get off the damn computer and go spend some time with your kids

bliss...how many kids you got man ?

just wondering how you can figure out what life is like for those who do have kids...oh i forgot...you have all the answers

my children are in school...should i go sit with them there ? would that make you feel better ?



heres my favorite words just for you...BITE ME

Bliss, sometimes you are so right on target it's damn scary



and to all the wonderful people who responsed to this thread in such a violent manner... I guess it really hit home, huh!

Natsume said:

Always be careful when attempting to talk about how someone should/could be a "better" parent...

Byron said:

thank you baby

Natsume said:

Violent You ain't seen violent. I'm gonna beat the crap out of my kids for making me feel guilty reading this thread. That'll show em. And MrBliss :LOL:

Byron said:

Hey what am I getting yelled at for? Bliss is the one who started the thread!

Natsume said:

gee...i wonder

Ok enough already!


to all!

To the duck!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

What? I didn't do anything

CtheUncanny said:

Oh now I see! YOU suggested this one to the duck!


Reported!

You knew this would start stuff around here!

I have nothing to feel guilty about. My kids are locked in the basement with Dr. Dre and Eminem blasting. I gave them soda pop and microwave popcorn ('course there is no microwave down there) Oh well... they're happy.

June7 said:

justkelley said:

none...if i did...you'd hardly see me here

MrBliss said:

Thank G- I mean... awww. Too bad.

MrBliss said:

Hope I can say this respectfully...but truthfully, the happiest, healthiest kids do not require constant and continuous interaction with their parents...quite the contrary, actually. Maybe during their first several years of life it is definitely beneficial to provide your direct presence constantly with your children *yes*...but there comes a time very early on in their lives in which it is far more beneficial for them to become use to living, breathing, playing and interacting independent of their parents.

It's often assumed that the best parents will act as their child's playmate as well as their parent...when in reality the healthiest children will find themselves rarely needing that type of interaction...their emotional security will be served well if they simply know/feel their parent's presence...to be able to go about their day almost oblivious as to what mom or dad are doing...yet still have the security of being able to look up and see/locate them at will. Having that occasional visual reassurance is more than enough to help assure a healthy, happy child...it helps instill both independence and trust in them.

As well as it sets very needed boundaries for them when it comes to how they see their "place", so to speak, within the family unit...if you're married, then it is of utmost importance that your child realize that while they are loved deeply and important beyond measure, they are not a part of your marriage...feeling as though you should be including your children in every and all activities can lead to blurred lines for the child, where they'll feel "abandoned" if you and your spouse simply go to dinner or a movie together...in their minds, they are part of the marriage because they are included in almost everything mom and dad do...it's healthier if they can realize and be secure with knowing that mom and dad are "separate" from themselves, while still knowing/feeling they're a part of their lives and hearts.

So, actually, as long as parents are letting themselves be continuously available, that's all that matters...It really doesn't matter if they look up at you and see you washing the dishes, folding clothes, reading a book...or posting on P.org. They just want to know you're there.

Byron said:

i love you more every day honey
you are truely a wonderful soul...and your thoughts are well spoken...you are a gem :F:

MrBliss said:

I don't have any kids.

MrBliss said:

i am spendin time with 'em...






















































...they're all in my ovaries. i know where they are and what they're doin and they're stayin right where they're at. the kids are alright!

Byron said:

hope i can say this respectfully...but what a load of shit j/k

i'm not talking about smothering a child...or not having your own time

but kids need quality time...where they have your UNDIVIDED attention... too may parents stick them in front of a video/whatever and think they are taken care of...

i've lived with girlfriends that have had kids...and i spent heaps of time with them...it was great

there are some orgers who have kids, that spend a LOT of time on this site...it's downright neglectful

justkelley said:

no...i don't think they'd take too kindly to you running your phone sex operator job around a bunch of school kids

you COULD always spend your day looking for a real job, to ensure your children have a bright future... but i guess that would cut into your valuable "posting about my clitoris" time

Funny shit.

MrBliss said:

Ouch!

MrBliss said:

Can't say if it's neglectful unless you're there...I could post 30 times in 15 minutes then leave for 12 hours...someone else could post 2 times in 4 hours, and you'd think I was the one hanging around P.org, not them. Only way to know otherwise is if you sat and tracked posting times and then tracked who was on the "Online List" and how long they were there...somehow I doubt either of those things figure too much into your assessments on here.

Everything's not in extremes--you're either here "too much" (define that) which means your kids aren't getting enough attention from you...or you're never here, which means your kids are. Unless I'm given reason to believe otherwise, I always assume the best of people. Sounds like your comments are given simply because of how you feel about Kelly, not because you honestly and realistically assessed her situation. I've known other parents here who have spent just as much time online (if not more), who's parenting skills were never called into question...most likely because they were liked.

Byron said:[quote]

MrBliss said:

not at all...but i think it's funny how you've become her knight in shining armour after she's stroked your male ego a few times

MartyMcFly said:

Ouch is right, but true!!

Didn't we already have an Org exodus? Is this part two?