evenstar3 said:

Number23 said:

I tend to think of it rather missing the person I was when I was with them. We don a different duffelcoat with everyone we know, whether we're self-aware to realise it or not at the time. When we lose contact with someone - if they die or are currently estranged - that slice of you is dead (although it can be reanimated in a zombie-like state of delusion, but that's another story). No, a part of you dies there and then - the mourning process of this little taste of true death and eternal oblivion being the yearning and unfulfillment we experience when thinking of those we used to know. All cellular biological material is regenerated every seven or so years in the human body, so there is nothing physical in connection to me and the people in my past. The body and mind they knew - and I knew - is long gone. It's actually like we never met, if it wasn't for what we call memories, which are really just flickering ghosts of half-truths the brain projects on a forever fraying canvas of hope in a grand universal joke - honed by a billion or so years of evolution - to enhance the mental wellbeing of its host. I'm an auld romantic me, aye.

disagree! i like who i am now MUCH better than who i was in previous relationships. i miss/care about the person involved, not the mess i was at times during the relationships.

I don't think he was saying he liked who he was better back then, only that each relationship represents part of our lives, and that part of our lives is removed when we break up.

I can't imagine it was ALL bad for you with your exes.

NDRU said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I respect the role they played in taking myself higher in my spiritual evolution (living with the devil will do that) but it's a yes and no. I'm glad I don't have the same radical feelings for them I once did but I do wish them well.

I still see my first love, everyday, but we are more like brother and sister now. I see my childrens father everyday, im still shedding...

... ..and @ 23. Sorta like getting your credit repaired every seven years...no use catching feelings about it..just ride...

if you loved them that doesnt go away i guess...only your routine and feelings change and are re-directed. in such case your head has to overrule your heart... i guess.

evenstar3 said:

NDRU said:

I don't think he was saying he liked who he was better back then, only that each relationship represents part of our lives, and that part of our lives is removed when we break up.

I can't imagine it was ALL bad for you with your exes.

Oh true, that makes more sense. And no it definitely wasn't all bad, I didn't mean that at all, they were both mostly awesome.

there you go! feeling bad about those voids in your life now? That is what I am here for!

TheVoid said:

lilgraceslick313 said:

After Omar Hesham El-Sewefy

i cant bring the thought of even going back to men at all

they are just horrible and blecch

I have no fucking clue what you're getting at , but it sounds hilarious.

Anyways, I'm going through a girl-only phase right now.

i'm just saying if a guy lies to you about loving you for 2 damn years

and you alter your life around him and then one day he breaks up with you via stickynote

then you should have the ability to have at least 6 months to 2 years of torturing him

and ruining his life but dont kill him or anyone he loves

oooh you are going through a girl only phase too

that's mega yummy

i'm a newbie lesbian too

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..drug addict.

myfavorite said:

..drug addict.

??

Yes, in some way. Even those treated me badly. There are some good stories to tell and lessons learned.

DexMSR said:

I do....I care about their well-being but don't wish to have anything to do with it anymore if we are no longer amicable towards each other. If I ever told them I loved them....then that truly never goes away.

Just wait til one tries to cut your dick off...

I don't know about hate, but there's 1 I don't care to ever see again in this life or the next, and 1 I just don't want to know anything about -- like if he got married/had kids (I "wasted" over a decade of my life waiting for him to get his act together) or bought a house ('cause his ass still owes me $ ) --- though we don't talk, he has written me on Facebook to see how I'm doing when something bad happens (he knew death of a mutual friend and MJ's death hit me hard)

there's like 3 or 4 that I'm still in touch with, do consider friends -- but I don't hang with them in person or anything.. just online/rare phone calls; they flirt too much.. even the married ones..

Of course and always will

Through them I learned alot about myself. What I want, and do not want in my life.