InternationalLover82 said:

I'm eighteen and I don't feel creeped out when older men look at me, as long as I don't get a creeoy vibe. it's all about the vibe

NDRU said:

InternationalLover82 said:

I'm eighteen and I don't feel creeped out when older men look at me, as long as I don't get a creeoy vibe. it's all about the vibe

Creepy* missspelled that

I think if you are 42 an looking at 16 - 24yr olds the chances are that most of them won't appreciate it too much .. I am sure that some will .. But its the norm to be attracted to your own age group or similar ........ I am 30 an I never really gave a shit about looking at girls or having an eye for the ladies as you put it ..An never gave a shit about women staring at me ... Sure if you see someone I am attracted to I look but usually If i am out an about I am too busy to stare too much ..But I been blessed to always have a beautiful gf .. an I am faithful ...an I know not to look or stare when im with her!!!! lol

you can hardly say anything to the opposite sex nowadays...all them fukkers wanna do is go to bed....yeesh!

When I was 18 I hated these old guys looking at me. Brrrrr. Just groced me out.

And I still hate it when somebody, obviously out of his league, checks me out. Feels like violation. It's rude. there is a term for it. rape-by-look.

Old guys checking out young girls, most of the time looks very sad.

I'm in my late 20's and as I get older age really dosen't matter to me as much as it once did...I just wanna find a decent guy within a resonable age bracket.....no Hugh Hefner shit.

I do get hit on by a lot of older guys though....I have a certain age group that I wont go over or under just yet...Not too young because the maturity level and stability in life thing is an issue for me...and not too old cause I can't be bothered with dudes struggling to get it up

I'll probably be a cougar though in my golden years.......so I'm respectful to my elders because that'll be me someday

NDRU said:

InternationalLover82 said:

I'm eighteen and I don't feel creeped out when older men look at me, as long as I don't get a creeoy vibe. it's all about the vibe

ZombieKitten said:

so I googled…

and wtf is THIS??? a cat?

The hell is that...a Chupacabra???

I love older men and I don't know as I get older the liking for them just grows stronger. I tend to lean towards guys in their 30's but further up is great too but when the age bracket start getting lower than that I don't really get that tingle I get when I think about an older guy slamming me up against a wall and not taking no for an answer. Don't get me wrong, I like younger guys too but I'm just not drawn to them.

ZombieKitten said:

so I googled…

and wtf is THIS??? a cat?

Yeah, they're incredibly ugly, aren't they? It's a tube monitor. People used to have those before flat screens became popular.

ZombieKitten said:

When I hit 30 I started finding younger women more attractive than before, hah. Yeah, sure. There's nothing really that odd about finding a younger woman attractive. Younger women often put more effort into their looks as well. They haven't gotten disillusioned / bored yet with the process of applying several layers of make-up on their face each morning and teetering around in four-five inch heels. I don't feel so much "guilty" looking at them as much as I feel just "stupid" about even considering dating them. That's not to say I haven't tried it out.

Most girls of that age just haven't had that much life experience and you're just asking for trouble if you're about to enter a relationship with someone that's about to enter her next identity crisis. Who knows, dating an older man might also aid pushing her into that. I've also found out that they'll often give the type of bullshit excuses for their whimsical behavior that no older women would even dare to try with a straight face.

Of course, there are a lot of younger women that are interested in a relationship with someone older. If you're over 30 yourself and you've already managed to establish a decent, stable lifestyle on your own they'll tend to like that. Hell, they might be impressed about you just having a place of your own. Guys of their own age often share an apartment with their friends or still live with their families.

If you want to be with a younger one 5-7 years might be a more reasonable age difference.

dJJ said:

And I still hate it when somebody, obviously out of his league, checks me out. Feels like violation. It's rude. there is a term for it. rape-by-look.

Harsh.

I tried googling "rape-by-look", but couldn't find anything.

I'm sorry, but that whole idea that simply looking at someone can be compared to rape is some of the worst bullshit that anyone has ever come up with. Unfortunately, it seems to have its origins in the academia. Of course, someone staring at you for a longer period of time can be intrusive by nature. It just gets pretty ugly when the idea of a "rape" is brought up when the other person simply isn't in your own "league".

novabrkr said:

I tried googling "rape-by-look", but couldn't find anything.

I'm sorry, but that whole idea that simply looking at someone can be compared to rape is some of the worst bullshit that anyone has ever come up with. Unfortunately, it seems to have its origins in the academia. Of course, someone staring at you for a longer period of time can be intrusive by nature. It just gets pretty ugly when the idea of a "rape" is brought up when the other person simply isn't in your own "league".

You have never been a natural beautiful girl, who has to endure these looks of man everywhere, all the time.

At one point I even shaved my head, just to try not to be attractive for men. So, I could walk around without getting constant looks, stares or all of these wrong vibes. It helped only a little.

You clearly have no idea what you are talking about. So, don't judge before you actually know and realize what effect that has.

Dress sexy as hell and go to a rough gaybar. That's how it is for a girl on the street.

dJJ said:

novabrkr said:

I tried googling "rape-by-look", but couldn't find anything.

I'm sorry, but that whole idea that simply looking at someone can be compared to rape is some of the worst bullshit that anyone has ever come up with. Unfortunately, it seems to have its origins in the academia. Of course, someone staring at you for a longer period of time can be intrusive by nature. It just gets pretty ugly when the idea of a "rape" is brought up when the other person simply isn't in your own "league".

