Stymie said:

Dave1992 said:

No, I would simply like to find out what might causes a woman to dislike being licked, because I can't imagine the sheer physical sensation can feel bad (if done right).

It's not about t feeling bad. It can be about a personal preference. I know men who don't like head.

Personal preference? Well d'oh...

We're trying to find out why this personal preference builds up!

Dave1992 said:

Stymie said:

Dave1992 said:

Personal preference? Well d'oh...

We're trying to find out why this personal preference builds up!

When I'm not typing on my iPad I'll give you all of my reasons. The main one as been the person had no idea wtf he was doing.

Well, but that doesn't mean you dislike being licked in a general sense, does it?

This really does seem to bother you.

Is it because you identify yourself being a good lover due to your willingness / ability to perform cunnilingus and when she doesn't seem to appreciate it you feel that something that sets you apart from many other males isn't at your disposal?

It's okay though. Maybe you should just start seeing someone else. I've allowed myself to walk out of potential relationships due to the women e.g. having questionable taste in music, clothes and so on. Women dump men for similar reasons all the time, so I think that's perfectly fine in the end.

novabrkr said:

This really does seem to bother you.

Is it because you identify yourself being a good lover due to your willingness / ability to perform cunnilingus and when she doesn't seem to appreciate it you feel that something that sets you apart from many other males isn't at your disposal?

It's okay though. Maybe you should just start seeing someone else. I've allowed myself to walk out of potential relationships due to the women e.g. having questionable taste in music, clothes and so on. Women dump men for similar reasons all the time, so I think that's perfectly fine in the end.

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novabrkr said:

This really does seem to bother you.

Is it because you identify yourself being a good lover due to your willingness / ability to perform cunnilingus and when she doesn't seem to appreciate it you feel that something that sets you apart from many other males isn't at your disposal?

It's okay though. Maybe you should just start seeing someone else. I've allowed myself to walk out of potential relationships due to the women e.g. having questionable taste in music, clothes and so on. Women dump men for similar reasons all the time, so I think that's perfectly fine in the end.

I about said that to him in my initial post ("run for the hills") but Dave seems determined to suck this woman's clit when she clearly told him "don't go down there!"

[Edited 7/8/12 11:05am]

novabrkr said:

This really does seem to bother you.

Is it because you identify yourself being a good lover due to your willingness / ability to perform cunnilingus and when she doesn't seem to appreciate it you feel that something that sets you apart from many other males isn't at your disposal?

It's okay though. Maybe you should just start seeing someone else. I've allowed myself to walk out of potential relationships due to the women e.g. having questionable taste in music, clothes and so on. Women dump men for similar reasons all the time, so I think that's perfectly fine in the end.

Nah, it doesn't bother me one bit.

I just like her as a friend and I know we could have lots of fun together and that this fun could be enhanced by everything concerning sex (including oral sex). So far, I just couldn't imagine that a woman would simply not want to be licked (because all women so far said that it's the best feeling ever) and I would really enjoy to try all different facets of sex with her.

This is no reason for me to stop seeing her. We're getting along well, we're spending a lot of time with each other and I know that we'd probably still have amazing sex (with or without cunnilingus). It's just something foreign to me and I wanted to know how this could be!

I have a lot of friends that I don´t have cunnilingus with and we also get along fine.

Sometimes I wonder though if the friendship could be enhanced if we had just a little, little bit of cunnilingus, you know, not too much, but just a little bit every now and then, just enough to enhance the friendship, deepen it, strengthen the bond, melt with each other spiritually....but I don´t know how my friends would feel about it....or their partners....or their husbands. I´ve had cunnilingus with some of them, don´t get me wrong, but it´s still bugging me that I haven´t had cunnilingus with ALL of them.

Last Friday I had a long chat with a colleague of mine,and while we were talking I was wondering if maybe a little bit of cunnilingus might help improve the work climate at our job. But I am just not sure.

Ever since I saw this thread, I keep thinking about cunnilingus all the time. Even at the supermarket when I do grocery shopping.

That word....cunnilingus. I´ve never written it this often in my entire life.

Cunnilingus.

Cunnilingus.

I´m gonna put her in my backseat....and drive her....to Tennessee.

Believe it or not, I could have performed some cunnilungus on a good friend of mine tonight but I chose not to because we´re both a bit too busy today, and it would´ve taken me at least half an hour to get there just to get my cunnilingus freak on. And it´s raining cats and dogs here, so I decided not to. Maybe tomorrow.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

How is this affecting your love making playlist?

Lemme lick you up and dowwwn

Timmy84 said:

novabrkr said:

This really does seem to bother you.

Is it because you identify yourself being a good lover due to your willingness / ability to perform cunnilingus and when she doesn't seem to appreciate it you feel that something that sets you apart from many other males isn't at your disposal?

