PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Again, this picture proves why I love the Org sooooooooooooo much, there's just ain't no snark like the Org snark!

For now, I am just taking the high road in all this mess. Kill them with kindness and ask around to other friends who might have single friends....another co-worker says she wants to set me up with a lawyer friend of hers....she said he's a really nice guy.

Have any of you dated a lawyer before? Would I be going from the frying pan into the fire? LOL

Ugh.

You want someone sensitive and caring, and interested in your feelings, and you're considering a lawyer?

Most lawyers are required to be huge liars if they're to be successful at their profession, and if they are successful it also means they're married to their job.

Have I known lawyers who were fun, nice people to be around?

Yes.

Would I ever date one (assuming I wasn't already married to my soulmate)?

Hell no.

Hahahah, thanks for taking shots at me (I actually love the Org because nobody sugarcoats stuff here). Yeah, I dunno, the lawyer presumably would have loads of money but yeah he'd never be around. Oh yeah, what if you fall in love and he wants to marry you, can you imagine trying to DIVORCE a lawyer when stuff goes foul? It would be a nightmare I would imagine. But, I dunno, I can't judge the guy on his profession, it's a blind date, so who knows what could happen.

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Ugh.

You want someone sensitive and caring, and interested in your feelings, and you're considering a lawyer?

Most lawyers are required to be huge liars if they're to be successful at their profession, and if they are successful it also means they're married to their job.

Have I known lawyers who were fun, nice people to be around?

Yes.

Would I ever date one (assuming I wasn't already married to my soulmate)?

Hell no.

Hahahah, thanks for taking shots at me (I actually love the Org because nobody sugarcoats stuff here). Yeah, I dunno, the lawyer presumably would have loads of money but yeah he'd never be around. Oh yeah, what if you fall in love and he wants to marry you, can you imagine trying to DIVORCE a lawyer when stuff goes foul? It would be a nightmare I would imagine. But, I dunno, I can't judge the guy on his profession, it's a blind date, so who knows what could happen.

1. I didn't take any shots at you in that post. Maybe at lawyers, but I didn't say anything disparaging towards you.

2. If "having loads of money" is a criterion for the person you'll fall in love with...my advice won't be useful to you.

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PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Again, this picture proves why I love the Org sooooooooooooo much, there's just ain't no snark like the Org snark!

For now, I am just taking the high road in all this mess. Kill them with kindness and ask around to other friends who might have single friends....another co-worker says she wants to set me up with a lawyer friend of hers....she said he's a really nice guy.

Have any of you dated a lawyer before? Would I be going from the frying pan into the fire? LOL

Ugh.

You want someone sensitive and caring, and interested in your feelings, and you're considering a lawyer?

Most lawyers are required to be huge liars if they're to be successful at their profession, and if they are successful it also means they're married to their job.

Have I known lawyers who were fun, nice people to be around?

Yes.

Would I ever date one (assuming I wasn't already married to my soulmate)?

Hell no.

Oh oh...

JustErin said:

PunkMistress said:

Ugh.

You want someone sensitive and caring, and interested in your feelings, and you're considering a lawyer?

Most lawyers are required to be huge liars if they're to be successful at their profession, and if they are successful it also means they're married to their job.

Have I known lawyers who were fun, nice people to be around?

Yes.

Would I ever date one (assuming I wasn't already married to my soulmate)?

Hell no.

Oh oh...

What?

I'm a lawyer-racist?

I'm starting shit?

I'm right?

I'm ignorant?

I'm gonna get sued?

dJJ said:

SeventeenDayze said:

DJJ:

Yes, I agree that he's the one stoking the flame and getting her to basically discredit me every single chance she gets. It's gotten a lot worse here lately to the point that even when I say stuff during meetings or whatever, she makes these faces like she's disgusted and starts whispering to people around her when I speak.Also yes, he made one comment about the other two girls getting along with him and I quickly gave him a piece of my mind about that and he never repeated that again...Yes, I've been an idiot and yes he's manipulative. Aside from like one or two emails we haven't talked much at all this past week since he saw me with the other guy.

As PurpleRighteous said, I get that he's like this but the other girl CONTINUES to talk so much nonsense and it's getting worse. If I've distanced myself from this guy and he's not being bothered by me as much, why is he still making this other girl do his bidding when it comes to trying to making me look bad. What's so messed up about this whole thing is that he's never said anything bad about the other two girls to me but seems to spend a lot of his energy in trying to make me look bad to them, now the other two girls hate me!

I also reminded him of how I've "had his back" in the past when other stuff went down and told him that I would sincerely hope he did the same if someone else ever did that to me...*crickets chirping*

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I'm sorry for the dissapointed you had to endure. It's wonderful to get into someone and when yo find out that in reality he's not at all what he displayed, it's tough.

I know I've been fierce about it, however, better be save then sorry.

This girl is not going to stop without an incentive to. And nobody but you will offer her that incentive.

I would talk to her. Invite her over for a coffee. Over coffee describe a few of these instances and how they affect you. Ask her if she realizes that she is doing it and if so, just listen to her about what she is saying about it.

Then tell her to stop that kind of behavior. Not in a dramatic way. Just in a neutral tone. Don't pose it as a question. Because you don't mean it as a question. Because, there is no room for different options. "I want you to stop influencing other people to judge me in a negative way" or something like that.

If you don't stop her yourself, nobody will.

Wish you the best adn succes with dealing with her!

