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When does a relationship end for good? The whole hot mess with Deion Sanders and Pilar got some co-workers talking;
After all the public drama, there is no chance in hell that they could ever reconcile.
Is there a point where a relation that is souring "crosses a line" so that reconciliation is IMPOSSIBLE?
They say "never say never" but you have to agree that there has to be a point of no return for most people.
For me...it was the day she looked at me straight in the eyes, swore on her father, and still gave me a bold-faced LIE about where she was going. That was the line in the sand that was crossed. There can be no future with someone who you can no longer trust (or respect).
What about YOU?
What would be the last nail in the coffin for a dying relationship for YOU? By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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My relationships never ever end....EVER. | |
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Me and my mrs break up and get back together all the time I suppose once the loves gone then thats it but it hasnt happened yet. No problem can withstand the assault of sustained thinking! | |
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Perhaps NOBODY will agree with me, but for me it's over when, some months (perhaps even a whole year) after the physical breakup, you look back and think about the good times, but ALSO about the bad times, realizing that it was all worth it at THAT time, but NOT ANYMORE, so the chapter is OVER...time to find something new, and hopefully, better...
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It ends for good when you can no longer see yourself with that person, ever. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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when it's over... and everybody knows when that is i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT... STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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Well, I suppose in one case the relationship ends when the corpse of a once blushing bride is found in a bathtub with multiple stab wounds while still wearing the wedding dress.
http://www.suntimes.com/n...-call.html
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In my experience, the relationship ends for good when I tell the bitch not to let the door hit her fat ass on her way out. [Edited 5/16/12 22:33pm] | |
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Uhm...yeah well that definitely works.
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Come on people...there HAS to be SOMETHING that your mate/spouse/significant other could do that would make you walk out the door and never look back!
I mean...take Deion and Pilar...when the MF had his CHILDREN sign a police report against her; I think that's when the line was crossed. There can be NO hope of them EVER getting back together.
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For me, it was when I had to write very detailed email explaining to him why it was over.
Here's an excerpt:
Dear Ren,
Stop stalking me on the org and facebook. Look, just because I make animated gifs and photoshopped images of you does not mean I want to pursue a relationship with you. Isn't it bad enough that I support your lackluster and embarassing threads about men-in-high-heels, failed relationships, and orger makeover threads? And why does your avatar have Ewan Mcreggor and a Prince symbol combined in it anyways? !!! UGH!!!!! You org men are all the same.
I wish I could show you more, but it would just be to much for me to stomach.
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That PurpleJedi guy also has a picture of Ewan McGregor and a prince symbol.
What a Coincidence! | |
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Never?
They just get worse or start to stall. But you'll always have a relationship with every person you ever met. | |
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when the person u loved hurts u immensely and no matter how hard u try u just cant 4give them
and u suddenly know u r better off with out them in your life and u realize u can do sooooooooo much more better than being with a f'wit loser who only cared about him/her self!!!!!
that's when u know and that's also when u r ready to move on!!!!
[Edited 5/17/12 5:24am] mailto:www.iDon'tThinkSo.com.Uranus | |
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There isn't a fishslap animated gif substantial enough to express my disdain.
So I'm stealing one of your bricks.
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Not EVERY person you meet Dave. One of my biggest crushes was also one of my most dissapointing dates ever...and I got the "just want to be friends" speech the next day.
Haven't seen or spoken to her in over 20 years.
But to clarify, when I wrote "relationship" I meant to say "committed relationship" as in; boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other, fiancee, partner, spouse, etc.
Friends do not count in this particular thread...although we could probably start an interesting thread about whether or not exes can ever truly be "friends". By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Right... I've always had my difficulties putting those kind of labels on relationships. I know they exist and I know why they do, but I couldn't apply them myself. | |
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i had a woman cheat, then lie about it. the cheatin wasn't as much an issue as the lie and then she wanted to physicly act out when i expressed my desire to be alone that day. alot of things could have been rectified the cheatin, maybe the lie, BUT ALL THREE??? it was a trifecta of doom for her... i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT... STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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Concerning "romantic" relationships...