You have never been a natural beautiful girl, who has to endure these looks of man everywhere, all the time.

At one point I even shaved my head, just to try not to be attractive for men. So, I could walk around without getting constant looks, stares or all of these wrong vibes. It helped only a little.

You clearly have no idea what you are talking about. So, don't judge before you actually know and realize what effect that has.

Dress sexy as hell and go to a rough gaybar. That's how it is for a girl on the street.

You're free to feel as insecure as you wish. Just don't compare people looking at you to rape.

novabrkr said:

dJJ said:

You have never been a natural beautiful girl, who has to endure these looks of man everywhere, all the time.

At one point I even shaved my head, just to try not to be attractive for men. So, I could walk around without getting constant looks, stares or all of these wrong vibes. It helped only a little.

You clearly have no idea what you are talking about. So, don't judge before you actually know and realize what effect that has.

Dress sexy as hell and go to a rough gaybar. That's how it is for a girl on the street.

You're free to feel as insecure as you wish. Just don't compare people looking at you to rape.

What makes you think that I'm insecure? And about what?

If you compare someone looking at you to rape it's hardly unreasonable to assume that you feel insecure about a lot of things. I can understand that a lot of women find it intrusive, but it's no excuse for comparing it to rape.

And no, I couldn't find a single instance of the term "rape-by-look" on the internet. Not even Urban Dictionary has it listed. I'm certainly familiar with the idea itself, but it doesn't seem to be a term itself.

novabrkr said:

I tried googling "rape-by-look", but couldn't find anything.

I'm sorry, but that whole idea that simply looking at someone can be compared to rape is some of the worst bullshit that anyone has ever come up with. Unfortunately, it seems to have its origins in the academia. Of course, someone staring at you for a longer period of time can be intrusive by nature. It just gets pretty ugly when the idea of a "rape" is brought up when the other person simply isn't in your own "league".

yes, when a cute guy does it it's flirting, when an ugly guy does it it's rape!

NDRU said:

Rape is a serious criminal offense.

Serious said:

NDRU said:

yes, when a cute guy does it it's flirting, when an ugly guy does it it's rape!

I guess it is hard for a man to understand as they are usually not in these situations, but we women are. And yes it may not be fair but of course for me it makes a difference if I consider the man attractive or not. Just like as it makes a difference if I want to have sex with somebody or somebody forces me to have sex. Of course rape is a very strong word and I might not have chosen it, but it is not a nice feeling at all to be approached by men you don't want to be approached by. It gives you the feeling that somebody crosses your personal boundaries, so in that way it could be compared to rape probably.

approached, or looked at?

I can imagine it's annoying though. I look at some girl, and look left & right to see a dozen men staring at her too

But as my mom says, at some point they all stop looking.

novabrkr said:

Rape is a serious criminal offense.

I think "rape by look" is just meant as an expression, like "undressing you with my eyes" Obviously it is not literally true.

But like verbal abuse, I can see how it might be a violation of sorts.

NDRU said:

sextonseven said:

dJJ said:

And I still hate it when somebody, obviously out of his league, checks me out. Feels like violation. It's rude. there is a term for it. rape-by-look.

Harsh.

Yeah, I have to say this is one of the most ridiculous statements I've read in a while. So many things wrong in 5 little sentences.

novabrkr said:

I tried googling "rape-by-look", but couldn't find anything.

I'm sorry, but that whole idea that simply looking at someone can be compared to rape is some of the worst bullshit that anyone has ever come up with. Unfortunately, it seems to have its origins in the academia. Of course, someone staring at you for a longer period of time can be intrusive by nature. It just gets pretty ugly when the idea of a "rape" is brought up when the other person simply isn't in your own "league".

I'm with you. Any victim of rape would take serious offense to this "rape-by-look" term.

Serious said:

NDRU said:

yes, when a cute guy does it it's flirting, when an ugly guy does it it's rape!

I guess it is hard for a man to understand as they are usually not in these situations, but we women are. And yes it may not be fair but of course for me it makes a difference if I consider the man attractive or not. Just like as it makes a difference if I want to have sex with somebody or somebody forces me to have sex. Of course rape is a very strong word and I might not have chosen it, but it is not a nice feeling at all to be approached by men you don't want to be approached by. It gives you the feeling that somebody crosses your personal boundaries, so in that way it could be compared to rape probably.

No.

JustErin said:

NDRU said:

novabrkr said:

Rape is a serious criminal offense.

I think "rape by look" is just meant as an expression, like "undressing you with my eyes" Obviously it is not literally true.

But like verbal abuse, I can see how it might be a violation of sorts.

Well, yes. You are right that it's not literally true. However, people can not be exempted from responsibility when they use expressions that are not literally true (or exaggerations). That word is just bound to evoke a lot of implications and using it in such a manner just doesn't benefit anyone. What you've quoted from me above was intended as a reply to Serious, though. Someone that you don't find attractive approaching you just cannot be compared to a rape. A lot of things in life aren't nice, but there are different manners to express the discomfort you may feel due to them.

For the most part I'd consider the original comment as just fairly typical internet nonsense that is popular especially with teenagers. It seems to be quite common to throw around the word "rape" quite carelessly these days (as in "raping" someone in an online game when you've won a match).

I get looks from older women and younger women all the time. And I dont care because they're just looking.

But if I catch myself looking at someone younger that means I probably didnt know that they were young, Girls these days look older than they are.