hokie said:

I had to put a he in there somewhere

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

amorbella said:

I've kissed a few though

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

But lots of gay men have. Either cause they weren't out and were trying to be straight when young or just for experimentation's sake. That doesn't mean they're straight.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You totally just called me a dude and I didn't even realize it!





I am most definitely a lady.




Yes ma'am!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

And there we have it.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

that's what I thought...

amorbella said:

Look, I know you're hot so I won't try and pry him away from you. So, how about we share him?

Lammastide said:

I continue to be in awe of you, sir.

hokie said:

Okay,

I can share, but just ONCE!!!

Lammastide said:

You're gay.

Imago said:

Gay as...


Although the idea of "thirsty Os" makes me uncomfortable.

Imago said:

You're avatar is awesome!

I love it!

Oh, and so are you. Gay I mean.

Lammastide said:

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subliminal pornography

hokie said:

Short answer... No.


Having a one-time same sex sexual encounter doesn't make you gay
any more than standing in the garage makes you a car.

Being gay is about which sex you are sexually attracted to, not necessarily
who you happen to sleep with (though of course the two things normally
go hand in hand). There's plenty of married man who are really 'gay', but
don't act on it (usually for religious or cultural reasons) and there's
plenty of 'gay' pornstars who are actually straight.

People can and should decide themselves whether they're gay or not, no matter what they have done or what they haven't and how often. This might be an extreme of an example, but: Hermann Göring once said: "Wer Jude ist, bestimme ich!", which means "I decide who is jewish and who is not!". Sounds awfully wrong, doesn't it? There were many "jewish" people back then in Austria and Germany who didn't even identify with the religion at all, but still had to either leave the country or die.

Therefore I think it would be quite wrong (maybe not as wrong as my example, but it just is what it is: an example) to call someone homosexual, before they don't call themselves homosexual. And they could have fucked all the men in the whole wide world and still be straight. There you have my answer.

Not at all. More times than not, it's in the "first time" that you get to see if you like it or not and once you know what's up, you make the choice to go in that direction. I'm gay and I messed around with one girl once. It didn't make me straight doing that, it just confirmed to me who I really was, a gay man. The same thing happens with guys or girls having sex or some kind of sexual contact with someone of the same sex. If that person does it more than once with the same sex, THEN, we can see if the person is gay or even bi. That's just me with it.

Dave1992 said:

Being gay doesn't define someone to me, what I mean by that is even though one is gay I have the same respect for you as I'd have a straight guy or woman.

I see the point you're making, however if someone wishes to sleep with 20+ men and still doesn''t identify himself as gay or homosexual, that''s an issue too, then did the person acted out of lust and nothing else? So would they be seen as a sleep around rather than someone that's attracted to men? To me you can't sleep with such an amount without being gay. and again personally not even with one but many tend to disgaree with that.

There is also taking pride in who you are.

Of course there's an issue of still not being fully accepted in society and that's why many choose to pretend they're straight. I think vainandy made some good points also.

Honesty with yourself is the most important I feel.

purplecam said:

Exceptions are there, my point being I never had any attraction to a man. Maybe to some their preferences are more clear early on. I understand that too.

I think that both men and women can experiment and then if they decide that isnt for them , just put it down to experience , dont make you gay

GAY is a label, so no, but it means you can happily accept a man's willy in your hand, mouth, or bottom, so you're not 100% hetero. nothing wrong with that. personally, having any contact with another man would be like rimming an 80 year old gorilla, but each to their own.

NMuzakNSoul said:

That's what so interesting about sex. It's an individual thing. What works for you may not work for me and vice versa but as long as we respect each other and we live and let live, we'll be fine and the world can keep on spinning round and round.

I also should have stated that some people may need to do it with whoever twice or however many times before they are settled into who knowing who they are. IMHO, if there is a 2nd try, you should definately know what's up after that 2nd time is over, BUT again, that's just me talking and I could be wrong. Like I said before, it hits us differently because we are all different.
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TitWankSymphonyInGMINOR said:

So does that mean you tried it if you can describe how it would be like.

purplecam said:

I appreciate that post and well said. Respect is key with everything.

Dave1992 said:

excellent example and wise beyond your years

emm said:

Dave definitely a smart dude. Interesting debate.

Dave1992 said:

Your last paragraph was me for a while.
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And it most importantly takes pride in the openly gay men that are sleeping with these type of men. Why would any self respecting gay man sleep with and put up with the type of man that says "I ain't no fag but I do like getting my dick sucked" or "a mouth is mouth no matter who's mouth it is, a man or a woman's, it all feels the same but that don't mean that I'm a fag just because I let a fucking faggot suck my dick". And why do we give a man the type of day when we have previously seen that man with a group of other men bashing gay men in public but then we later see him circling the club in his car looking for one of us to suck his dick. Why do we put up with this shit but many of us do and it's not right at all.

Yeah, wouldn't we all just love to engage in any pleasure we want and never have to feel the pain of prejudice and discrimination that goes along with it. I'd be fine with the motherfuckers if they were just strictly in the closet but I be damned if I'm going to put up with the type of motherfucker that will bash us and we, like damn fools, are giving him pleasure. I be damn! If anything, I'd like to give the son of a bitch some pain for his actions, not some damn pleasure.

For those men who's attitude is...."Just because I let a damn faggot suck my dick don't mean that I'm a fag myself. I love me some pussy"....I ask them this question all the damn time.....

"I notice that you brag about all the women you sleep with to all your so-called straight male friends. If getting your dick sucked by another guy doesn't make you gay just because you like some pussy, then why aren't you bragging on all your male conquests also? Why? Because you know that those men will call you a faggot just like they call me one but the difference is, I'm strong enough to handle it and you aren't."

That usually shuts their mouth real quick plus I used to let them know that if I ever see them somewhere in public, I'll bust their ass out quicker than a heartbeat and we'll just see if the straight world thinks they are straight after I get through telling about them getting their dick sucked. It's all about pride and not letting anyone think they are better than you because a gay man is equal and isn't beneath no one.
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

No! to the question on the thread title! but if u enjoyed it and want more, it makes you BI