Men have feelings too.

If men were not created to cry then they would not be able to have tears and cry.

I hate it when I hear parents say to their boys - don't cry, boys don't cry.

Imago said:

What a contradiction in terms. I've known men who've been in therapy for years or who are so fucked up because they craved their fathers approval,affection, or any signs of emotions/vulnerability.

I don't have an issue with men crying in front of me, I don't think less of them if they do. It's been my experience whether they've been clients, colleagues, close friends or my husband when men cry in front of me... they have been deeply touched or have been hurt. There is a big difference between candy ass whiner and being filled with emotion.

I feel sorry for men, life is too short and stressful to constantly keep up a mask a facade of invisibility or cool indifference. Instead of being honest those emotions usually come out in the form of anger..... temper tantrums, or going "Postal".

As far as my better half we protect each other; if he can't keep it real with me, felt he didn't have my shoulder to cry own, nor my empathy then why would we want to be with each other? (IMHO)

luv4u said:

Can you please approve my avvie? I'll cry if you don't.

luv4u said:

I agree. Hopefully any man who cries to their significant other does not have a partner that would hold those feelings against him.

Vendetta1 said:

I agree, so long as he's not a bitch about crying.

Imago said:

I am going to kill you Dan.

Imago said:

well wasn't this thread a refreshing diversion... sure as hell beats watching iCarly with my kids...

for the record... I cry all the time... it's like my eyeballs have sprung a leak...

TD3 said:

Exactly.

Let's see... since I was about age 12 only two people have seen me cry: someone I was dated and my wife, both only once and both years and years ago. I do cry, just not in front of people. I'm not particularly proud about it, but I need to be completely spiritually bled for that to happen.

At the same time, I am quite sympathetic to other men crying if I sense they are earnestly moved or shaken. (And on some men the occasion of vulnerability can be downright attractive.) But if I sense melodrama, manipulation or theatrics -- or if, as TD3 put it, a guy is known always to be a "candy *ss whiner" -- I find it a challenge to maintain much sympathy.
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RenHoek said:

I'm more touched when men cry than women. Like, it's more likely to make me cry too. Just because most men I've known don't cry that easily, so it's a big deal.

I don't NEED a guy to cry. But fuck, I love men, and it pisses me off that our society often doesn't want them to be whole, emotional creatures. So when they feel like they can be, at least with me, I'm glad. However that's expressed.

I do need them to be ok with the fact that I'm a crier. I cry all the damn time. Not over burnt toast and dumb shit like that, but over movies and songs and having my heart repeatedly broken and that kind of thing.

Not at the drop of a hat, but if it's something major, a death of a loved one, the prospect of financial or social ruin, etc., that shit is warranted...and when it gets too rough and you need somewhere to rest, you just come right over here and lay your head right upon my breast while I hold you. Whatever it is, we'll figure it out.Crying is only the first of many healthy steps to exercise whatever it is that's tormenting your mind, with its' claws dug into your back


This is my usual 'go to' song if I've had to help a significant other through some tears. After a good consolation, it tends to lull them right to sleep


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The men will cry, all right.

Imago said:

"your drunk come on yes i know you do.come on lets go lol"
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da hell's up wit da dog???? squat mufukka!!??

myfavorite said:

nurse, myfavorite has been on the computer past her allotted time again!

.....:sleep:

myfavorite said:

Tell him to give you some of his stash!

come do me....put that knock-out punch on me.....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Only time I really cried was when my mother passed away. Other than that, no. I try to keep everything in control. Guess I'm old-fashioned.

myfavorite said:

what and the hell are you talking about?!?

JerseyKRS said:

she wants to cry!

none of you really know how to answer a simple question.

Imago said:

heybaby said:

Imago said:

My father's never cried in front of me. I've cried to my wife before. I have a friend here who lately has cried every time Mon and I have been to see him because he's going through some taxing times. He's cried in front of me on many occasions in the past too and I've had to comfort him. I don't feel uncomfortable with it since he's like a brother to me. A messed up brother who needs a lot of love and always seems to make difficulties for himself. I've never cried in front of him though, but then I've never been around him when a situation made me want to cry.