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Reply #30 posted 12/30/16 4:16am

dodger

TheEnglishGent said:

I haven't really written much on the subject of Prince's passing as my year has been tainted by other experiences. Prince dying was a complete shock and I was of course saddened by the news, yet I didn't cry, grieve or mourn in any way for his passing. Prince, or more specifically, his music, has been and will continue to be, a large part of my life. I've been a fan for over 25 years, have all the official releases, many more bootlegs and attended about 30 live performances. In this respect, while some here have done way more than that, I've been far luckier than many others in my experiences of Prince and his music.

So what's happened that meant I wan't more affected by Prince's passing?

About a month before Prince passed, we had to put my Dad into a nursing home. He'd been suffering with dementia and had been deteriorating to the point where my Mum couldn't look after him any longer and he was now a non-recognisable shadow of the man he once was, unable to communicate and seemingly quite unaware of who we were and where he was. Six months to the day since Prince died, my brother and I sat in the nursing home and watched Dad take his last breath and pass away on October 21st.

There was sadness of course, but still no proper grieving as we had other things to deal with.

Ten days before Dad passed, Mum was admitted to hospital. She'd been tired a lot but everyone, including herself, had assumed this was due to the extreme physical and mental demands of looking after Dad and watchng the man she'd loved for nearly 50 years waste away before her. Tragically, there was much more to Mum's condition than merely that. When she was admitted to hospital, they said it was with a lung infection but they also had the suspiscion that it may be lung cancer. A week after Dad passed, Mum was sent home with the news that she was terminal and had six months to two years. However, on the 2nd December Mum was back in hospital, this time having contracted pneumonia and this time there was no recovery. On the 5th December, my brother and I sat for a now too familiar sight and we watched Mum take her last breath, as we had done with Dad a little more than 6 weeks prior.

Now there was some grieving!

But with all this said, and even if my parents hadn't passed, I still don't think there would have been much, if any, grieving for Prince. When I think of Prince and what being a fan of his music has given to my life I can only summon up feelings of happiness and joy. All of the shows and recordings, of course, but above all that there's my wife, the love of my life, who I met at a Prince concert and have now been happily married to for the past seven years. And without having been a Prince fan and having met my wife, my world would be without my youngest son, pictured below with his big brother. This little bundle of mayhem brings fun and joy to every day.

So instead of grieving for Prince I can only say, thank you Prince, thank you so very much.






Fucking hell, sorry to hear this EG.
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Reply #31 posted 12/30/16 4:17am

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Reply #32 posted 12/30/16 5:03am

luvgirl

lust said:

Today, Prince was with us THIS year, today I saw Prince's first ever performances in New Zealand THIS year. In two days, it will be LAST year.

I know that's a bizarrely arbitrary feeling but it fills me with so much dread. We are about to enter the first year that Prince isn't here, the first year he doesn't record or release new music.

I guess I'm far from accepting a loss many of us feel as personally as if it was a
close relative. The turn of year feels like I'm being forced to
leave him behind. I'm not ready.


Just needed to share that with people who may get it.

X


I expressed similar feelings in another post. This year has been horrible but he was with us this year. For that reason, I'm sorry to see it end.
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Reply #33 posted 12/30/16 5:10am

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I said this to a freind of my recently, when the calendar is turned over form 2016 to 2017 Prince will then feel like he is in the past. I too have been dreading it.

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Reply #34 posted 12/30/16 6:13am

NorthC

TheEnglishGent said:



lust said:


Fucking hell. I'm so sorry. sad I can't relate to losing a parent but I can only imagine what it's like and to lose both so quickly is herendous.

Thanks lust. Dad had been a long time coming, so while not easy, it was not a shock and we were prepared. Mum was a complete shock though. The only silver lining with Mum was that it was so quick and she didn't have to suffer.


I know what you're going through, Gent. The same happened to me: my father's mental health going dow and eventually, he died. But we knew it had to happen some day. And then a few years later my mother died quite suddenly. And also, without suffering. The difference is that it didn't go as fast as it did in your case, but yeah, I've been there too. hug
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Reply #35 posted 12/30/16 6:14am

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Maybe this quote from Prince will help those that think there is any difference between December 31, 2016 and January 1, 2017:

TIME is a trick. U may now b in the year 2047 AD or year 2009.The diversions of hours, days and years as it, everything else is in ur mind. Everything AND nothing is happening right at this very INSTANT.

