they do get away with it. In many place in the world married women don't have the right to say "NO", still. In some instances women are killed to regain family "honor" when she's been raped, killed by the men in her family no less. Imagine! Third point: "Blaming others for individual decisions and actions is very American" Nah, it's not an American trait but your response I'm sorry to say is an all too common one. It's up their with, [i] "I was just following orders". Or, "I didn't think this could happen to me, to my family,and/or in my neighborhood"..  I don't expect anyone to take the blame nor embrace the guilt of others who've done wrong. I do however expect those who violate the freedom, respect, and safety of others to stand up, speak out, and fight against those crimes/injustices. I expect for us to make sure justice it served and the guilty are punished for violating the law. I expect us to show empathy and be aware that those same acts of violence that happens to others may come floating back to YOU. When they came for the Communist I said nothing because I wasn't a Communists. When they came for the Unionist I said nothing because I wasn't a Unionist. When they came for the Jew's I said nothing because I wasn't a Jew. One day they came for me and there was no one left. Ring a bell?
As my husband rightly told my daughter anyone who makes excuses which is a roundabout was of justifying violence against women... are suspect and not to be trusted at high noon or at twelve midnight. [Edited 3/8/09 18:49pm] I don't think we're arguing here. I am not defending Chris Brown or abusive men. I was not talking about men worldwide but American men. It happens in America also even though everyone knows it leads to jail. That isn't enough of a deterrent is it? Yes men in other countries with varying mores, cultures, beliefs and standards do get away with it. But that is not the U.S. judicial system's fault. I would respectfully beg to differ superman, go back and read the previous 8 pages of this thread. Please, go back to the thread that started our discussion about this incident. I've been very interested in what the men of org have had to say, I'm pleased and relieved most expressed horror and outrage. As far as America..we still have a long way to go. I'm an advocate/lawyer (pro bono) for women of domestic abuse in Chicago. Chicago is the only city in the U.S.which has set-up a separate Domestic Violence Court. Our Mayor has been a strong and vocal advocate for bringing about justice for the victim's of abuse but it's not as simple as you hit a women, you go to jail. Only 17% of domestic violence cases in Cook County end in conviction. If you or anyone wants me to explain why this is and what are the obstacles victim's face, I'm more willing to do so. I didn't want to go here but I'm passionate about this subject. Without dialogue how can we bring about change? Peace. [Edited 3/8/09 23:05pm] | |
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StarCat said: 'Love Doesn't Hurt,' Oprah Tells Rihanna
(March 8) - Oprah Winfrey strongly cautioned Rihanna from hastily reconciling with her accused attacker Chris Brown, saying during her show on Friday that "love doesn't hurt" and charging that "if a man hits you once, he will hit you again." "You need somebody to tell you the truth in this moment. And the truth is guys, both Chris Brown and Rihanna, if I were your friend, I would call you up and I would say 'Give it some time, get yourself some counseling, take care of yourself, heal yourself first'," she said during the live broadcast. "And also, 'Love doesn't hurt'. I've been saying this to women for years - love doesn't hurt. And if a man hits you once, he will hit you again. He will hit you again. I don't care what his plea is, he will hit you again.'" Brown briefly appeared in court Thursday, hours after he was charged with two felonies stemming from what a police detective describes as a brutal argument between the singer and Rihanna in a car in an upscale Los Angeles neighborhood last month. He did not enter a plea, and his arraignment was postponed until April 6. Until then, the 19-year-old R&B singer remains free on $50,000 bail. A search warrant affidavit filed by a Los Angeles police detective described a brutal fight in which Brown allegedly punched, bit and choked Rihanna until she nearly lost consciousness. If Rihanna won't listen to anybody else,maybe she will listen to Oprah. | |
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SoulAlive said: StarCat said: 'Love Doesn't Hurt,' Oprah Tells Rihanna
