I met a guy tonight at a bar (CINCO de MAYO!) and the music was loud, the bar was packed...but we still had good conversation. We talked for about an hour and he kept telling me how much he liked my hair (I have curly hair). Then I said I had to go (work tomorrow!) and he walked me outside and he said "You have made my night. I don't know what i Would do if i hadan't met you."


Ok that's flattering...but then...

He grabs the hair clip that is holding my hair back and goes "can i take this [the clip] out? I need to touch your hair!"


It totally freaked me out!!!! I started laughing and said, "You are making me nervous" and he goes "Sorry." But then he tried it again and goes "I just want to touch your hair!"


SO I"m home now and kinda freaked out. I gave him my cell number to call me before this happened and he wants to go out this weekend. AM I overreacting? No one has ever been so "obsessed" with my hair before!


HELP!

maybe he just had too much to drink. i don't know since i wasn't there but trust your instinct.

if he does call then tell him that he made you uncomfortable when he did that. at least you are on the phone and not face to face. if he comes up with a good come back then maybe give him a chance.

show him your...other...hair.

sounds fishy, man. i'd take extreme caution.

when you go out with him, wear a wig.

no, really, i'd talk to him when he calls and feel him out. if he seems cool enough to go out with then go somewhere very public...which you should always do anyway. if he gets weird (with or without alcohol), then "check please".

SassyBritches said:

so you wouldn't be freaked out by some guy who wanted to pet you?

I don't know...my instinct says..."DOn't do it!"

Or maybe I'm just not used to a man complimenting my hair like that.

purplegypsy said:

guys seem to want to pet my hair alot. in general, it doesn't freak me out but if this guy is scaring you, then trust your gut. or maybe you should sleep on it for a day or so and then see what your gut is telling you.

sounds fetishy. maybe he wants to hump your hairdo.

that just gave me a funny visual.

purplegypsy said:

ok, first of all, you're talking TO ME!



there's nothing wrong with taking precautions, but if he was a little tipsy and felt really comfortable with you, it really may have been more goofy than murderous. but you need to decide for yourself.


yeah, this guy already sounds better than damien!

i mean, if he had a lisp or something, then i could see being a little freaked...

SassyBritches said:

LOLOL.Ok ok he also had a lisp. but i didn't want to offens anyone on the org saying that. The lisp didn't freak me out as much as the hair petting did. But the two combined...well...


Ok call me shallow. I am ashamed of it... but I guess I am!

The club n bar thing for meeting women or men is full of trap doors.My advice to you,stay the hell away from him.

Anxiety said:

m'gawd...

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Talk about a HAIR HOPPER!!!

Anxiety said:

Its called a gooey-fro. lmao, serious

purplegypsy said:

nope. its a done deal. lisp and fetishes...uh uh. call me shallow. but call me honest.

SassyBritches said:

thanks sassy ass. wish you didn't like men. otherwise i would touch your hair.

purplegypsy said:

down there where it counts?

Supernova said:

that's exactly what was goin through my head when i read this...run like the wind, woman!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

some men have a hair fetish. I work with a guy who will comes and takes my clip out of my hair, just so he can smell my hair. If i have my hair down, he will come over and just touch my hair. It doesnt happen all the time, but it happens at least once a week. Im used to it, it doent bother me like it did in the beginning.

That was Kinda Weird. I would tell him to not Call me. Especially since ya got some weird Vibes. If he does call I would tell him the hair thing Freaked you out and nowyou have changed your mind about going out with him. Unless you don't care.

Zelaira said:

Well I'm going with my gut and I'm not going to go out with him. Thanks everyone for your feedback! I can't win in the dating scene!