SeventeenDayze said:

Tremolina said:

That. You do not appear to be strong. Not here and probably not to him. But you have already fallen in love with him. He sees/feels that and (subconsciously) takes advantage of it.

I wrote "can't deal with that at all" because I was talking about how I cannot stand a heartbreak right now. Am I passing off as weak in this message? LOL. Who said I was in love with this dude?

It's obvious

Tremolina said:

SeventeenDayze said:

I wrote "can't deal with that at all" because I was talking about how I cannot stand a heartbreak right now. Am I passing off as weak in this message? LOL. Who said I was in love with this dude?

It's obvious

Ha, no way! NOT in love, LOL!

SeventeenDayze said:

Tremolina said:

It's obvious

Ha, no way! NOT in love, LOL!

"Right now, there's a dude that I'm catching feelings for (I'm trying NOT to like him but it keeps coming up anyway)"

Tremolina said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Ha, no way! NOT in love, LOL!

"Right now, there's a dude that I'm catching feelings for (I'm trying NOT to like him but it keeps coming up anyway)"

Ha, well, uh.....LOL. This doesn't mean that I'm in love with the guy, perhaps just being dumb. I really wish I could find more ways to get distracted. I guess I will go somewhere and read the dictionary now, LOL!

SeventeenDayze said:

Tremolina said:

"Right now, there's a dude that I'm catching feelings for (I'm trying NOT to like him but it keeps coming up anyway)"

Ha, well, uh.....LOL. This doesn't mean that I'm in love with the guy, perhaps just being dumb. I really wish I could find more ways to get distracted. I guess I will go somewhere and read the dictionary now, LOL!

Hard... when you are in love

Tremolina said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Ha, well, uh.....LOL. This doesn't mean that I'm in love with the guy, perhaps just being dumb. I really wish I could find more ways to get distracted. I guess I will go somewhere and read the dictionary now, LOL!

Hard... when you are in love

I've been trying to work more and read more books, etc. When I'm online and see that he's online too it's hard to resist chatting, so we end up chatting everyday. I feel like a pathetic junior high girl right about now lol

SeventeenDayze said:

ThreadBare said:

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said: I also agree you shouldn't get too bent out of shape over this guy. He sounds like he's all about attention and manipulation. That said, the point about men staying with women who make us feel "good" also applies to men who seriously invest in relationships and are looking to settle down. If it feels like we're the only ones doing the work, we'll leave. (Just sticking up for my species.) Hang in there

Yesterday, something happened at the last minute that upset him because it hadn't been done. Apparently, he asked a bunch of other people to help him get something done and it didn't happen. So, we're up chatting online for like 2 hours and he's basically complaining about how frustrated he is and how much he wants to quit, etc. I first told him that's what he gets for not asking me to help, then I helped him get the problem fixed. I dunno, perhaps I was stupid for helping him and maybe I wasn't....judging by what he was writing he seemed genuinely upset about a lot of things in general...

You're playing perfectly into what he wants....much like the other "birds" you claim are needy and desperate.

Not that I can blame you really. I probably couldn't do any better.

SeventeenDayze said:

Tremolina said:

Hard... when you are in love

I've been trying to work more and read more books, etc. When I'm online and see that he's online too it's hard to resist chatting, so we end up chatting everyday. I feel like a pathetic junior high girl right about now lol

lol you are trying because your instincts are telling you to stay away fom him, but your emotions are in control. That little story about you chatting with him for 2 hours and him getting "frustrated" and you offering your "help"... Do you really think that's what he is after?

JustErin said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yesterday, something happened at the last minute that upset him because it hadn't been done. Apparently, he asked a bunch of other people to help him get something done and it didn't happen. So, we're up chatting online for like 2 hours and he's basically complaining about how frustrated he is and how much he wants to quit, etc. I first told him that's what he gets for not asking me to help, then I helped him get the problem fixed. I dunno, perhaps I was stupid for helping him and maybe I wasn't....judging by what he was writing he seemed genuinely upset about a lot of things in general...

You're playing perfectly into what he wants....much like the other "birds" you claim are needy and desperate.

Not that I can blame you really. I probably couldn't do any better.

How am I playing into what he wants?