(March 8) - Oprah Winfrey strongly cautioned Rihanna from hastily reconciling with her accused attacker Chris Brown, saying during her show on Friday that "love doesn't hurt" and charging that "if a man hits you once, he will hit you again." "You need somebody to tell you the truth in this moment. And the truth is guys, both Chris Brown and Rihanna, if I were your friend, I would call you up and I would say 'Give it some time, get yourself some counseling, take care of yourself, heal yourself first'," she said during the live broadcast. "And also, 'Love doesn't hurt'. I've been saying this to women for years - love doesn't hurt. And if a man hits you once, he will hit you again. He will hit you again. I don't care what his plea is, he will hit you again.'" Brown briefly appeared in court Thursday, hours after he was charged with two felonies stemming from what a police detective describes as a brutal argument between the singer and Rihanna in a car in an upscale Los Angeles neighborhood last month. He did not enter a plea, and his arraignment was postponed until April 6. Until then, the 19-year-old R&B singer remains free on $50,000 bail. A search warrant affidavit filed by a Los Angeles police detective described a brutal fight in which Brown allegedly punched, bit and choked Rihanna until she nearly lost consciousness. If Rihanna won't listen to anybody else,maybe she will listen to Oprah. Or she should listen to MADEA  Desiigner "Panda" LES TWINS x YAK FILMS | Laurent ft Skitzo & Boom Squad Inglewood  (part 1)
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 Am I the only one not thinking with emotions who would actually like to see these two get some couples' counseling and anger management and see them move forward positively? People aren't clichés. Any behavior that is learned can be unlearned with the proper help and guidance. | |
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BlaqueKnight said: Am I the only one not thinking with emotions who would actually like to see these two get some couples' counseling and anger management and see them move forward positively? People aren't clichés. Any behavior that is learned can be unlearned with the proper help and guidance. It can and won't be instant. They need some real time between this if they are going to go there. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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TD3 said: SUPRMAN said: I don't think we're arguing here. I am not defending Chris Brown or abusive men. I was not talking about men worldwide but American men. It happens in America also even though everyone knows it leads to jail. That isn't enough of a deterrent is it? Yes men in other countries with varying mores, cultures, beliefs and standards do get away with it. But that is not the U.S. judicial system's fault. I would respectfully beg to differ superman, go back and read the previous 8 pages of this thread. Please, go back to the thread that started our discussion about this incident. I've been very interested in what the men of org have had to say, I'm pleased and relieved most expressed horror and outrage. As far as America..we still have a long way to go. I'm an advocate/lawyer (pro bono) for women of domestic abuse in Chicago. Chicago is the only city in the U.S.which has set-up a separate Domestic Violence Court. Our Mayor has been a strong and vocal advocate for bringing about justice for the victim's of abuse but it's not as simple as you hit a women, you go to jail. Only 17% of domestic violence cases in Cook County end in conviction. If you or anyone wants me to explain why this is and what are the obstacles victim's face, I'm more willing to do so. I didn't want to go here but I'm passionate about this subject. Without dialogue how can we bring about change? Peace. [Edited 3/8/09 23:05pm] Only 17% of domestic violence cases in Cook County end in conviction. Why is that? I understand there are legal and personal obstacles that work against a higher conviction rate but it can't be for lack of evidence or testimony can it? Well I guess I can only be wrong to you since I am not interested in expressing further horror and outrage. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. |
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RosesRred said: SoulAlive said: If Rihanna won't listen to anybody else,maybe she will listen to Oprah. Or she should listen to MADEA Ok!? Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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BlaqueKnight said: Am I the only one not thinking with emotions who would actually like to see these two get some couples' counseling and anger management and see them move forward positively? People aren't clichés. Any behavior that is learned can be unlearned with the proper help and guidance. I will say that I am backing away from the idea that this relationship, regardless of how long it lasts, will doom their careers, especially hers. I was at Target today and she's on every mag cover, even People (her cover a couple weeks ago must have sold well). And her CD hasn't left the top 40 all this time, even after the revelation that she went back to Brown. Some say she had a tough girl image that won't work now. But, I'm not so sure. She had "Take A Bow", but also "Rehab" (keeps going back to a toxic relationship), "S.O.S" (obsessive), "Umbrella" (loyal, come what may), Disturbia (crazy)...She has more than one image going it seems. She won't be anybody's Cover Girl if she stays with him, but maybe she doesn't need to be. "Be glad for what you had baby, what you've got..." | |
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RosesRred said: SoulAlive said: If Rihanna won't listen to anybody else,maybe she will listen to Oprah. Or she should listen to MADEA I know some of our folks on this board hate Tyler Perry and his Madea character with a passion, but I'm sorry, while this isn't exactly hi-brow entertainment a la Speed The Plow, it has good homespun advice that I appreciate. | |
