I believe that some people are more quiet and not very outspoken during sex and still enjoy it. But I very much agree that I enjoy it a million times more when I can clearly see and hear how much my partner is overjoyed . In a way that is even more important to me than the actual act. It happened to me too that I lost all the excitement when my partner was too quiet. My boyfriend while he is a very sexual person was pretty quiet during sex in the beginning of our relationship and I taught him pretty quickly that I need to hear him more . He loves it that I am pretty loud in bed , so he has to understand that I enjoy that as well from my partner . With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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I spent a long time with someone believing that he couldn't do it properly. I knew the problem didn't lie with me because my previous partner was unbelievable. For years he didn't try because he believed I didn't like it - I don't know exactly what he was doing but it actually hurt so I always pushed him away. Then one day he stopped me from pushing me away and did it really well. Like mindblowingly well. Wtf! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I was rather talking about the theory that men who like licking women have "ego issues", because they only lick women and want to make them come to be able to feel proud of themselves. | |
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That's all I wanted to hear, man! | |
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Well, in your first post you were implying that there's something like a general rule that oral sex = not emotional and "proper sex" = emotional, which I simply didn't agree with...
If everything we do for each other in this world stems from ego issues, why would this then be relevant after all? It seemed like you were implying that there is a "better" way to lick a woman, or even a "better" way to show true affection (by simply not licking them at all), but now you are saying that every positive thought and every affection we might feel for other people is based on mere "ego issues". Alright then, sounds horrible, but if there's no way around it, why even discuss it? Isn't it better we do good things to each other because of "ego issues" than not do good things at all?
I am making a "big deal" out of it, because I am very interested in the human (and especially female) sexual psyche and because I care for this girl and because I would very much to show her that receiving oral sex can be wonderful (assuming her problem with it does stem from self-assuredness issues). | |
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Like I said, I may have licked many women to pleasure, but I am very much aware that it still wouldn't make me "better" or "worse" at licking or that this would make me a "better man" overall.
I am willing to take that chance because I am sure I would at least be very good at carrying out detailed orders. If she knows what exactly she wants, I am quite sure I would be able to provide it.
But just "go for it", "do my thing" and expect it will get her off? Nah, there's absolutely no guarantee for that and I'd never expect that. | |
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You were first to insult and talk shit, but whatever.
You still do not seem to understand a single word I'm saying. Let's just leave it at that. | |
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I didn't ask her, but I got a nice little whiff of her pussy when we were in my car making out and touching and she got really wet and it was a perfectly "normal" smell, just the kind I love. It was not obtrusive at all; I am sure not many other people would have noticed - I have a very sensitive nose. But I'm sure she doesn't smell bad. Plus, everything about her just screams hygiene. | |
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I never got as close as "wanting to lick her". We were just talking about it randomly.
She didn't have sex for quite a while. I trust her on that. And you can trust my judgement.
She is very sexual, but she's also extremely proud and would never sleep with someone she doesn't really really care about.
I never said I finger-fucked her. I only said she likes it because she told me she does!
Nice theory anyway.
Your last bit sounds reasonable, though. The problem is, I just can't fucking believe a woman would not like to be licked! | |
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Nope, she's not at all interested in sleeping with many men... [Edited 7/7/12 20:44pm] | |
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Maybe she means one of those Rick James licks | |
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Yeah, but even if she actually smells like roses, she might think otherwise. Either because if a bad experience in the past, or just because she's not really sure. I know both can happen. She could just need some gentle encouragement in that regard. | |
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Why not just respect her decision and keep it moving?
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Maybe she has a queefing problem?
Maybe she always has gas and doesnt wanna fart in your mouth?
Its perplexing thats for sure.. but maybe she just doesnt like it.. Nothing behind it, no sad stories of how someone broke her clit... she just would rather have sex.. ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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vagina fluff mailto:www.iDon'tThinkSo.com.Uranus | |
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Ex-Moderator | How old is she?
I ask as some (note I said some) younger women may act all sexual and may have had sex many times but haven't really enjoyed it fully yet. It's an insecurity thing. Women generally can't come until they're fully comfortable with themselves and their partner and for a lot of young women that's difficult. Going straight to the "regular" sex means it's over faster.
Or, as others have said, maybe it's just not her thing. |
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!! ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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"By the way, when were we in my car last week, I could smell your pussy! But don't worry, babe, the smell was lovely."
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What "decision" are you talking about and in what way am I being disrespectful?
We just talked about it in a general sense. She would let me lick her pussy, but I know that she's not that much into it. I wouldn't do anything to her she doesn't really enjoy. | |
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I don't know, but she said that her pussy was really tight and, based on my experience, I'd say that tight pussies are less likely to have a queefing problem than not-so-tight pussies. But that's also a plausible theory!
I simply can't imagine it's because anything's "wrong" with her. It just doesn't seem like her!
"sad stories of how someone broke her clit"
Well, that's the thing that seems so surreal: a woman who would "rather have sex" and doesn't like being licked. It's absolutely new to me. | |
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I think she's around my age (~20).
While I do agree with you and I often had the impression that she didn't have the opportunity to fully "let go" and simply enjoy herself yet, she doesn't have a problem with coming and making sex an exciting experience (I can tell by the way she moves when she kisses and touches me). Yet still I think that, in her mind, there may be a minor insecurity thing attached to it.
Another thing she mentioned was that she becomes extremely impatient when she's being licked and she'd rather feel the whole cock inside of her as quickly as possible, because she can't wait for it. While that's a very, very plausible argument, I still believe that this kind of impatience can be nice to play with, when people take time with foreplay etc... | |
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^ She sounds like a pimp: "fuck all that foreplay bitch fuck me! "
Am I wrong? | |
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Whats wrong with accepting some women just don't like it? I'm not particularly fnd of it myself. | |
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I just think Dave wants advice. He never came across this before and he said he respects her decision... but I think he himself wants to be sure on how to please his woman right because as he said, the woman is sexually experienced lol | |
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Timmy84 said:
I just think Dave wants advice. He never came across this before and he said he respects her decision... but I think he himself wants to be sure on how to please his woman right because as he said, the woman is sexually experienced lol Advice on what? How to make her like it? She's being open and honet with him and she has told him what she does like. This thread perplexes me. | |
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Do you know why you aren't? What about it doesn't feel good? | |
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No, I would simply like to find out what might causes a woman to dislike being licked, because I can't imagine the sheer physical sensation can feel bad (if done right). | |
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Dave1992 said:
Do you know why you aren't? What about it doesn't feel good? Of course I now why I'm not. :lol: It is a multitude of reasons Dave, mainly based on the mindset of the person doing it. | |
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Dave1992 said:
No, I would simply like to find out what might causes a woman to dislike being licked, because I can't imagine the sheer physical sensation can feel bad (if done right). | |
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