in my effort to be a better human bein

my last relationship ended when i told her "SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!"

now that may seem nothin to some people,

but in a relationship that is HEALTHY, this is

not acceptable behavior and esspeacially

where i am concerned...

for me it just digresses from there.

shut the fuck up

shut the fuck up bitch

bitch shut the fuck up

bitch whut are you doin

yo ho whut the fuck

and by this time i'm smokin weed

hangin at clubs, sellin dope,

and just bein even more of an

asshole than i am right now.

i said this to say that NOW in my life

i don't let things get to such extremes

if it's not healthy in the first 90 days

it's not gonna get healthy and i think

that's where people get into a trap

thinkin "it'll get better, we just need to

get to know one another" BULLSHIT

if it's not right, it may never get right.

KingBAD said:

in my effort to be a better human bein

my last relationship ended when i told her "SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!"

now that may seem nothin to some people,

but in a relationship that is HEALTHY, this is

not acceptable behavior and esspeacially

where i am concerned...

for me it just digresses from there.

shut the fuck up

shut the fuck up bitch

bitch shut the fuck up

bitch whut are you doin

yo ho whut the fuck

and by this time i'm smokin weed

hangin at clubs, sellin dope,

and just bein even more of an

asshole than i am right now.

i said this to say that NOW in my life

i don't let things get to such extremes

if it's not healthy in the first 90 days

it's not gonna get healthy and i think

that's where people get into a trap

thinkin "it'll get better, we just need to

get to know one another" BULLSHIT

if it's not right, it may never get right.

ooh! I agree 100%. I would never let a man talk to me that way. And I would be suspect if someone let me talk to them that way.

KingBAD said:

the opposite of hate, is INDIFFERENCE

Indifference is a hard place to come to and it takes much time depending on how DEEP you feel for someone.

It took me YEARS to get over the father of my younger two children man I was a mess! It wasn't so hard for my "first" love so I feel what you are saying MissFee.

... and I am with Carrie, hit me and its ova no matter how much IN LOVE I am with ya.

When both people find other partners and move the fuck on! Deion and Pilar are a hot mess but I see why they still sleep together. She's hot and he's rich and they have kids together. I don't know what Eddie's ex is thinking. Can she not do better than an ex-footballer/cheater/liar/water head?

it ends when someone's served with a restraining order

Things were over and done when the ex said "I don't think we should be together any more, I don't

love you and I don't think I'm happy with you."

The first part was enough, all together, never again. He's tried to get back together with me for YEARS,

he's cried, he's "changed," he's claimed that he still loves me...none of it has changed how I feel.

I can work through almost anything with someone who loves me and wants to be with me. I don't

have time to work with someone whose going to bitch out the min things get hard.

Visionnaire said:

In my experience, the relationship ends for good when I tell the bitch not to let the door hit her fat ass on her way out.
I find that that's usually a solid way to punctuate the period at the end of a sentence.

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And that's when you pull out the polaroids of that onion booty and jack off to them....

#Icallbullshitontheabovepost

paintedlady said:

KingBAD said:

the opposite of hate, is INDIFFERENCE

Indifference is a hard place to come to and it takes much time depending on how DEEP you feel for someone.

...hell yeah...

HotGritz said:

When both people find other partners and move the fuck on! Deion and Pilar are a hot mess but I see why they still sleep together. She's hot and he's rich and they have kids together. I don't know what Eddie's ex is thinking. Can she not do better than an ex-footballer/cheater/liar/water head?

XxAxX said:

it ends when someone's served with a restraining order

LadyCasanova said:

Things were over and done when the ex said "I don't think we should be together any more, I don't

love you and I don't think I'm happy with you."

The first part was enough, all together, never again. He's tried to get back together with me for YEARS,

he's cried, he's "changed," he's claimed that he still loves me...none of it has changed how I feel.

I can work through almost anything with someone who loves me and wants to be with me. I don't

have time to work with someone whose going to bitch out the min things get hard.