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SoulAlive said: StarCat said: 'Love Doesn't Hurt,' Oprah Tells Rihanna
(March 8) - Oprah Winfrey strongly cautioned Rihanna from hastily reconciling with her accused attacker Chris Brown, saying during her show on Friday that "love doesn't hurt" and charging that "if a man hits you once, he will hit you again." "You need somebody to tell you the truth in this moment. And the truth is guys, both Chris Brown and Rihanna, if I were your friend, I would call you up and I would say 'Give it some time, get yourself some counseling, take care of yourself, heal yourself first'," she said during the live broadcast. "And also, 'Love doesn't hurt'. I've been saying this to women for years - love doesn't hurt. And if a man hits you once, he will hit you again. He will hit you again. I don't care what his plea is, he will hit you again.'" Brown briefly appeared in court Thursday, hours after he was charged with two felonies stemming from what a police detective describes as a brutal argument between the singer and Rihanna in a car in an upscale Los Angeles neighborhood last month. He did not enter a plea, and his arraignment was postponed until April 6. Until then, the 19-year-old R&B singer remains free on $50,000 bail. A search warrant affidavit filed by a Los Angeles police detective described a brutal fight in which Brown allegedly punched, bit and choked Rihanna until she nearly lost consciousness. If Rihanna won't listen to anybody else,maybe she will listen to Oprah. Supposedly now Oprah wants to do a whole show dedicated to the Rihannas of the world. Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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Ottensen said: RosesRred said: Or she should listen to MADEA I know some of our folks on this board hate Tyler Perry and his Madea character with a passion, but I'm sorry, while this isn't exactly hi-brow entertainment a la Speed The Plow, it has good homespun advice that I appreciate. COM PLETE LY 
Not sure about the violence at the end but everything else is spot the hell on. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Texter REVEALED!
Texter Revealed The woman whose 3 page text message initiated the end of an era has been identified! On the night of the Chris Brown/Rihanna incident, Beat Her Down received a booty call from none other than his manager, Tina Davis. Rumor has it that Davis, 40, and Brown, 19, had a sordid encounter back when Beat Her Down was a wee abuser at the tender age of 16. They both deny it. The detective's affidavit, however, refers to the communication "from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with." The message infuriated Rihanna, who struck out at Chris. Chris then answered back. Violence is never the answer! And that goes for both of them! -perezhilton Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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paisleypark4 said: Texter REVEALED!
Texter Revealed The woman whose 3 page text message initiated the end of an era has been identified! On the night of the Chris Brown/Rihanna incident, Beat Her Down received a booty call from none other than his manager, Tina Davis. Rumor has it that Davis, 40, and Brown, 19, had a sordid encounter back when Beat Her Down was a wee abuser at the tender age of 16. They both deny it. The detective's affidavit, however, refers to the communication "from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with." The message infuriated Rihanna, who struck out at Chris. Chris then answered back. Violence is never the answer! And that goes for both of them! -perezhilton I heard about him and Tina before... well since this whole mess began. Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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Akon says he'd work with Chris Brown
March 10, 2009, 11:11 AM EST WASHINGTON (AP) -- Akon — who has gone through legal woes and bad publicity himself — says he'd be willing to work with pop's latest problem child, Chris Brown. "Oh, absolutely!" Akon said in a phone interview Monday. "I wouldn't take anybody's personal issues or problems— I won't hold them accountable for that when it comes to work. I think it's two separate things." The 19-year-old R&B singer was charged with two felonies last week in connection with an alleged attack on his girlfriend, pop star Rihanna, 21. Brown is accused of beating her in the early morning hours of Feb. 8, the day of the Grammy Awards: Both were due to perform but bowed out. He was arrested that night. Since then, a photo has surfaced that purportedly shows a badly beaten Rihanna, and an affidavit released last week offered brutal details of the alleged assault. Related: Protective order issued against Chris Brown Brown has seen endorsements evaporate and some stations have stopped playing the music of the platinum star. But Akon said it's not fair to "to hold his whole career at bay because of it. He's gonna learn and he's gonna move forward and just hopefully he won't treat the next woman the same way." Akon has been through legal troubles and public relations disasters of his own. He agreed last December to perform community service and pay a fine for throwing a teen off a stage in 2007 after someone in a crowd apparently threw something at him. He also apologized