It's okay though. Maybe you should just start seeing someone else. I've allowed myself to walk out of potential relationships due to the women e.g. having questionable taste in music, clothes and so on. Women dump men for similar reasons all the time, so I think that's perfectly fine in the end.

I about said that to him in my initial post ("run for the hills") but Dave seems determined to suck this woman's clit when she clearly told him "don't go down there!"

[Edited 7/8/12 11:05am]

Which is what I meant in my post by saying respect the girl's decision and keep it moving (with her, without her, whichever), but dude was tryta act brand new so I just left it at that.

Dave1992 said:

You were first to insult and talk shit, but whatever.

You still do not seem to understand a single word I'm saying. Let's just leave it at that.

I absolutely paid you no insults what so ever in my 1st post to you.

You took a defensive stance and interpreted my response as an insult when I was merely answering these two questions you posed...

"What do you think may be the reasons for her disliking being licked?

Does anyone here dislike it?"

I answered your question from MY personal point of view.

No insult to you at all. But in my personal experience...

If an man doesn't kiss me right, I won't let him touch me.

If a man can kiss me right and goes to touch me and does that wrong, I will absolutely NOT let him suck my pussy.

Never mind fuck the guy.

So this is why I answered you the way I did, again, from MY POV.

I am sorry you took my post as a personal insult to you. I wasn't insulting you at all. Just telling you why I don't like MY pussy sucked by certain guys who don't do thangs right.... from my honest point of view.

You said yourself she like oral and has done it before... and that you two got um.. pretty close.

That's the reason in my honest opinion as to why she is not interested in letting you lick her pussy.

You can either take what I wrote and learn from it or ignore it completely. It is your right to do what ever you want with the information I leave for you to read.

I understood your posts perfectly and I agree with novabrkr. You come off as if you care about this situation very much. You even seem quite over sensitive about the issue to allow my post to bother you to the point of seeing it as an insult.

Again, I am sorry.

I should have realized you would take this personally and may even feel emasculated by my post. I should have approached it differently.

Moving forward I hope she allows you to suck her pussy.

Ottensen said:

Timmy84 said:

I about said that to him in my initial post ("run for the hills") but Dave seems determined to suck this woman's clit when she clearly told him "don't go down there!"

[Edited 7/8/12 11:05am]

Which is what I meant in my post by saying respect the girl's decision and keep it moving (with her, without her, whichever), but dude was tryta act brand new so I just left it at that.

Yeah I mean if the girl said "no mas", she meant "no mas".

Stymie said:

Dave1992 said:

Personal preference? Well d'oh...

We're trying to find out why this personal preference builds up!

When I'm not typing on my iPad I'll give you all of my reasons. The main one as been the person had no idea wtf he was doing.

I've heard of this. I've also heard of the woman looking at the vajayjay suitor in question- and simply not wanting him to be the one with his hot ass breath on her coocoocachoo- so they tell a little white lie to tidy things up a bit. I've known some women to do this in order to let a dude down easy.

And also reading what he wrote about her, I think she feels personally that licking down there if she wants to get know a person is clearly not what she wants. She feels fucking is more emotional and personal than just inciting foreplay meaning if she is serious about a person, she wouldn't allow anyone to "go down there" with someone she may feel she "wants to know a little better". I mean not everyone is the same but in this instance, she probably feels close to you and maybe she feels oral sex at this state is not on the cards at the moment.

Stymie said:

Dave1992 said:

Personal preference? Well d'oh...

We're trying to find out why this personal preference builds up!

When I'm not typing on my iPad I'll give you all of my reasons. The main one as been the person had no idea wtf he was doing.

In a nutshell.

I love this reply!

paintedlady said:

Moving forward I hope she allows you to suck her pussy.

This thread needs an anthem.

But the thing you seem to be misunderstanding is that she has absolutely no personal problem with me licking her pussy (she'd let me do it, she just said that she doesn't really like it).

And apart from that, I am certain she's being honest with me when she says that I'm doing everything right and she loves kissing me etc. She even said she's a bit afraid she's gonna fall in love with me. So I seriously doubt there are personal reasons regarding me behind her not wanting to be licked (by anyone).

I said she likes active oral, which, from her point of view, means giving head. She doesn't like being licked period. No matter who does it.

What I took as an insult was your overzealous assumption that I wanted to lick her pussy and she simply wouldn't let me, which I have wrote several times is simply not the case.

What I also take as an insult is that you still seem to want to portray this situation as if it was my sole goal to lick her pussy. It is not. I want her to be happy and I know that I haven't done anything wrong and that her not wanting anyone to lick her doesn't stem from a personal problem she has with me. I'm merely interesting in how being licked (something all other women I have talked to about it described as something absolutely amazing) can be a turn-off to another woman. Again, this has nothing to do with me. She would let me lick her pussy in a second. I just wouldn't do it, because I know that, for some reason (which I would like to speculate about on here) she doesn't enjoy her pussy being licked (in a general sense!).

paintedlady said:

Dave1992 said:

I absolutely paid you no insults what so ever in my 1st post to you.

