1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it?

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him?

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money?
[Edited 1/8/09 17:52pm]

mmmmm mm money

1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?

YES

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it?

YES

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him?

NO

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money?

BRING IT

pplrain said:

1. Done that.

2. I'd actually like that very much, though I am uncertain that scenario would ever present itself.

3. I think when anyone enters a relationship, they give up a significant amount of independence and trade it in for a significant amount of co-dependence. Would I give up my career? As it stands now, sure. I wouldn't give up my goals, dreams or ambitions, though. If my career were 100% what I wanted it to be, I'd rather share the benefits of it with him than be told to walk away from it.

4. What?
[Edited 1/6/09 17:22pm]

Anxiety said:

What?

1. When I was engaged, my EX- applied for a job in CA (w/o discussing it with me 1st)- we live in NJ. When I told him if he was going to do that, I needed notice so that I could write to Dept. of Ed. in other states to find out what the requirements were to get teaching certification in those states. He called me SELFISH and said that I was only worrying about "my little teaching job".
So, it really needs to be a mutual decision- not one of us making the other person uproot FOR the other.

2. No. Not to put down stay-at-home Moms, but I have not been in school since 1985 so I could stay home.

3. No. I've learned that if things don't work out, U need to have your own assets to move on.

4.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Aww that is sweet....

pplrain said:

I've done 2 & 3 already

I think he needs to bribe me with money though, love alone isn't enough and I'd move somewhere else in a jiffy as long as it was somewhere nice and warm.

pplrain said:

...this depends on how happy my partner is keeping me

thekidsgirl said:

I keep forgetting I'm a pleaser

thekidsgirl said:

I like YOUR answer!

chocolate1 said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You can't uphaul your life for any ole bum!

thekidsgirl said:

So let's review my original answer to #1... notice "EX" is in bold...

1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him? state maybe, country probably not

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? in a heartbeat, im at my absolute best with my kids...im actually trying to decide if i want to do this or not right now

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? somewhat, i need some independence

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? pfft lol better be a ton of it and he better damn be old hehehe seriously, im not the type to be bribed

chocolate1 said:

you saved yourself the effort of moving!

pplrain said:

1. yes
2. yes
3. yes
4. no need. But sure, I'll take the money.

pplrain said:

He wouldn't have 2.

why would my significant other bribe me? if what's mine is his and what's his is mine and all that crap, then what could he possibly give me that i don't already have or vice versa? i need a scenario.

Anxiety said:

Sometimes that is not always the case, property acquired prior to the marriage is not necessarily held jointly.

pplrain said:

well, there's legality and then there's what you want to share with your partner. if my significant other tried to bribe me, i'd be like "oh yeah? what are you gonna pay the electric bill with then?"

I am surprized most of you guys are so willing to say yes, I am currently fighting my husband tooth and nail on all these points. He wants me to move to the country and I am a city girl with a career.

1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
Depends on where it is (I couldn't live in antarctica or utah, for example), but within reason, yes.

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it?
hmmmm... If it made sense, maybe. I'd probably prefer him to stay home if one of us were to give up working, though. I'm not sure I'd be a good stay at home mom.

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him?
You have to give up SOME of your independence if you're going to live with someone. But whoever I shack up with is going to have to realize I'm a pretty independent lady and I'm getting old and set in my ways. I need lots of alone and me time. I'd expect they want the same.
As for my career, I don't have my dream job, so moving into something else would be fine with me. But I'm not sure why I'd have to give it up for anyone. Other than the moving scenario, in which case I'm perfectly happy to take a break to work out any logistics necessary. I don't know I'd ever really give up working, though, unless we were married with a healthy pre-nup stating I'd be taken care of should we ever be divorced. In this day and age you can't be too careful and I don't want to have to try to enter the workforce after years and years of not working. A girl's got to be able to take care of herself.

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money?
I guess that's where the pre-nup comes in. But it's not about a "bribe", just my own ability to take care of myself should I suddenly lose the income.

1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him? No

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? No

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? No

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? That would be tempting but no because giving up what makes me happy and makes me 'me' would make me miserable

pplrain said:

I certainly don't think he should expect you to do it for him

What ever happens happens

ZombieKitten said:

He does want me to do it.
[Edited 1/6/09 20:05pm]

1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him? No and i told him so when his company asked him to 6 months ago for double they pay - BUT I told him he could go if he desired

2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? No - though I did choose to do that for myself and my children

3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? No and he would never ask me to

4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? Nadda - I have my own $

JustErin said:

I don't think there is a set amount of money he can give me to give up my career or earning potential. It is definitely not about money but me being happy doing what I love to do.