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Printablepplrain said: JustErin said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him? No
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? No 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? No 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? That would be tempting but no because giving up what makes me happy and makes me 'me' would make me miserable I don't think there is a set amount of money he can give me to give up my career or earning potential. It is definitely not about money but me being happy doing what I love to do. Ya, that was my point really. I won't do anything for anyone just because they ask me to. | |
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An unequivocal "yes" to all of the above. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Genesia said: An unequivocal "yes" to all of the above. I'd say "yes" to your sweetie, too.  | |
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1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him? Yes
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? Yes 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? I would never give up my indepedence. 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? No | |
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pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] 1. Very possibly. 2. No 3. No 4. I don't have to worry about that.  What am I being bribed for? | |
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pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] 1. he did it for me. 2.he did it for me. 3.he did it for me. 4. has not done that, though... but I would do all of these for him too, so I guess that is what makes us work.. and we have no money to bribe each other with | |
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ArielB said: pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] 1. yes 2. yes 3. yes 4. no need. But sure, I'll take the money. One word honey.... Prenup! | |
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hokie said: ArielB said: 1. yes 2. yes 3. yes 4. no need. But sure, I'll take the money. One word honey.... Prenup! Four words, my love - show me the money! | |
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ArielB said: hokie said: One word honey.... Prenup! Four words, my love - show me the money! You don't get any money in this prenup. But you can have all the pepsi you want.  | |
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hokie said: ArielB said: Four words, my love - show me the money! You don't get any money in this prenup. But you can have all the pepsi you want. That's basically admitting that Pepsi is worthless. That's why you're not offering Coke. Because you know it's like gold. | |
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ArielB said: hokie said: You don't get any money in this prenup. But you can have all the pepsi you want. That's basically admitting that Pepsi is worthless. That's why you're not offering Coke. Because you know it's like gold.  | |
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JustErin said: pplrain said: I don't think there is a set amount of money he can give me to give up my career or earning potential. It is definitely not about money but me being happy doing what I love to do. Ya, that was my point really. I won't do anything for anyone just because they ask me to.  "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] 1. Yes I would. 2. I want to be a stay at home mother one day. 3. I will always be independent, its part of my nature. 4.To give up your career? difficult one. | |
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pplrain said: Anxiety said: 1. Done that. 2. I'd actually like that very much, though I am uncertain that scenario would ever present itself. 3. I think when anyone enters a relationship, they give up a significant amount of independence and trade it in for a significant amount of co-dependence. Would I give up my career? As it stands now, sure. I wouldn't give up my goals, dreams or ambitions, though. If my career were 100% what I wanted it to be, I'd rather share the benefits of it with him than be told to walk away from it. 4. What? [Edited 1/6/09 17:22pm] What? Its the password( he he had to throw that in lol). My answers: 1. Did it 2. yep depending on the money situation(got kids) 3. nope 4. wtf and NO WAY! Smurf theme song-seriously how many fucking "La Las" can u fit into a dam song 
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If you get married, isn't your independence taken from you? I mean, you are now partners and should consult each other about your actions. No?
And I don't care giving up a career. I can always find something else to do, and make whatever my career was, into a hobby. The way I earn money is not important to me, my family, is my number one priority. | |
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I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.  | |
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CarrieLee said: I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.
Now that makes for a better survey.  | |
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CarrieLee said: I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.
I'm actually surprised but not surprised in a way at how easily people would give up things for their partner. Maybe I'm thinking about it on a deeper level then some are on here as I would never just do something for someone to make them happy...it would have to be something that I really want as well. Simply making someone else happy is not enough to make me happy and maybe that's the difference here...some people are happy just to see their partner happy...? | |
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JustErin said: CarrieLee said: I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.
I'm actually surprised but not surprised in a way at how easily people would give up things for their partner. Maybe I'm thinking about it on a deeper level then some are on here as I would never just do something for someone to make them happy...it would have to be something that I really want as well. Simply making someone else happy is not enough to make me happy and maybe that's the difference here...some people are happy just to see their partner happy...? I think it also depends on what you're trading, something you care a great deal about or something you can take or leave anyway. I love where I live, but I've always wanted to live somehwere else for a while. I do well at my job, but it's far from my dream job, so I can see something pulling me another direction there too. etc. |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said:
I'm actually surprised but not surprised in a way at how easily people would give up things for their partner. Maybe I'm thinking about it on a deeper level then some are on here as I would never just do something for someone to make them happy...it would have to be something that I really want as well. Simply making someone else happy is not enough to make me happy and maybe that's the difference here...some people are happy just to see their partner happy...? I think it also depends on what you're trading, something you care a great deal about or something you can take or leave anyway. I love where I live, but I've always wanted to live somehwere else for a while. I do well at my job, but it's far from my dream job, so I can see something pulling me another direction there too. etc. Exactamundo. I would make some sacrifices if it were worth it. None that would make ME miserable but sometimes change is good and ya never know...you could be a lot happier after you make that change. I wouldn't do anything drastic, but sometimes subtle changes make a huge difference to someone else. | |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said:
I'm actually surprised but not surprised in a way at how easily people would give up things for their partner. Maybe I'm thinking about it on a deeper level then some are on here as I would never just do something for someone to make them happy...it would have to be something that I really want as well. Simply making someone else happy is not enough to make me happy and maybe that's the difference here...some people are happy just to see their partner happy...? I think it also depends on what you're trading, something you care a great deal about or something you can take or leave anyway. I love where I live, but I've always wanted to live somehwere else for a while. I do well at my job, but it's far from my dream job, so I can see something pulling me another direction there too. etc. I just thought she was asking, "would you do it just because your partner asked you to". She's said that she isn't on board fully but her partner wants her to do it for him...so that's how I was looking at her question. | |
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ArielB said: If you get married, isn't your independence taken from you? I mean, you are now partners and should consult each other about your actions. No?
 "Taken" ? not at all - you may choose to give up some of your independence - SOME of it not all
yes partners should consult each other not control each other | |
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pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
Yes. 2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? I am waiting for that to happen. 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? This is a tougher one. If I stayed at home then that is what would happen. Luckily, I could always resume my career if it turned out to be a disaster.4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? Money would work. I do have a price. [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] Peace. Love. Prince | |
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Mach said: ArielB said: If you get married, isn't your independence taken from you? I mean, you are now partners and should consult each other about your actions. No?
"Taken" ? not at all - you may choose to give up some of your independence - SOME of it not all
yes partners should consult each other not control each other Words like "taken" are what convince me to never get married!! | |
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CarrieLee said: I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.
If your partner doesn't do that then it isn't real love  | |
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mdiver said: CarrieLee said: I was gonna say I'd take it up the bum but that wasn't a choice.
If your partner doesn't do that then it isn't real love word. | |
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pplrain said: 1. Would you move to a different part of the state/country for him?
She did it for me, i am about to do it for her 2. If he/she asked you to give up working and be a stay-at-home mom/dad, would you do it? Of course, if it was best for our family 3. Would you give up your independence/career for him? She would never ask that as i would not of her, what is best for her is my goal, what is best for me is hers, it would never be a "do this or else" scenario 4. What if he tries to bribe you with money? She does not have to, we talk [Edited 1/6/09 17:18pm] | |
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JustErin said: Mach said: "Taken" ? not at all - you may choose to give up some of your independence - SOME of it not all
yes partners should consult each other not control each other Words like "taken" are what convince me to never get married!! I can understand that 100%
I am not willing to give away my choices - THAT was agreed upon, desired and respected by us both, BEFORE marriage even entered the picture | |
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