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Reply #36 posted 12/30/16 7:15am

SomeSoldier

I sometimes think about a few years from now. What will happen to my being a fan. For as long as I can care to remember I've been a Prince fan. There has always been something to keep me here. But now? I'm sure we're going to get a lot of great music, I know that. But it won't be the same. Where will we all be in 10, 20 or 30 years?
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Reply #37 posted 12/30/16 7:58am

purplepoppy

So sorry English Gent. My folks died 7 mos apart. The caregiver of 11 yrs (Mom) got ill and quickly passed first. Life is for the Living is a true cliche. Your wife and sons are gifts facilitated by Prince. That's really great. All heart !

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Reply #38 posted 12/30/16 8:21am

206Michelle

gollygirl said:

I said this to a freind of my recently, when the calendar is turned over form 2016 to 2017 Prince will then feel like he is in the past. I too have been dreading it.


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Reply #39 posted 12/30/16 8:57am

LBrent

TheEnglishGent and NorthC and purplepoppy and all of y'all who've been through loss.

My mom passed a few weeks after P and as Mom's power of attorney and the last of her living children, going through all the preparations was awful.

P's music helped me get through.

grouphug

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Reply #40 posted 12/30/16 9:07am

purplepoppy

LBrent said:

TheEnglishGent and NorthC and purplepoppy and all of y'all who've been through loss.

My mom passed a few weeks after P and as Mom's power of attorney and the last of her living children, going through all the preparations was awful.

P's music helped me get through.

grouphug

Wow LBrent. Condolences honey. storm lightning sun rainbo

Superduper group hug - Prince sandwich! flower grouphug fallinluv grouphug flower

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Reply #41 posted 12/30/16 9:11am

purplepoppy

SomeSoldier said:

I sometimes think about a few years from now. What will happen to my being a fan. For as long as I can care to remember I've been a Prince fan. There has always been something to keep me here. But now? I'm sure we're going to get a lot of great music, I know that. But it won't be the same. Where will we all be in 10, 20 or 30 years?

pat

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Reply #42 posted 12/30/16 9:31am

NorthC

LBrent said:


TheEnglishGent and NorthC and purplepoppy and all of y'all who've been through loss.



My mom passed a few weeks after P and as Mom's power of attorney and the last of her living children, going through all the preparations was awful.



P's music helped me get through.



grouphug




hug
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Reply #43 posted 12/30/16 9:39am

1Sasha

My suggestion is that we do whatever we can to keep Prince in the world. Play his music, wear a Prince tee shirt, donate to a good cause (either money or time or both) in his name - pay it forward.

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Reply #44 posted 12/30/16 9:55am

zenarose

1Sasha said:

My suggestion is that we do whatever we can to keep Prince in the world. Play his music, wear a Prince tee shirt, donate to a good cause (either money or time or both) in his name - pay it forward.



yeahthat. AGREED!!! 👏💗💗💗
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Reply #45 posted 12/30/16 9:57am

206Michelle

TheEnglishGent said:

I haven't really written much on the subject of Prince's passing as my year has been tainted by other experiences. Prince dying was a complete shock and I was of course saddened by the news, yet I didn't cry, grieve or mourn in any way for his passing. Prince, or more specifically, his music, has been and will continue to be, a large part of my life. I've been a fan for over 25 years, have all the official releases, many more bootlegs and attended about 30 live performances. In this respect, while some here have done way more than that, I've been far luckier than many others in my experiences of Prince and his music.

So what's happened that meant I wan't more affected by Prince's passing?

About a month before Prince passed, we had to put my Dad into a nursing home. He'd been suffering with dementia and had been deteriorating to the point where my Mum couldn't look after him any longer and he was now a non-recognisable shadow of the man he once was, unable to communicate and seemingly quite unaware of who we were and where he was. Six months to the day since Prince died, my brother and I sat in the nursing home and watched Dad take his last breath and pass away on October 21st.

There was sadness of course, but still no proper grieving as we had other things to deal with.

