I really don't know. I mean sometimes I say I love them, but how far would I really go to help them if they ever needed my help? That would be a good test. I guess how I feel about them is that gray area between loving and hating.

NDRU said:

retina said:

I still care about my exes a lot, yes, but at a distance. For some reason it's never worked out to stay in touch and become "friends".

yes, I have never been able to maintain normal friendships with any of them

i have only loved 3 men in my life

one was a arabic son of a bitch who decided after 2 years to tell he never loved me

one was a rapper who is trying to be a fbi agent and then a rapper ohh he still sucks

one was my friend alex who is one of the best people i know but i cant do it with him.

i loved all of them for just who they were

it wasnt about money or possessions

i thought with my heart and soul and not my mind

got my heart broken

it's impossible to love someone and expect to be friends with that person

it's just gonna backfire everytime you see that person is going on a date

or with someone else or just happy in general

you are gonna think that you should be that person with him or her

lilgraceslick313 said:

it's impossible to love someone and expect to be friends with that person

it's just gonna backfire everytime you see that person is going on a date

or with someone else or just happy in general

you are gonna think that you should be that person with him or her

I don't think OP was asking if you're still in love with your exes.

JowiiCoco said:

lilgraceslick313 said:

it's impossible to love someone and expect to be friends with that person

it's just gonna backfire everytime you see that person is going on a date

or with someone else or just happy in general

you are gonna think that you should be that person with him or her

I don't think OP was asking if you're still in love with your exes.

i'm actually still getting over the last one

so no i dont love all of my exes

that's drama that doesnt need to happen

No I really don't feel any love for my exes. There's a reason why they are an ex and I just leave it at that. No hard feelings or whatever, but I really don't think about them.

i'm kinda meh about everybody...

Catwoman is my Kryptonite

I truly "love" only one and we can't seem to stay the hell away from one another for too long. So er...yeah, we're going through one of our little "phases" right now. It's romantic and all but erm...not trying to steer it back to "commitment". Eh. He's probably my soulmate or something. I dunno. He's always the one chasing after me....and I uh...can't resist his cute face.

i was going to actually marry the last one

which would have been sad

now that i know the truth

i hate him cause you dont lie to someone for 2 years about loving them

and they actually believe it and alter their life to be centered around you

he felt no damn remorse and i hate him for it

and i'll tell any woman not to get involved with him or near him

The one I legitimately loved, I don't think about, I have ZERO feelings for him these days, mainly because I haven't seen him in years and hasn't moved in my social circles for going on 20 years.

The ones that are in my thoughts sometimes are the unfinished business exes.

no, of course not. The ones that I truly loved, I don't really think about nor keep tabs with.

I could say that I love them only in the sense that they're a human being like all others I've known..my feelings for them are no different than that a casual aquentaince I haven't spoken to in years. So, if by 'love' you mean have deep rooted affections or respect, then no. They could pass away and it would only be a momentary mourning, honestly--I've just moved on. I will admit that I have 2 old exes on one of my facebook accounts now, but I really don't want them there. I have no clue why I even accepted their invites. And other than a few polite email exchanges, we haven't even posted on our status updates. I haven't even checked their profiles in months.

So obviously the 'love' is superficial or no deeper that the 'humanly love' lip service I often give.

For some of them, I can say I don't love them at all merely because the person I thought I loved wasn't the actually person I was with. Sort of like watching a really good preview for a movie, then sitting through 2 hours of a WTF show. My task at this point is to not talk about how much the movie actually sucked, but it's often too much fun. I don't understand people who stay 'in love' on some level with their exes. But, then again--I don't believe in the 'one true love' . I think there are thousands (maybe millions) of people out there that are compatible with you and will make you feel that way and it's a matter of luck when you run into them.

I got my first boyfriend on facebook, but we have NOTHING in common any more, not a thing!

I've got only one psuedo-ex, and, yes, I still love him beneath a slew of conflicted feelings I have about him.

ZombieKitten said:

I got my first boyfriend on facebook, but we have NOTHING in common any more, not a thing!

One of my votes REPUBLICAN now.

REPUBLICAN

Lammastide said:

I've got only one psuedo-ex, and, yes, I still love him beneath a slew of conflicted feelings I have about him.

is a pseudo ex called that cause he was only a pseudo lover in the first place? (ie. unfinished business, undeclared feelings etc?)

TheVoid said:

ZombieKitten said:

I got my first boyfriend on facebook, but we have NOTHING in common any more, not a thing!

One of my votes REPUBLICAN now.