Yeah, it's tough because he's a sexy ass puerto rican dude lol

SeventeenDayze said:

ThreadBare said:

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said: I also agree you shouldn't get too bent out of shape over this guy. He sounds like he's all about attention and manipulation. That said, the point about men staying with women who make us feel "good" also applies to men who seriously invest in relationships and are looking to settle down. If it feels like we're the only ones doing the work, we'll leave. (Just sticking up for my species.) Hang in there

Yesterday, something happened at the last minute that upset him because it hadn't been done. Apparently, he asked a bunch of other people to help him get something done and it didn't happen. So, we're up chatting online for like 2 hours and he's basically complaining about how frustrated he is and how much he wants to quit, etc. I first told him that's what he gets for not asking me to help, then I helped him get the problem fixed. I dunno, perhaps I was stupid for helping him and maybe I wasn't....judging by what he was writing he seemed genuinely upset about a lot of things in general...

What do YOU get out of helping him? If u were in the same situation would he do the same for you?

lyecry said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yesterday, something happened at the last minute that upset him because it hadn't been done. Apparently, he asked a bunch of other people to help him get something done and it didn't happen. So, we're up chatting online for like 2 hours and he's basically complaining about how frustrated he is and how much he wants to quit, etc. I first told him that's what he gets for not asking me to help, then I helped him get the problem fixed. I dunno, perhaps I was stupid for helping him and maybe I wasn't....judging by what he was writing he seemed genuinely upset about a lot of things in general...

What do YOU get out of helping him? If u were in the same situation would he do the same for you?

Agreed and just to add more drama into the mix, I get an email from this other chick where she CC him on it talking about, "Oh he's asked me to submit the letter around the city blablabla... we drafted another letter and we're going to post it here, there, wherever"....yeah alright, dude's a drama queen and the chick is probably violent and/or neurotic...thank God I have a dog, this is stoop-id for reals, LOL!

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JustErin said:

All I see is people doing their job...and you in response creating these huge scenarios in your head, calling them drama queens and violent and neurotic. Um...

[Edited 11/24/11 17:07pm]

Tremolina said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Ha, well, uh.....LOL. This doesn't mean that I'm in love with the guy, perhaps just being dumb. I really wish I could find more ways to get distracted. I guess I will go somewhere and read the dictionary now, LOL!

Hard... when you are in love

Or deeply infatuated

angel345 said:

Tremolina said:

Hard... when you are in love

Or deeply infatuated

Just an update...just got off another long chat session....it's like everyday this dude and I are fighting about something. He's a serious drama queen/king it seems!

SeventeenDayze said:

angel345 said:

Or deeply infatuated

Just an update...just got off another long chat session....it's like everyday this dude and I are fighting about something. He's a serious drama queen/king it seems!

Keep your sanity. This too shall pass

Love is supposed to make you feel good, not bad. Fight everyday? Oh no However people have different perceptions on love

[Edited 11/24/11 20:52pm]

angel345 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Just an update...just got off another long chat session....it's like everyday this dude and I are fighting about something. He's a serious drama queen/king it seems!

Keep your sanity. This too shall pass

Well for most of the bickering, it's related to work. Then he teases me quite a bit with several of our inside jokes. But, for some reason tonight he wanted me to "guess how many women he's been with" and that really threw me for a loop. No, I did NOT respond with "guess how many men I been with" lol

SeventeenDayze said:

angel345 said:

Keep your sanity. This too shall pass

Well for most of the bickering, it's related to work. Then he teases me quite a bit with several of our inside jokes. But, for some reason tonight he wanted me to "guess how many women he's been with" and that really threw me for a loop. No, I did NOT respond with "guess how many men I been with" lol

Just be careful Manipulation at work, and he's trying to keep score.

angel345 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Well for most of the bickering, it's related to work. Then he teases me quite a bit with several of our inside jokes. But, for some reason tonight he wanted me to "guess how many women he's been with" and that really threw me for a loop. No, I did NOT respond with "guess how many men I been with" lol

Just be careful Manipulation at work, and he's trying to keep score.

Trying to keep score of what? LOL Hell, this dude is fine as hell and smart, I wouldn't even care if he convinced himself that what he's up to is actually working, LOL. I guess we're trying to use reverse psychology on one another at the same time....reverse-reverse-reverse psychology!

SeventeenDayze said:

angel345 said:

Just be careful Manipulation at work, and he's trying to keep score.

Trying to keep score of what? LOL Hell, this dude is fine as hell and smart, I wouldn't even care if he convinced himself that what he's up to is actually working, LOL. I guess we're trying to use reverse psychology on one another at the same time....reverse-reverse-reverse psychology!

You know, hit a home run with you? Papi Chulo sounds like a piece of work

angel345 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Trying to keep score of what? LOL Hell, this dude is fine as hell and smart, I wouldn't even care if he convinced himself that what he's up to is actually working, LOL. I guess we're trying to use reverse psychology on one another at the same time....reverse-reverse-reverse psychology!