Well...the "not happy" and "need time apart" can be overcome...but "I don't love you" is the nail on the coffin, ain't it?

Dren5 said:

Visionnaire said:

In my experience, the relationship ends for good when I tell the bitch not to let the door hit her fat ass on her way out.
I find that that's usually a solid way to punctuate the period at the end of a sentence.

[Edited 5/16/12 22:33pm]

And that's when you pull out the polaroids of that onion booty and jack off to them....

#Icallbullshitontheabovepost

It ends when money is left on the nightstand.

PurpleJedi said:

Dren5 said:

And that's when you pull out the polaroids of that onion booty and jack off to them....

#Icallbullshitontheabovepost

kewlschool said:

It ends when money is left on the nightstand.

kewlschool said:

It ends when money is left on the nightstand.

it ends when the handcuffs weren't a part of the sex play

"IT ENDS WHEN I SAY SO BITCH!!!"

it ends when i start havin more fun bangin your mom

it ends when your 21 y/o daughter starts

showin up at the bedroom door nekkid and you say

"how can you look at my daughter nekkid?"

it ends when it ended so long ago

that the last time you talked usin more

than unisylablic sounds

was the last time you smiled

and you cannot remember either

it ends when someone comes home from work and surprise!!!! the locks have all been changed...

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Indifference is a hard place to come to and it takes much time depending on how DEEP you feel for someone.

...hell yeah...

We can be so stubborn when it comes to love and trying to force things right... we do it to ourselves.

Things will only get better once the grieving process is allowed to happen.

PurpleJedi said:

The whole hot mess with Deion Sanders and Pilar got some co-workers talking;

After all the public drama, there is no chance in hell that they could ever reconcile.

Is there a point where a relation that is souring "crosses a line" so that reconciliation is IMPOSSIBLE?

They say "never say never" but you have to agree that there has to be a point of no return for most people.

For me...it was the day she looked at me straight in the eyes, swore on her father, and still gave me a bold-faced LIE about where she was going. That was the line in the sand that was crossed. There can be no future with someone who you can no longer trust (or respect).

What about YOU?

What would be the last nail in the coffin for a dying relationship for YOU?

yeah, i would have to agree with you, when their is no longer any trust and the respect is gone, it is all over. in my past relationships that's what happened, i think if you can't trust the person than you should move on.

KingBAD said:

it ends when it ended so long ago

that the last time you talked usin more

than unisylablic sounds

was the last time you smiled

and you cannot remember either

Dude, that's deep.

You sober today or what?

XxAxX said:

it ends when someone comes home from work and surprise!!!! the locks have all been changed...

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...hell yeah...

We can be so stubborn when it comes to love and trying to force things right... we do it to ourselves.

Things will only get better once the grieving process is allowed to happen.

kimrachell said:

PurpleJedi said:

The whole hot mess with Deion Sanders and Pilar got some co-workers talking;

After all the public drama, there is no chance in hell that they could ever reconcile.

Is there a point where a relation that is souring "crosses a line" so that reconciliation is IMPOSSIBLE?

They say "never say never" but you have to agree that there has to be a point of no return for most people.

For me...it was the day she looked at me straight in the eyes, swore on her father, and still gave me a bold-faced LIE about where she was going. That was the line in the sand that was crossed. There can be no future with someone who you can no longer trust (or respect).

What about YOU?

What would be the last nail in the coffin for a dying relationship for YOU?

yeah, i would have to agree with you, when their is no longer any trust and the respect is gone, it is all over. in my past relationships that's what happened, i think if you can't trust the person than you should move on.

Absolutely.

Can a certain level of trust be regained??? I can't imagine so.

missfee said:

It ends for good when you can no longer see yourself with that person, ever.

It ended when I realized his addiction was not something I could control and he did not have to stop until "He" was ready. that could be next week, next year, ten years from now or never.

I could not wait any longer and no longer wanted his addiction to have a control over my finances. I did not want to hide my money from him etc.

MY moment.

