gollygirl said:

I am on my own as far as a partner goes but my daughter lives with me. She does not understand my grief for someone I did not know personally and if I mention him she says she's sick of hearing about it. It is hard to pretend all is ok at home and work and I feel guilty it's dragging on for everyone

From the Purple Family.

SteelPulse1 said:

Shit I dont understand what im going thru

Man, I'm feeling THAT! Is it really 8 days on and I still break down and cry several times a day? Really?!? It doesn't help that I won't stop coming here to the one place I know that EVERYONE gets it. All it takes is others talking about how sad they are and BOOM! I'm bawling again. Damn!

That said, the wife has been great. She doesn't get "it" so much as she gets me. We've been together since '98 so she knows this is a major blow to me. And my daughter, wow, I was so upset that it took me a minute to realize she's been listening to him ALL her life because of me and it hit her so hard as well.

Really, everyone in my life has been just wonderful. Most have been amazed by all that they've learned about him from the media this past week and many seem to have a newfound respect for my passion when it comes to Prince & his music.

SteelPulse1 said:

Shit I dont understand what im going thru

Wow...THIS exactly.

SteelPulse1 said:

Shit I dont understand what im going thru

this! this is the roughest part about all of this. I think I tell thos to my wife daily just to let her know that, yeah, I feel odd grieving like this. The day it happened and when I first cried over it, I thought, fuck, I'm 50 yrs old, sitting in a parking lot, and breaking down like this just doesn't seem rational/logical.

Kacey725 said:

This is a great question to ask and a kind way for us to hold each other up during these rough days.

I am fortunate enough to be married to a woman who, after 19 years, is more than used to me being disrupted by "Prince things." She was more or less endoctrinated when I spent our first wedding anniversary standing in line to by Prince concert tickets and shocked by the amount I was willing to pay for them.

"Is this going to be an ongoing thing? she asked, after I followed up that ticket purchase with a few pricey eBay acquisitions. "Yup," I told her. And she's been kind enough to roll with it since. She doesn't listen to Prince and considers music in general to be "background noise," though she's come with me to two of Prince's shows and has admitted that she "gets it" after each one.

Having said all of this, she's struggling a little with me right now. She watched me burst into tears in the car the other day when Sirius XM Channel 50 played "Let's Go Crazy" and I told her that I couldn't listen to that one yet and changed the channel. She's been trying to pull me out of my home office where I've barricaded myself lately re-cataloguing my collection. She's started to shake her head at the fact that I have worn purple every day since this happened. (I told her that the most intense part of my grieving period will be "17 days, and 17 long nights.")

I have a supportive spouse. She's very sad for ME. But I hope I start to cope better soon...I don't want to wear her down too much!

A really moving post. I also feel the need to rearrange my Prince collection or make some kind of better vault.

It's sometimes hard to explain to a loved one what this means and how it affects you. I must admit I did go on quite a rant about the tragedy and futility of life whilst on holiday when I heard the news next week. My wife was supportive as she always is, even on our anniversary 4 days later. I am lucky.

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jlucky said:

I don't have a spouse, but I think it was sweet that the guy I like at the moment (and I wonder if he likes me) messaged me to ask me if I was ok after hearing the news.

In a word: NO! I keep getting yelled at for staying on the computer, only wanting to listen to certan music, etc. It kind of sucks, but I just wait till he goes to bed and do it then... didn't get much sleep last night.

tnhybrid said:

In a word: NO! I keep getting yelled at for staying on the computer, only wanting to listen to certan music, etc. It kind of sucks, but I just wait till he goes to bed and do it then... didn't get much sleep last night.

Just so you know, you are not alone. This is becoming a big issue in my marriage.

Revolution said:

No spouse, but my family, suprisingly, has been very supportive, I just knew the older members of my family would be "snap out of it you didn't know him" but nope they say the understand completely. My daughter especially has been very supportive, though she's not a fan she admired him and respected him for his boldness and she says she learned that from him.

My husband has been amazing. I'm still randomly bursting into tears - without warning - if i see the born day/death dates - I'm just crying instantly -

I've loved prince since the late 70s. F-that he was my co-pilot in my life, he made me believe in god, and I'm devatated, numb and mad.

My husband sweetly bought me a purple dress and he juest leaves me alone when I lose it.

So glad I married him

My wife has left me be in the study to listen to my music. She knows me.

I know she gets it, I've known her since 87 and she's let me go to hundreds of gigs (Prince and others) over the years. She knows I love music.

SquirrelMeat said:

My wife has left me be in the study to listen to my music. She knows me.

I know she gets it, I've known her since 87 and she's let me go to hundreds of gigs (Prince and others) over the years. She knows I love music.

My roommate loved Prince music, but I was way ahead of the game. He's not said much to me about it. I bring up stuff sometimes, but in general, I keep to myself about it. He understands how hurt and upset I am, so he gives me room. But I also try to keep my crying and whimpering away from him. We did both tear up watching D'Angelo on The Tonight Show.

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My friends know, because I think I got more condolences from them, than Prince's own family. Pretty much all of them said, "You were the first person I thought of".

Most of these stories warm my heart. It's wonderful that so many of us have the love and support of those around us in this time of sorrow...

A few of the stories have me worried. I cannot imagine facing the contempt of a "loved" one while simultaneously experiencing so much grief.

I'm praying for those of you that are going through this without the understanding of those around you and for those that have no one to lean on at all. We're all with you. Peace, love & hugs...

tnhybrid said:

In a word: NO! I keep getting yelled at for staying on the computer, only wanting to listen to certan music, etc. It kind of sucks, but I just wait till he goes to bed and do it then... didn't get much sleep last night.

[Edited 4/30/16 8:07am]

I can relate. They can feel jealous even though they don't need to.

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