Its over when he no longer affects my mood. When he comes by and I no longer wonder if he's been thinking of me. I have moved on, I do not wish him any harm and have no desire to keep him in an active role in my daily life. I don't even miss him when I think of the good memories I shared with him. I don't even care of he's met someone new because it just doesn't matter. I only look forward to what is in front of me, and I think back with a prudent spirit of what being with him has taught me.
I learned I can not be friends with a babydaddy. If I share a child with a man I will and do eat crow (if I have to) and allow him to have a relationship with his child. My feelings are always besides the point when it comes to being a decent mom that allows a father to see his children.
Once the child is 18, only then can I allow my feelings to come first and it is up to the child to take hold of the reigns of his/her relationship with their father if him and I are not together.
I stay polite but I can not be too friendly for my own sanity and to make sure the relationship with father and child stays intact.
Children always complicate things.
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That's cool. Enjoy the uncommitted thing for as long as possible. Youth is to be enjoyed. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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A Trifecta Of Doom for Her
That is awesome man!
Can I borrow that phrase for my novel? By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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BUT...what if you still have feelings and that person still affects your mood (as much as you don't want it to) and they've crossed a line?
See...moving on and ending the relationship...to me...are separate issues. You can move on emotionally and THEN end the relationship, or end the relationship and THEN move on emotionally.
I of course understand that if there are children, there will ALWAYS be some sort of "relationship"...but the partnership is over & done with at some point.
What do you think?
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Apathy is the opposite of love, not hate. IMHO.
If an ex can still anger you or bother you upon sight that means you are NOT over them. They still affect your mood because you share feelings for that person. If children are involved THAT can be a big problem.
Now walk past a stranger you do not know... that person can not anger you or make you feel happy, they are just there, you don't know them. They are nothing to you so you feel nothing. You wish them no harm, nor are you happy if you see that stranger... you may not even notice their existence.
^^^ When your feelings of an ex no longer effect you, this is when you are OVER them. There is no feeling.... good or bad. You know them but there is no anger, pain, nor happiness associated with that person.
THAT is what I am talking about.
... and for YOUR sanity, get to that point ASAP if the babymomma is trifiling. Seriously.
I have TWO babydaddies.... and I worked hard to get to that point withy them both so they didn't hurt or lure me to do dumb stuff that would affect the kids.
Babydaddy of my 21year old son has ZERO contact with me outside of the courts. Babydaddy of my 11 and 9 yr. olds sees his kids and is welcomed in my home but only comes by bi-annually because I won't have sex with him nor allow him to move in.
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make it a title and give me 'honorable mention'
and thank you for askin
youtoocooledit [Edited 5/17/12 10:28am] i am KING BAD!!!
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That's how I feel about my ex from a year and some change ago. Don't really think about him at all. But the one before him, according to your theory, I guess I'm not over 100%. The site of him boils my blood, I hope he rots in hell. With that said, I don't know why I still share any type of feelings for that asshole. Sure there was history there, but it doesn't change the outcome of our failed relationship and the person that I finally saw him for. I couldn't imagine ever having another conversation with him ever. Attempting to have a friendship with him a couple of years after we officially broke up was definitely the WRONG move. Urgh. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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the opposite of hate, is INDIFFERENCE i am KING BAD!!!
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If my bf ever hit me we’d be done. Other than that, it’s tough to say until it happens.
He and I have been talking about living a long life together so we have these conversations from time to time where we go over “what if…?” scenarios and how we think we’d handle them. But those are based on how we would handle it and stay together, not what would be a deal breaker.
However, I HAVE told him if he ever were to cheat on me that means he’s decided it’s already over. There’s likely no coming back from it, so have some dignity and just end it with me first. Or talk to me. Or whatever. Let’s deal with it before it happens, not after. |
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I agree with you on that. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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