for simulating sex with a teen at a Trinidadian concert; he said he did not know the girl was so young. Akon said making music helped him get through those difficult times, and that may be the case for Brown: "If you are going through personal issues to me, those are the best times to make records." Akon also said the media needed to stop focusing its attention on Brown and Rihanna and let the couple work through their issues, stressing that both are very young stars. "At the end of the day, what Rihanna and Chris went through is nothing different than what couples go through every day," he said. "They have problems, they go through issues, and some of them, of course, expand to domestic violence, which I don't in any way condone. But, you know, sometimes you really can't control it and some people just need to seek help and figure out ways to deal with their emotions and how they deal with issues and certain things." Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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JackieBlue said: Akon says he'd work with Chris Brown
March 10, 2009, 11:11 AM EST WASHINGTON (AP) -- Akon — who has gone through legal woes and bad publicity himself — says he'd be willing to work with pop's latest problem child, Chris Brown. "Oh, absolutely!" Akon said in a phone interview Monday. "I wouldn't take anybody's personal issues or problems— I won't hold them accountable for that when it comes to work. I think it's two separate things." ." I know if putting him on my record meant that I'd get money off his behind I'd do it too....however we don't know how the public will view Chris if he does put out another album or so. We can see how Elephant Man is treated for putting down gay's...R Kelly hasnt been doing all that well either since the trials...maybe that's because his music is failing too. Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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paisleypark4 said: JackieBlue said: Akon says he'd work with Chris Brown
March 10, 2009, 11:11 AM EST WASHINGTON (AP) -- Akon — who has gone through legal woes and bad publicity himself — says he'd be willing to work with pop's latest problem child, Chris Brown. "Oh, absolutely!" Akon said in a phone interview Monday. "I wouldn't take anybody's personal issues or problems— I won't hold them accountable for that when it comes to work. I think it's two separate things." ." I know if putting him on my record meant that I'd get money off his behind I'd do it too....however we don't know how the public will view Chris if he does put out another album or so. We can see how Elephant Man is treated for putting down gay's...R Kelly hasnt been doing all that well either since the trials...maybe that's because his music is failing too. Oh, I don't think anyone is going to actually STOP working with him. Heck, I wouldn't even be surprised if he and Rihanna did another song/performance together. Just posting the news altho this one line did stand out to me a bit: "But, you know, sometimes you really can't control it and some people just need to seek help and figure out ways to deal with their emotions and how they deal with issues and certain things." Maybe it's me but he sound like he might be familiar with a little domestic fisticuffs himself. [Edited 3/10/09 13:04pm] Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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paisleypark4 said: Texter REVEALED!
An "encounter" when Brown was 16??? Texter Revealed The woman whose 3 page text message initiated the end of an era has been identified! On the night of the Chris Brown/Rihanna incident, Beat Her Down received a booty call from none other than his manager, Tina Davis. Rumor has it that Davis, 40, and Brown, 19, had a sordid encounter back when Beat Her Down was a wee abuser at the tender age of 16. They both deny it. The detective's affidavit, however, refers to the communication "from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with." The message infuriated Rihanna, who struck out at Chris. Chris then answered back. Violence is never the answer! And that goes for both of them! -perezhilton  The hell?? Wow...just wow."Be glad for what you had baby, what you've got..." | |
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bettybop said: paisleypark4 said: Texter REVEALED!
An "encounter" when Brown was 16??? Texter Revealed The woman whose 3 page text message initiated the end of an era has been identified! On the night of the Chris Brown/Rihanna incident, Beat Her Down received a booty call from none other than his manager, Tina Davis. Rumor has it that Davis, 40, and Brown, 19, had a sordid encounter back when Beat Her Down was a wee abuser at the tender age of 16. They both deny it. The detective's affidavit, however, refers to the communication "from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with." The message infuriated Rihanna, who struck out at Chris. Chris then answered back. Violence is never the answer! And that goes for both of them! -perezhilton The hell?? Wow...just wow.Isn't it interesting how some things can come back to haunt you? Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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JackieBlue said: bettybop said: An "encounter" when Brown was 16???
