I mean, what the fuck?!

She is experienced enough and had her fair share of different fellas who went down on her (and I hope that at least a couple of them knew what they were doing...), yet she still maintains that she simply doesn't like to be licked. She'd rather "get the dick in straight away".

We got quite close physically, but nothing too sexual went on yet and she actually said that I'm a very good kisser and that she can't wait to sleep with me, so I guess she's not lying to me because she doesn't want ME to lick her. She simply doesn't like to be licked.

She loves giving blowjobs, she loves being fingerfucked and she loves being fucked, of course. I asked her whether she ever had an orgasm with someone licking her, she said no. I mean, with all the women I've been with so far, one thing was the same (even though I'm a firm believer that no special "trick" works on every woman and that every woman embodies a new, unique sexual universe): They loved to be licked and that was the way they would come the quickest and easiest.

She says she does have both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and that she also has clitoral orgasms while being fucked (due to minor rubbing).

I asked her whether she was too sensitive down there, she said no.

I asked her whether she thought that a mouth should generally not touch a vagina, she said no (like I said, she loves active oral sex).

However, she once mentioned that everything about her private parts has to be perfect when someone gets close (as in clean shaven etc), so I thought that may be the problem. She may be afraid that someone might be put off by licking her pussy. I might ask her whether this possibility is true.

But so far she really seemed to genuinely just not want to be licked.

She's extremely sexual, gets horny VERY quickly and once she is horny it's VERY difficult to make her stop (she'd even do it in a restaurant). There's certainly no sexual energy missing.

What do you think may be the reasons for her disliking being licked?

Does anyone here dislike it?

Run for the hills.

I don't know what I would do if I couldn't orally pleasure my woman.... That's one of my favorite things in life to be honest . What type of woman doesn't like receiving oral sex?!

Having an orgasm while being is da bomb. I love love it!

I don't really think that is too unusual. Many women have reservations about some aspects of sex that you might think are perfectly normal yourself. Many women don't even like to be entered from behind.

I just broke up with someone that didn't care too much about kissing. Sort of glad that it ended due to that reason alone.

Obviously she's had a bad experience.

Someone must have told her something nasty bout her coochie's odour or something and now she's traumatized.

You are all really judgemental . People enjoy different things .

She reminds me a bit of myself, being horny a lot and enjoying sex a lot . And I also prefer sexual intercourse to being licked, I also prefer giving blowjobs to being licked . I do enjoy being licked too and I do get orgasms from it as well, so I enjoy it. But I sure come way easier from intercourse than from licking. And I could easily do without it if I had to, because for me vaginal orgasms just feel way better than clitoral orgasms.

She better love giving head, Dave, or else you should dump her like a Led Zeppelin.

Remember, the most important thing about relationships are trust and understanding. But those things can never be achieved, so being nasty and giving head are essential.

Does she complain that it only tickles?

i was like that when i was really young ~ but the older i got the more adventurous i became......

its just part of youth and experience

not everyone does everything all at one!!

for some its a gradual progression......

and even now at my age there r some things i plan on trying (with the right person) that i have not done as yet!!!

ThisOne said:

i was like that when i was really young ~ but the older i got the more adventurous i became......

its just part of youth and experience

not everyone does everything all at one!!

for some its a gradual progression......

and even now at my age there r some things i plan on trying (with the right person) that i have not done as yet!!!

PurpleJedi said:

ThisOne said:

i was like that when i was really young ~ but the older i got the more adventurous i became......

its just part of youth and experience

not everyone does everything all at one!!

for some its a gradual progression......

and even now at my age there r some things i plan on trying (with the right person) that i have not done as yet!!!

that's foreign to me

sex is overrated, anyway

novabrkr said:

I don't really think that is too unusual. Many women have reservations about some aspects of sex that you might think are perfectly normal yourself. Many women don't even like to be entered from behind.

I just broke up with someone that didn't care too much about kissing. Sort of glad that it ended due to that reason alone.

Yeah, she also mentioned that she doesn't really like positions in which she is "far away" from the other person, because she wants to touch and kiss and be close while fucking. It all sounds really candy-romantic and shit, but it's just her way of being nasty. She says she "loves love" and she's a very romantic person, but her sexual desires are very healthy and, well, sexual!

PANDURITO said:

Obviously she's had a bad experience.

Someone must have told her something nasty bout her coochie's odour or something and now she's traumatized.

I doubt she'd ever smell bad. She's just the kind of women who would even look hot taking a dump in a nasty dead-end street somewhere in Bangkok.

Maybe she's just too proud and afraid this might happen. She's not insecure, but I find that she does want to be perceived as flawless (even though she does not hesitate pointing out her imperfections).

imago said:

She better love giving head, Dave, or else you should dump her like a Led Zeppelin.

Remember, the most important thing about relationships are trust and understanding. But those things can never be achieved, so being nasty and giving head are essential.

I feel ya, but the problem is, we're like a fucking chromosome; like Lovesexy and the Black Album, with the only difference that our desires do not complement each others when it comes to oral sex. I prefer licking and seeing a women get off rather than receiving head (I love the taste and I love the smell and I love the look and I love the feel, if said woman is "normally" clean). She prefers to give head and not to be licked. It's weird.

I might just fuck her in the ass

ufoclub said:

Does she complain that it only tickles?

My first thought was too that she may only be too sensitive and that the other losers did nothing but suck hard on the most sensitive part of the clit or lick the same place over and over, but no.