REPUBLICAN

do you mean Blake Kay?

ZombieKitten said:

TheVoid said:

One of my votes REPUBLICAN now.

REPUBLICAN

do you mean Blake Kay?

He's not even bi-sexual anymore, and we've NEVER hooked up. EVER.

I love Blake as a brother sometimes, and I found him wildly entertaining, but no.

Blake is wonderfully anyway liberal.

(I'm not laughing at you. I'm just laughing at the thought of Blake going Republican )

I still love my ex, he hurt me badly and that is why. Because I loved him and still do.

I told him so, he wants me back, but I refuse to go down that road again ever. I can not let myself be vulnerable to him again, he is too selfish to love me the same way. It would never work.

I had many exes (about 15 ), but I only still love one of them.

Right now I am just trying to figure things out with a current love interest I have, life is weird that way.

TheVoid said:

ZombieKitten said:

do you mean Blake Kay?

He's not even bi-sexual anymore, and we've NEVER hooked up. EVER.

I love Blake as a brother sometimes, and I found him wildly entertaining, but no.

Blake is wonderfully anyway liberal.

(I'm not laughing at you. I'm just laughing at the thought of Blake going Republican )

I thought twice before posting this, not because I thought he might be offended by the fact he hooked up with you but the republican thing

Lammastide said:

I've got only one psuedo-ex, and, yes, I still love him beneath a slew of conflicted feelings I have about him.

But how do you stay in love with somebody? I don't understand this. (I'm not putting it down in any way, as I know we are all wired differently). I'm just truly, honestly curious as to how those emotions can still be around as I assume you're in radically different worlds now and so much must have changed.

ZombieKitten said:

TheVoid said:

He's not even bi-sexual anymore, and we've NEVER hooked up. EVER.

I love Blake as a brother sometimes, and I found him wildly entertaining, but no.

Blake is wonderfully anyway liberal.

(I'm not laughing at you. I'm just laughing at the thought of Blake going Republican )

I thought twice before posting this, not because I thought he might be offended by the fact he hooked up with you but the republican thing

Blake is straight now anyways I think. I don't bother to ask--that's his business.

TheVoid said:

Lammastide said:

I've got only one psuedo-ex, and, yes, I still love him beneath a slew of conflicted feelings I have about him.

But how do you stay in love with somebody? I don't understand this. (I'm not putting it down in any way, as I know we are all wired differently). I'm just truly, honestly curious as to how those emotions can still be around as I assume you're in radically different worlds now and so much must have changed.

there is "in love" and love like family, I love loads of friends like family, and that could potentially extend to my exes, only that in my case it really doesn't

NDRU said:

I can't think of any exes that I hate. They are all still special to me.

Personally once I feel something for someone that will never change, even if I don't obsess about them anymore.

I expect to love them forever, what about you?

I plead the Fifth Amendment because my reply might incriminate me!

TheVoid said:

ZombieKitten said:

I thought twice before posting this, not because I thought he might be offended by the fact he hooked up with you but the republican thing

Blake is straight now anyways I think. I don't bother to ask--that's his business.

whatever

ZombieKitten said:

TheVoid said:

Blake is straight now anyways I think. I don't bother to ask--that's his business.

whatever

Back to the topic at hand. My exes are my exes for a reason. After Erik Torkells, I simply can't bring myself to think about the others.

TheVoid said:

ZombieKitten said:

whatever

Back to the topic at hand. My exes are my exes for a reason. After Erik Torkells, I simply can't bring myself to think about the others.

I heart Erik Torkells too <3

ZombieKitten said:

TheVoid said:

Back to the topic at hand. My exes are my exes for a reason. After Erik Torkells, I simply can't bring myself to think about the others.

I heart Erik Torkells too <3

I'm just trying to picture this poor man's face when he read that he had a 'ball rest chin'

TheVoid said:

ZombieKitten said:

I heart Erik Torkells too <3

I'm just trying to picture this poor man's face when he read that he had a 'ball rest chin'

he was more concerned about the dry mouth comment

no, not at all! it's rare that one of my exes even pops into my mind. however something that i really find odd is that every single one of them still trys to contact me, even after all these years have passed by, and some of them are married as well. i don't understand it? i have never tried to contact them, or want to live in the past, but they all want to know me now, and say they are sorry for what they did, and act like they would want me again now. i find this very strange! and i usually have to block them from my facebook, e-mail, etc....it's as if they are all stalkers now.

oh, probably. a couple were very important to me. i heard this song the other day randomly in a hotel lobby and it basically sums it up-