You know, hit a home run with you? Papi Chulo sounds like a piece of work

Just when I thought he had logged off for the night, he came back again for like another hour....and then was like, "I'm not into you" and I was like, "Whatever, then why do you chat with me like this every night then, psycho" lol

Anybody here on the Org Puerto Rican? Is this normal for you guys to fight all the time??? Not even being racist just curious lol

SeventeenDayze said:

I wonder if there are some guys out there who prefer to have needy, desperate chicks who are always on their case or if they would rather have an independent woman who has her own opinions but is supportive of the guy. It seems like guys aren't really checkin' for real women anymore who have their own life. Why do the drama queens who are real high strung always seem to get the guy?

Men aren't any more all alike then women are.

Pay less attention to what drama queens want and get.

It is all about you.

What do you want?

Keep the focus on yourself and every time you find yourself distracted and caught up in how other woman are behaving or what they are getting refocus on yourself.

People who are trying to get you to look at other women's behavior, luck with men, etc are trying to get you're focus off of your wants and needs.

Remember, it is all about you. You don't need all the fish, just one good one. One good one that wants to talk your ear off about how wonderful you are and how he thinks it is a miracle he found you. Unless you are being paid to be a therapist, don't listen to gossip about other women. Your time is your money.

Hang up on clowns who waste your time bitching about other women.

A simple "What does this have to do with me?" or "Why are you telling me all this?" will get your point across.

BklynBabe said:

Amber Rose Kim Kardashian Hoopz Face it....it's the year of the heaux and Heaux be Winning!! Men want heaux.

Strange but true....seems like if you're not a heaux (lol at the spelling) then you're "weird" to a lot of guys. I remember a long time ago some cheap dude who didn't even bother shaving met up for coffee and within an hour basically said stuff offering to be um "on call" if I ever needed him...it was disgusting....

SeventeenDayze said:

angel345 said:

You know, hit a home run with you? Papi Chulo sounds like a piece of work

Just when I thought he had logged off for the night, he came back again for like another hour....and then was like, "I'm not into you" and I was like, "Whatever, then why do you chat with me like this every night then, psycho" lol

Anybody here on the Org Puerto Rican? Is this normal for you guys to fight all the time??? Not even being racist just curious lol

I am not Puerto Rican . Papi Chulo reminds of this cop in NYC, where I used to work at. He was a nice looking cop from Ecuador, but fine. They used to call him "Papi Chulo". When you said he was fine and Puerto Rican, it brought back memories

angel345 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Just when I thought he had logged off for the night, he came back again for like another hour....and then was like, "I'm not into you" and I was like, "Whatever, then why do you chat with me like this every night then, psycho" lol

Anybody here on the Org Puerto Rican? Is this normal for you guys to fight all the time??? Not even being racist just curious lol

I am not Puerto Rican . Papi Chulo reminds of this cop in NYC, where I used to work at. He was a nice looking cop from Ecuador, but fine. They used to call him "Papi Chulo". When you said he was fine and Puerto Rican, it brought back memories

Wow, a man in uniform with an accent? Whew, I wouldn't have been on my best behavior around dude at all But yeah it seems like the guy is dramatic about stuff and he enjoys the back and forth. Latin guys are pretty passionate? lol stereotypes notwithstanding

Men, stay away from chicks who are single moms, orphans, widows, homeless, divorced, disabled, etc... shall I go on?

In other words, there's always a bastard somewhere to call you desperate or drama queen.

SeventeenDayze said:

angel345 said:

I am not Puerto Rican . Papi Chulo reminds of this cop in NYC, where I used to work at. He was a nice looking cop from Ecuador, but fine. They used to call him "Papi Chulo". When you said he was fine and Puerto Rican, it brought back memories

Wow, a man in uniform with an accent? Whew, I wouldn't have been on my best behavior around dude at all But yeah it seems like the guy is dramatic about stuff and he enjoys the back and forth. Latin guys are pretty passionate? lol stereotypes notwithstanding

That seems to be the stereotype about Latin men, and there are predominately Puerto Ricans in the Bronx section of NYC. You must know by now this is where J-Lo is from. He's been here in America about all of his life. No accent. He was an absolute flirt, but he's married. A lot of us were infatuated with him He was messing with another female cop, who's also married. One day the husband(who is also a cop) came up to the command. It was an coldness about this dude, and I got bad vibes. I left for awhile, and came back because I've decided if this fool started shooting, I am out of the way Cops happened to have the highest divorce rate. Anyway, be careful with this guy of yours.