You took a defensive stance and interpreted my response as an insult when I was merely answering these two questions you posed...

"What do you think may be the reasons for her disliking being licked?

Does anyone here dislike it?"

I answered your question from MY personal point of view.

No insult to you at all. But in my personal experience...

If an man doesn't kiss me right, I won't let him touch me.

If a man can kiss me right and goes to touch me and does that wrong, I will absolutely NOT let him suck my pussy.

Never mind fuck the guy.

So this is why I answered you the way I did, again, from MY POV.

I am sorry you took my post as a personal insult to you. I wasn't insulting you at all. Just telling you why I don't like MY pussy sucked by certain guys who don't do thangs right.... from my honest point of view.

You said yourself she like oral and has done it before... and that you two got um.. pretty close.

That's the reason in my honest opinion as to why she is not interested in letting you lick her pussy.

You can either take what I wrote and learn from it or ignore it completely. It is your right to do what ever you want with the information I leave for you to read.

I understood your posts perfectly and I agree with novabrkr. You come off as if you care about this situation very much. You even seem quite over sensitive about the issue to allow my post to bother you to the point of seeing it as an insult.

Again, I am sorry.

I should have realized you would take this personally and may even feel emasculated by my post. I should have approached it differently.

Moving forward I hope she allows you to suck her pussy.

Ottensen said:

Timmy84 said:

I about said that to him in my initial post ("run for the hills") but Dave seems determined to suck this woman's clit when she clearly told him "don't go down there!"

[Edited 7/8/12 11:05am]

Which is what I meant in my post by saying respect the girl's decision and keep it moving (with her, without her, whichever), but dude was tryta act brand new so I just left it at that.

I am keeping it moving - with her, and all is well. It seems like it's rather you people who try to make a big deal out of me asking about how come a woman doesn't enjoy cunnilingus.

Again, this is nothing personal. Nothing between me and her. She likes me, I like her, I never asked her to let me lick her pussy, so she never refused, she said she'd let me do anything to her. She simply mentioned that she doesn't enjoy passive oral sex. All I'm doing is asking the org: "why do you think she doesn't?"

Timmy84 said:

Ottensen said:

Which is what I meant in my post by saying respect the girl's decision and keep it moving (with her, without her, whichever), but dude was tryta act brand new so I just left it at that.

Yeah I mean if the girl said "no mas", she meant "no mas".

Point is, for the hundredth time, she never even had to say "no mas". We were talking about being licked in a general sense. She didn't have to have any "fear" I might want to lick her. Apart from that, she would let me lick her if I wanted to.

Ottensen said:

Stymie said:

Dave1992 said: When I'm not typing on my iPad I'll give you all of my reasons. The main one as been the person had no idea wtf he was doing.

I've heard of this. I've also heard of the woman looking at the vajayjay suitor in question- and simply not wanting him to be the one with his hot ass breath on her coocoocachoo- so they tell a little white lie to tidy things up a bit. I've known some women to do this in order to let a dude down easy.

For the hundredth and first time, there was no need for her to tell any white lies. She's very much into me and I like her too. She was just being plain honest with me and said that she didn't enjoy passive oral sex overall.

Timmy84 said:

And also reading what he wrote about her, I think she feels personally that licking down there if she wants to get know a person is clearly not what she wants. She feels fucking is more emotional and personal than just inciting foreplay meaning if she is serious about a person, she wouldn't allow anyone to "go down there" with someone she may feel she "wants to know a little better". I mean not everyone is the same but in this instance, she probably feels close to you and maybe she feels oral sex at this state is not on the cards at the moment.

Nah. I think it's the other way round, somehow: she actually doesn't enjoy oral sex, but she would let me lick her nevertheless because she really likes me. But I'm not interested in doing something she doesn't enjoy, so I won't. At least until we (her and I) find out what it was that has made her dislike being licked so far so that we can work it out together.

OK...

She likes you to lick her but she don't enjoy oral sex?

I'm not getting it now...

[Edited 7/8/12 15:27pm]

Timmy84 said:

OK...

She likes you to lick her but she don't enjoy oral sex?

I'm not getting it now...

[Edited 7/8/12 15:27pm]

I haven't licked her yet, so I can't answer your question.

I said that she would let me lick her (contrary to what some people on here believe I said). She just mentioned that she doesn't like passive oral sex (=being licked).

I don't know... It just sounds to me that she don't want oral sex from you.

But you guys haven't fucked yet?

[Edited 7/8/12 15:56pm]

Timmy84 said:

I don't know... It just sounds to me that she don't want oral sex from you.

But you guys haven't fucked yet?