The hell?? Wow...just wow.Isn't it interesting how some things can come back to haunt you? What you do in the dark.....as momma used to say!  "Be glad for what you had baby, what you've got..." | |
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bettybop said: JackieBlue said: Isn't it interesting how some things can come back to haunt you? What you do in the dark.....as momma used to say!  Been gone for a minute, now I'm back with the jump off | |
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Mystery Woman in Brown/Rihanna Case Revealed
Posted Mar 10th 2009 2:00PM by TMZ Staff TMZ knows who triggered the fight that left Rihanna battered and bruised and Chris Brown an accused felon -- it's Brown's manager. Sources tell us the woman who left the three-page text message on Brown's cell phone is Tina Davis. Davis -- who turns 40 this month -- was rumored to have had a relationship with Brown when he was 16. Brown and Davis have denied it. Law enforcement tells us the text message to Brown talked about hooking up later -- and it totally pissed off Rihanna. She slapped and hit him and he then brutally fired back. The detective's affidavit refers to the text message as being "from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with." Davis could not be reached for comment. http://www.tmz.com/2009/0...t-message/  MJ L.O.V.E: https://www.facebook.com/...689&type=2 / YOUTUBE: http://www.youtube.com/us...nderSilent | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Ottensen said: I know some of our folks on this board hate Tyler Perry and his Madea character with a passion, but I'm sorry, while this isn't exactly hi-brow entertainment a la Speed The Plow, it has good homespun advice that I appreciate. COM PLETE LY
Not sure about the violence at the end but everything else is spot the hell on. You and many others are so much more mature than me because in my flawed judgement I could be tempted to go for the butt whoopin'  | |
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haha this shit is still going on. | |
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JackieBlue said: Akon says he'd work with Chris Brown
Of course Akon would work with him. March 10, 2009, 11:11 AM EST WASHINGTON (AP) -- Akon — who has gone through legal woes and bad publicity himself — says he'd be willing to work with pop's latest problem child, Chris Brown. "Oh, absolutely!" Akon said in a phone interview Monday. "I wouldn't take anybody's personal issues or problems— I won't hold them accountable for that when it comes to work. I think it's two separate things." The 19-year-old R&B singer was charged with two felonies last week in connection with an alleged attack on his girlfriend, pop star Rihanna, 21. Brown is accused of beating her in the early morning hours of Feb. 8, the day of the Grammy Awards: Both were due to perform but bowed out. He was arrested that night. Since then, a photo has surfaced that purportedly shows a badly beaten Rihanna, and an affidavit released last week offered brutal details of the alleged assault. Related: Protective order issued against Chris Brown Brown has seen endorsements evaporate and some stations have stopped playing the music of the platinum star. But Akon said it's not fair to "to hold his whole career at bay because of it. He's gonna learn and he's gonna move forward and just hopefully he won't treat the next woman the same way." Akon has been through legal troubles and public relations disasters of his own. He agreed last December to perform community service and pay a fine for throwing a teen off a stage in 2007 after someone in a crowd apparently threw something at him. He also apologized for simulating sex with a teen at a Trinidadian concert; he said he did not know the girl was so young. Akon said making music helped him get through those difficult times, and that may be the case for Brown: "If you are going through personal issues to me, those are the best times to make records." Akon also said the media needed to stop focusing its attention on Brown and Rihanna and let the couple work through their issues, stressing that both are very young stars. "At the end of the day, what Rihanna and Chris went through is nothing different than what couples go through every day," he said. "They have problems, they go through issues, and some of them, of course, expand to domestic violence, which I don't in any way condone. But, you know, sometimes you really can't control it and some people just need to seek help and figure out ways to deal with their emotions and how they deal with issues and certain things." 
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This is the reason you let your relationships stay private if you are famous. Just like in real life, boy fucks over girl, girl leaves, girl forgives boy, girl's friends don't. | |
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If he was a man he would have just walked away... unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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JackieBlue said: Oh, I don't think anyone is going to actually STOP working with him. Heck, I wouldn't even be surprised if he and Rihanna did another song/performance together.
I expect that to happen. "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
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Vendetta1 said: This is the reason you let your relationships stay private if you are famous. Just like in real life, boy fucks over girl, girl leaves, girl forgives boy, girl's friends don't.
True. By the way, I just saw your siggy...only 2 days until you see the debate!!!I'ma total combination of jealous of and stoked out of my socks for you! That's going to be a goooood night, Gurl!  | |
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Ottensen said: Vendetta1 said: This is the reason you let your relationships stay private if you are famous. Just like in real life, boy fucks over girl, girl leaves, girl forgives boy, girl's friends don't.
True. By the way, I just saw your siggy...only 2 days until you see the debate!!!I'ma total combination of jealous of and stoked out of my socks for you! That's going to be a goooood night, Gurl! 
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