Ten days before Dad passed, Mum was admitted to hospital. She'd been tired a lot but everyone, including herself, had assumed this was due to the extreme physical and mental demands of looking after Dad and watchng the man she'd loved for nearly 50 years waste away before her. Tragically, there was much more to Mum's condition than merely that. When she was admitted to hospital, they said it was with a lung infection but they also had the suspiscion that it may be lung cancer. A week after Dad passed, Mum was sent home with the news that she was terminal and had six months to two years. However, on the 2nd December Mum was back in hospital, this time having contracted pneumonia and this time there was no recovery. On the 5th December, my brother and I sat for a now too familiar sight and we watched Mum take her last breath, as we had done with Dad a little more than 6 weeks prior.

Now there was some grieving!

But with all this said, and even if my parents hadn't passed, I still don't think there would have been much, if any, grieving for Prince. When I think of Prince and what being a fan of his music has given to my life I can only summon up feelings of happiness and joy. All of the shows and recordings, of course, but above all that there's my wife, the love of my life, who I met at a Prince concert and have now been happily married to for the past seven years. And without having been a Prince fan and having met my wife, my world would be without my youngest son, pictured below with his big brother. This little bundle of mayhem brings fun and joy to every day.

So instead of grieving for Prince I can only say, thank you Prince, thank you so very much.




English Gent,

My sincere condolences on the loss of your parents. Thank you for sharing your stories and the photo of your handsome boys.

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Reply #46 posted 12/30/16 9:58am

LBrent


purplepoppy said:

LBrent said:

TheEnglishGent and NorthC and purplepoppy and all of y'all who've been through loss.

My mom passed a few weeks after P and as Mom's power of attorney and the last of her living children, going through all the preparations was awful.

P's music helped me get through.

grouphug

Wow LBrent. Condolences honey. storm lightning sun rainbo

Superduper group hug - Prince sandwich! flower grouphug fallinluv grouphug flower

NorthC said:

LBrent said:

TheEnglishGent and NorthC and purplepoppy and all of y'all who've been through loss.

My mom passed a few weeks after P and as Mom's power of attorney and the last of her living children, going through all the preparations was awful.

P's music helped me get through.

grouphug

hug

Thanx, she was 97 and went peacefully in her sleep.

I'm not sure of anything, but now I guess she's with my Dad dancing to Frank Sinatra...and P...in that big party in the afterlife. Lol

That thought makes me smile.

smile

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Reply #47 posted 12/30/16 10:06am

206Michelle

lust said:

Today, Prince was with us THIS year, today I saw Prince's first ever performances in New Zealand THIS year. In two days, it will be LAST year. I know that's a bizarrely arbitrary feeling but it fills me with so much dread. We are about to enter the first year that Prince isn't here, the first year he doesn't record or release new music. I guess I'm far from accepting a loss many of us feel as personally as if it was a close relative. The turn of year feels like I'm being forced to leave him behind. I'm not ready. Just needed to share that with people who may get it. X

lust, I totally get it. Because he died in 2016, I spent the rest of the year listening to his music and talking about him because it was still "the year of Prince's death." I feel like, with 2017, the world will kind of move on from him. And I feel like with most people in the world, moving on may mean forgetting, and I don't want people (the general public) to forget about Prince.

--

I guess I will try and think of as many occasions to celebrate him as possible with others --- Super Bowl, April 21, June 7, 30th anniversary of SOTT. And I'll NEVER stop wearing purple because it's my favorite color.

Live 4 Love ~ Love is God, God is love, Girls and boys love God above
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Reply #48 posted 12/30/16 10:08am

OldFriends4Sal
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4months until April 21st 2017, I cannott believe it is right around the corner

It is really weird seeing his face on tv shows talking about the stars who passed this year

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Reply #49 posted 12/30/16 10:18am

FullLipsDotNos
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When Michael Jackson passed away, I didn't feel as sad as others because I had just been accepted for a transfer to a selective high school I really, really wanted to attend. And I saw many people turning to Michael afterwards, so I felt at least some satisfaction that he was finally embraced by the whole world, more or less. In 2011, when Amy Winehouse passed away, things were a bit different because I was shortly after an emotional break-up, Utoya had just happened and both my grandma and my pet rabbit had passed away that year (my grandma had before my exams and the pet rabbit had on the day of my graduation ceremony). Luckily, I successfully passed high school that year, got a driver's license, was accepted into six schools and started two amazing internships.

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I don't know - whenever people around me are negative, I'm feeling positively, and vice versa.

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Reply #50 posted 12/30/16 10:20am

purplepoppy

LBrent said:


purplepoppy said:

hug

Thanx, she was 97 and went peacefully in her sleep.