[Edited 7/8/12 15:56pm]

Did you talk to her? How does this sound like she doesn't want oral sex from me?

We're running circles here. She would let me do anything and she really likes me. Not regarding our personal relationship, she simply stated (in a normal conversation about sex) that she didn't enjoy being licked. What's not to understand about this?

No, I mentioned twice already that we did get very close and kiss and touch a lot, but nothing overtly sexual happened yet (although she did mention how she was looking forward to sleeping with me).

Timmy84 said:

I don't know... It just sounds to me that she don't want oral sex from you.

But you guys haven't fucked yet?

[Edited 7/8/12 15:56pm]

I also thought the same thing!

Dave mentioned otherwise, but I was simply going by his OP..... by reading his original post that Dave himself wrote... specifically the bolded parts.... (had to repeat a few points to hit home the whole changing up the story thingy about me misunderstanding what he wrote, which is the same thing other people are misunderstanding since he wrote what he wrote)

Dave1992 said:

We got quite close physically, but nothing too sexual went on yet and she actually said that I'm a very good kisser and that she can't wait to sleep with me, so I guess she's not lying to me because she doesn't want ME to lick her. She simply doesn't like to be licked.

She loves giving blowjobs, she loves being fingerfucked and she loves being fucked, of course. I asked her whether she ever had an orgasm with someone licking her, she said no. I mean, with all the women I've been with so far, one thing was the same (even though I'm a firm believer that no special "trick" works on every woman and that every woman embodies a new, unique sexual universe): They loved to be licked and that was the way they would come the quickest and easiest.

She says she does have both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and that she also has clitoral orgasms while being fucked (due to minor rubbing).

I asked her whether she was too sensitive down there, she said no.

I asked her whether she thought that a mouth should generally not touch a vagina, she said no (like I said, she loves active oral sex).

However, she once mentioned that everything about her private parts has to be perfect when someone gets close (as in clean shaven etc), so I thought that may be the problem. She may be afraid that someone might be put off by licking her pussy. I might ask her whether this possibility is true.

But so far she really seemed to genuinely just not want to be licked.

*smh*

Dude, we can't do nothing for you man...

I might as well just say it, you asked a personal question, and what you got wasn't exactly what you were looking for...

And yet it seems the other posts just go back and forth.

In the OP, you were saying that "it's obvious she don't wanna get licked" and then... I don't know, were you expecting people to make her change your mind?

I mean if she's so satisfied with herself and doesn't want you to go down on her poonani, maybe she don't want you to.

I don't know, you and her need to discuss this because it's obvious you're not getting an answer or did you post this because you're amazed someone didn't want you to go down?

Then again, ask a personal question, get 100 different answers. Go for what you know even if she's not with it.

Other than that, I'm done.

[Edited 7/8/12 16:20pm]

paintedlady said:

Timmy84 said:

I don't know... It just sounds to me that she don't want oral sex from you.

But you guys haven't fucked yet?

[Edited 7/8/12 15:56pm]

I also thought the same thing!

Dave mentioned otherwise, but I was simply going by his OP..... by reading his original post that Dave himself wrote... specifically the bolded parts.... (had to repeat a few points to hit home the whole changing up the story thingy about me misunderstanding what he wrote, which is the same thing other people are misunderstanding since he wrote what he wrote)

Dave1992 said:

We got quite close physically, but nothing too sexual went on yet and she actually said that I'm a very good kisser and that she can't wait to sleep with me, so I guess she's not lying to me because she doesn't want ME to lick her. She simply doesn't like to be licked.

She loves giving blowjobs, she loves being fingerfucked and she loves being fucked, of course. I asked her whether she ever had an orgasm with someone licking her, she said no. I mean, with all the women I've been with so far, one thing was the same (even though I'm a firm believer that no special "trick" works on every woman and that every woman embodies a new, unique sexual universe): They loved to be licked and that was the way they would come the quickest and easiest.

She says she does have both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and that she also has clitoral orgasms while being fucked (due to minor rubbing).

I asked her whether she was too sensitive down there, she said no.

I asked her whether she thought that a mouth should generally not touch a vagina, she said no (like I said, she loves active oral sex).

However, she once mentioned that everything about her private parts has to be perfect when someone gets close (as in clean shaven etc), so I thought that may be the problem. She may be afraid that someone might be put off by licking her pussy. I might ask her whether this possibility is true.

But so far she really seemed to genuinely just not want to be licked.

*I lied, I ain't done with this topic just yet* But I will answer by saying:

Yeah it's all there in text. The girl clearly said she wants her pussy to remain perfect and that anything interrupting it (oral sex or whatever) could fuck her up. Now that I read other posts, women not wanting men to go down on them does seem normal.

Joe was right: sex is overrated.

Cinny said:

How is this affecting your love making playlist?

Lemme lick you up and dowwwn

Oh cmon