I met a woman who complained about her alcoholic.

one day she told a story;

her daughter who was 10 got a ride home from daddy.

daughter had her candy bars from a fund raiser and the money she got from selling them thus far with her,

She got out of the truck when she got home and took the candy bars with her

she left the money in his truck

He stole her fundraiser money

I knew this was going to be my daughters story

She would have to be like me, hiding her money from daddy. i DID NOT WANT THAT FOR MY DAUGHTER.

( he had already taken her "State Quarters" that I started collecting before she wass even born and put in a special map that was made for them.)

Deadflow3r said:

missfee said:

It ends for good when you can no longer see yourself with that person, ever.

It ended when I realized his addiction was not something I could control and he did not have to stop until "He" was ready. that could be next week, next year, ten years from now or never.

I could not wait any longer and no longer wanted his addiction to have a control over my finances. I did not want to hide my money from him etc.

MY moment.

I met a woman who complained about her alcoholic.

one day she told a story;

her daughter who was 10 got a ride home from daddy.

daughter had her candy bars from a fund raiser and the money she got from selling them thus far with her,

She got out of the truck when she got home and took the candy bars with her

she left the money in his truck

He stole her fundraiser money

I knew this was going to be my daughters story

She would have to be like me, hiding her money from daddy. i DID NOT WANT THAT FOR MY DAUGHTER.

( he had already taken her "State Quarters" that I started collecting before she wass even born and put in a special map that was made for them.)

My goodness I'm glad you came to the conclusion that you had to come to in this situation.

missfee said:

Deadflow3r said:

It ended when I realized his addiction was not something I could control and he did not have to stop until "He" was ready. that could be next week, next year, ten years from now or never.

I could not wait any longer and no longer wanted his addiction to have a control over my finances. I did not want to hide my money from him etc.

MY moment.

I met a woman who complained about her alcoholic.

one day she told a story;

her daughter who was 10 got a ride home from daddy.

daughter had her candy bars from a fund raiser and the money she got from selling them thus far with her,

She got out of the truck when she got home and took the candy bars with her

she left the money in his truck

He stole her fundraiser money

I knew this was going to be my daughters story

She would have to be like me, hiding her money from daddy. i DID NOT WANT THAT FOR MY DAUGHTER.

( he had already taken her "State Quarters" that I started collecting before she wass even born and put in a special map that was made for them.)

My goodness I'm glad you came to the conclusion that you had to come to in this situation.

Never allow yourself to fantasize about what a person will be like once they "change". Most people do not seek to change themselves only their predicament (usually caused by their own choices).

Picture your love having the exact same flaws 5, 10 or more years from now. Can u live with that?

PurpleJedi said:

KingBAD said:

it ends when it ended so long ago

that the last time you talked usin more

than unisylablic sounds

was the last time you smiled

and you cannot remember either

Dude, that's deep.

You sober today or what?

ahole

i'm sober er'day

just not soberminded

I feel like it ends when you no longer are willing to invest the effort of holding your tongue because your partner has done/said some unforgivable stuff. If I am no longer caring about what I allow to pass over my lips, it is because I do not care about the person I am talking to.

In a relationship, trust is EVERYTHING to me. If a person lies to me, I assume that is the lie I know about--but my mind wonders how many other times I was lied to. If somebody makes me distrust them, I will feel like I need to keep an eye on them. I cannot invest that type of energy into checking in on somebody, so I will just walk away. If all of that is necessary, then the relationship isn't worth it.

I am also concerned about when somebody does something very hurtful and is aware of it. If a person would deliberately hurt me, they do not belong in my life. To deliberately hurt somebody you claim to love---whether emotionally or physically---one should not be capable of that. I do not care how many times they say sorry----being capable of that puts the nail in the coffin.

And if I start daydreaming about killing a mofo----I definitely need to end things........

I hope it will be when either I or he show unkindness toward each other.

heartbeatocean said:

I hope it will be when either I or he show unkindness toward each other.

that would be nice, huh?

i c edit

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