I'm not sure of anything, but now I guess she's with my Dad dancing to Frank Sinatra...and P...in that big party in the afterlife. Lol

That thought makes me smile.

smile

Aww, can't ask for too much more. The last grand dame of my parent's crowd just passed in Nov. Ginny was 94. We wore beads and feather boas and tooted noisemakers at various times during the ceremony (in the church). Sad but Fabulous!

rose

North C hug !

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Reply #51 posted 12/30/16 10:40am

NorthC

1Sasha said:

My suggestion is that we do whatever we can to keep Prince in the world. Play his music, wear a Prince tee shirt, donate to a good cause (either money or time or both) in his name - pay it forward.


Absolutely. I had eye surgery last week and before the operation, I had a talk with the surgeon. He walked in, saw my prince necklace and said, "I like that!" Turns out he was a Prince fan too! biggrin
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Reply #52 posted 12/30/16 11:16am

purpleemotions

My only regret is not taking advantage of all the opportunities I had to see Prince. Luckily, I saw him back in 02. I think it will be difficult for many people this upcoming year, including myself.

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Reply #53 posted 12/30/16 12:52pm

Moonbeam

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Yeah, it is tough. When my dad died, that New Year's Eve was brutal, and I wasn't expecting it. I imagine this New Year's Eve will also be quite emotional.
Feel free to join in the Prince Album Poll 2018! Let'a celebrate his legacy by counting down the most beloved Prince albums, as decided by you!
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Reply #54 posted 12/30/16 1:55pm

Adorecream

mynameisnotsusan said:

Adorecream said:

Add on all the other celebrity deaths (Particularly David Bowie and George Michael)and the underwhelming 4ever set, Real Groovy records charging $80 for a used copy of Graffiti Bridge and you have one stinker of a year.

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Bring on 2017!

Wtf?? Were they really? On vinyl? Better not be cd cause I used to see that in their sale bins for next to nothing all the time - Gold Experience too. Still pissed I didn't grab Rainbow Children on vinyl when they had it for $25 back in the day confused

It was vinyl and very used condition - Sleeve was G if you were lucky and records G+.

The set I bought in 2014 was covers EX and records VG+. It cost $10.95

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Reply #55 posted 12/30/16 2:16pm

laytonian

3rdeyedude said:

Maybe this quote from Prince will help those that think there is any difference between December 31, 2016 and January 1, 2017:

TIME is a trick. U may now b in the year 2047 AD or year 2009.The diversions of hours, days and years as it, everything else is in ur mind. Everything AND nothing is happening right at this very INSTANT.

Yes, time is a trick ... but his absence is not.

My family lost a god daughter and four CLOSE friends. This year has been like a ton of bricks dropping onto us....and in some ways, 4/21 is the most unforgiveable. I shall forever hate that date.

Welcome to "the org", laytonian… come bathe with me.
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Reply #56 posted 12/30/16 3:10pm

Mumio

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So very sorry to hear of your losses, it's just been a terrible year no matter where I look.

Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #57 posted 12/30/16 3:14pm

Mumio

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laytonian said:

3rdeyedude said:

Maybe this quote from Prince will help those that think there is any difference between December 31, 2016 and January 1, 2017:

TIME is a trick. U may now b in the year 2047 AD or year 2009.The diversions of hours, days and years as it, everything else is in ur mind. Everything AND nothing is happening right at this very INSTANT.

Yes, time is a trick ... but his absence is not.

My family lost a god daughter and four CLOSE friends. This year has been like a ton of bricks dropping onto us....and in some ways, 4/21 is the most unforgiveable. I shall forever hate that date.


I can not tell you how very very happy I am to see you back here Laytonian hug Your info was always spot on, good to see you again!

Yes, a bad year for sure, lost an aunt and an uncle, my beloved Yorkie Brutus, and most recently my African Gray parrot Gus. You are right though, 4/21 is the most unforgivable. That loss and that pain will be with me til the end of my days.

Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #58 posted 12/30/16 3:17pm

daKotaGeNesis

Mumio said:


So very sorry to hear of your losses, it's just been a terrible year no matter where I look.


I am also very sorry for all of your losses. Sending you all condolences and love to you all! Wishing you all the best during this time!
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Reply #59 posted 12/30/16 5:17pm

Morningstarlet

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So how about on New Years Day we all agree to watch a Prince movie and bring him into 2017 in style?
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