Today after another round of emails, I got fed up and asked her to just forgive me for anything I've ever done or said and let's not hold a grudge. Her response, "I don't hate you but you just irritate me so there's no need for you to ask my forgiveness"...this chick is impossible and continues to email me.....Man, this girl is driving me nuts and the guy in question is still talking smack....omg, I thought high school ended a long time ago!

NVM

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SeventeenDayze said:

dJJ said:

I'm sorry for the dissapointed you had to endure. It's wonderful to get into someone and when yo find out that in reality he's not at all what he displayed, it's tough.

I know I've been fierce about it, however, better be save then sorry.

This girl is not going to stop without an incentive to. And nobody but you will offer her that incentive.

I would talk to her. Invite her over for a coffee. Over coffee describe a few of these instances and how they affect you. Ask her if she realizes that she is doing it and if so, just listen to her about what she is saying about it.

Then tell her to stop that kind of behavior. Not in a dramatic way. Just in a neutral tone. Don't pose it as a question. Because you don't mean it as a question. Because, there is no room for different options. "I want you to stop influencing other people to judge me in a negative way" or something like that.

If you don't stop her yourself, nobody will.

Wish you the best adn succes with dealing with her!

Today after another round of emails, I got fed up and asked her to just forgive me for anything I've ever done or said and let's not hold a grudge. Her response, "I don't hate you but you just irritate me so there's no need for you to ask my forgiveness"...this chick is impossible and continues to email me.....Man, this girl is driving me nuts and the guy in question is still talking smack....omg, I thought high school ended a long time ago!

Why did you ask her forgiveness? There was nothing you wanted her to forgive you for, right?

Just tell her to stop the emails. And that you don't mind her being irritated by your presence, however, that you don't want to receive any e-mail from her anymore if it is not work related.

Clear and direct communication is oftentimes more effective than beating around the bush.

You are dealing with the crowd very well, I have to say. You'r not letting yourself get played as much anymore.

Unfortunately high school behaviour does not end and it finds you later in life too, but you can't change other people, but you can decide how you respond to them and it will come with time. Djj's advice was good, I would try that and see what happens after.

Come up with a good plan, and quick. None of this is worth losing your jobs or your dignity.

I dunno what happened but for the past like two days or so, we've been emailing back and forth (about 100 emails). I dunno, hate to admit it but the sexual tension is still there and it's growing. I guess I'm an idiot but oh well, life is short, might as well enjoy a bit of fun before going back into the "serious mode" again....

SeventeenDayze said:

I dunno what happened but for the past like two days or so, we've been emailing back and forth (about 100 emails). I dunno, hate to admit it but the sexual tension is still there and it's growing. I guess I'm an idiot but oh well, life is short, might as well enjoy a bit of fun before going back into the "serious mode" again....

Okay, then.

Mark my words, your bit of fun is going to turn into pain and regret. The sexual tension is fun for now, but you've already demonstrated this person's capacity to hurt you. Which he will keep doing.

Learn for yourself, and I wish you happiness, but I think you're behaving like an idiot with no self respect.

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

I dunno what happened but for the past like two days or so, we've been emailing back and forth (about 100 emails). I dunno, hate to admit it but the sexual tension is still there and it's growing. I guess I'm an idiot but oh well, life is short, might as well enjoy a bit of fun before going back into the "serious mode" again....

Okay, then.

Mark my words, your bit of fun is going to turn into pain and regret. The sexual tension is fun for now, but you've already demonstrated this person's capacity to hurt you. Which he will keep doing.

Learn for yourself, and I wish you happiness, but I think you're behaving like an idiot with no self respect.

Agreed but if I'm laughing the whole time does it mean it's a bad thing? I first got angry, now I'm just writing back for entertainment at this point.

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Okay, then.

Mark my words, your bit of fun is going to turn into pain and regret. The sexual tension is fun for now, but you've already demonstrated this person's capacity to hurt you. Which he will keep doing.

Learn for yourself, and I wish you happiness, but I think you're behaving like an idiot with no self respect.

Agreed but if I'm laughing the whole time does it mean it's a bad thing? I first got angry, now I'm just writing back for entertainment at this point.

Your words scream LYING TO HERSELF but I could be wrong.

You want entertainment, turn on the TV.

PunkMistress said:

You want entertainment, turn on the TV.

Word.

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Agreed but if I'm laughing the whole time does it mean it's a bad thing? I first got angry, now I'm just writing back for entertainment at this point.

Your words scream LYING TO HERSELF but I could be wrong.

You want entertainment, turn on the TV.

No, actually, it IS entertaining because the exchanges are so ridiculous....we email each other from about 9am until about 1am every day, it's really ridiculous but hey you only live once. I have learned to laugh and enjoy this moment....when it ends it ends....can't worry about the future for now I guess....

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Your words scream LYING TO HERSELF but I could be wrong.

You want entertainment, turn on the TV.

No, actually, it IS entertaining because the exchanges are so ridiculous....we email each other from about 9am until about 1am every day, it's really ridiculous but hey you only live once. I have learned to laugh and enjoy this moment....when it ends it ends....can't worry about the future for now I guess....

Good luck with that.

I mean that sincerely.

I'll be damned if you don't want to kick his ass badly at the end, but the truth is, as much as you'll be mad at him, you'll be feeling even more rotten towards yourself subconsciously. And flirting IS addictive when you are getting attention for it back, take it from me