She did say that she doesn't like being licked in the same place all the time, but I guess that's normal (until just before the orgasm, at least).

She also said that she's very sensitive and that she usually comes in 3-4 minutes with vaginal intercourse (how the fuck am I going to get my fun?!), but I don't think it's her being sensitive down there that causes her animosity to receiving oral.

She really did make it sound as if she just wasn't into it that much. But I won't believe that for a second!

JoeTyler said:

sex is overrated, anyway

Once they cut off your balls, it probably is!

Serious said:

You are all really judgemental . People enjoy different things .

And I also prefer sexual intercourse to being licked...

ive always thought going down on a woman was a way of controling the situation emotionally and otherwise..... i prefer intercourse to the other bcos of the warmth/closeness. its exactlly why some men iknow prefer to going down - they dont want to get emotionally involved. also men only like to hear women cum bcos it makes them feel like theyve done a good job. to a man a woman's orgasm isn't her own its a trophy = bullshit! maybe thats why youre hung-up. if it wasnt an ego thing you'd do what she prefers.

Then just what is it about her pussy that she don't want you to "go down there" because those things she said, sound like excuses to me.

It's like reverse psychology, you always hear a woman (especially a Sista) say "if you ain't gonna lick the pussy, don't you even TRY to fuck me in the ass!" so I don't know... the fucked up thing is you said she was real experienced in sex but she rather suck your dick but not let you suck her pussy?

That's kinda hypocritical.

But I read from tons of men that they wouldn't go down so maybe they'll like that offer...

wavesofbliss said:

Serious said:

You are all really judgemental . People enjoy different things .

And I also prefer sexual intercourse to being licked...

ive always thought going down on a woman was a way of controling the situation emotionally and otherwise..... i prefer intercourse to the other bcos of the warmth/closeness. its exactlly why some men iknow prefer to going down - they dont want to get emotionally involved. also men only like to hear women cum bcos it makes them feel like theyve done a good job. to a man a woman's orgasm isn't her own its a trophy = bullshit! maybe thats why youre hung-up. if it wasnt an ego thing you'd do what she prefers.

Looks like you wanted to talk to me, not Serious.

I am by no means "hung-up" and this is certainly not an "ego thing". That's actually quite a superficial and cold way to look at sex.

I like licking a woman to orgasm, because it is the most comfortable and thrilling way for me to feel happy about making someone I care about feel good. It also feels great to fuck her while she comes, but that usually makes me so horny that I can hardly hold myself back and come myself without really being able to suck up the beauty of the female orgasm.

Plus, an orgasm is at least a 50/50 piece of work. The best man in the world would not be able to make a woman come if she doesn't feel like coming. Once you know that, all possibilities of even thinking about something like "ego" inside the bed just vanish.

And licking means someone is not emotionally involved while fucking automatically involves you emotionally? Which idiot from which Hollywood soap opera said this kind of bullshit? I think if you are emotionally involved with someone, you simply are, no matter what you do, even if you just walk around the city and talk to each other. If you aren't, you can fuck all you want, you won't feel any emotional involvement.

Timmy84 said:

Then just what is it about her pussy that she don't want you to "go down there" because those things she said, sound like excuses to me.

It's like reverse psychology, you always hear a woman (especially a Sista) say "if you ain't gonna lick the pussy, don't you even TRY to fuck me in the ass!" so I don't know... the fucked up thing is you said she was real experienced in sex but she rather suck your dick but not let you suck her pussy?

That's kinda hypocritical.

I don't know whether she has tried many different things (we haven't gone into detail that much as of yet), but she just had many sexual partners and probably knows her body well enough, at least.

BTW, she hasn't tried anal yet and doesn't really want to, either (which is normal, I guess, until she tries it once ), but the reasons she gave me sound like she's more afraid of not being "perfect" rather than of the pain or the image itself.

Yeah, maybe the whole thing does stem from some kind of pride and fear of not being "good enough".

Dave1992 said:

novabrkr said:

I don't really think that is too unusual. Many women have reservations about some aspects of sex that you might think are perfectly normal yourself. Many women don't even like to be entered from behind.

I just broke up with someone that didn't care too much about kissing. Sort of glad that it ended due to that reason alone.

Yeah, she also mentioned that she doesn't really like positions in which she is "far away" from the other person, because she wants to touch and kiss and be close while fucking. It all sounds really candy-romantic and shit, but it's just her way of being nasty. She says she "loves love" and she's a very romantic person, but her sexual desires are very healthy and, well, sexual!

That is why you take both hands, put them in his hair, grab tight and push them closer while licking you.

^ Nevermind I misread your comment. You're in favor of getting your pussy licked.

[Edited 7/7/12 8:11am]

but everyone does have their preferences when it comes to sex.

I have never ever met a man that did not like going down on a woman but friends of mine tell me they have lovers that won't do it.

That seems foreign to me too.

Shanti0608 said:

Dave1992 said:

Yeah, she also mentioned that she doesn't really like positions in which she is "far away" from the other person, because she wants to touch and kiss and be close while fucking. It all sounds really candy-romantic and shit, but it's just her way of being nasty. She says she "loves love" and she's a very romantic person, but her sexual desires are very healthy and, well, sexual!

That is why you take both hands, put them in his hair, grab tight and push them closer while licking you.

Just curious, does she like to pleasure herself?

Some time when women are not into having sexual alone time exploring, they are uncomfortable doing certain things.

I am old and get bored so I like to try new things.

More than likely hasn't had it done right(aka a bad experience)