Yesterday, I called a friend (we had planned to go driving) to see what they were doing. I asked them if they wanted me to come to their house(we would leave from there), they answered "Yes, that would be great."

As I arrived at the house. I parked the car and went to the door. My friend saw me (through the window). I knocked and noticed the door was locked.

As he opened the door, I said "your door was locked that is why I knocked."
He looked at me saying "no fucking kidding."
I said "excuse me." "Did I came at a bad time?"
He turned away, leaving the door open. To mt suprise, he began to yell at me, saying "fuck off, Fuck you"
I asked him if I had done anything to upset him. I asked him "what's wrong?"
He screamed, Fuck off, get out, I don't want you as a friend anymore"

I was more than shocked.

I turned away and got into the car and returned home. I still do not understand why I was treated like this.

Later in the the day, I saw his wife at the local mall. She told me that he had told her what he had said to me. She asked him "Why Did you treat your friend like that?"
His answer was, "I don't know why."

Yesterday was a wierd day -- What should I do?
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Try and re-establish contact...if your friend truly does not understand why he spoke to you that way, then you might have to have "thick skin" for a moment and just try and find out what was going on at that moment...Hopefully it's not a sign of something even worse (like the onset of mental illness... )...That's a very strange thing to have happen...I can't even imagine how that must have felt.

call the guy a dickhead.

laugh it off.

go have a beer with him.

Byron said:

I was more than suprised, shocked, then angry. It felt really bad. It's like he went crazy from the time I called him to the time I arrived at his door.
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chemmie said:

I would but he has not spoken with me since. Judging by his reactions, I will not be approaching him any time soon. That shit scares me.

That's really odd behaviour. How well do you know him? Do you know whether he has any medical conditions that would cause him to behave in that way? Perhaps, if he has, you need to be aware of them as if you do re-establish contact and he has another "episode" while you're with him, you can at least try to protect yourself and others from it.

chemmie said:

and if he refuses I'd go smoe a fattie and forget about him..

Weird. I think maybe he needs to make the first move toward reconciliation.

teller said:

I agree with you Teller...

This fella needs to recognize what he has done, and take responsiblity for his actions.. and maybe get some help if that is what is needed...

You must have felt like shit... I am sorry

sag10 said:

Yeah I did feel like shit @ the time but I am angry about it now mainly because of having no explanation of his actions.

teller said:

That will never happen, that's the way he is, everything he does has a "final" kind of feel to it.

slm4m said:

That's pretty extreme behavior; either something really upset him or he's really unbalanced...it's hard to believe someone would just suddenly turn into a raving asshole for no reason without some external cause. There has to be more to the story, ya know? Something's not right here. If he never calls to apologize, I'd have to say that's really fuckin' strange.

If he's not man enough to come to you and tell you why he's upset, I'd suggest to just leave things alone. Byron's right, he might be mentally ill.

Are you sure you can't think of anything that's happened between you two that may have been festering and it just finally boiled over?

is his wife hot?

teller said:

I know, I know, I keep trying to think if there is anything that I might have done to upset him. Remember, he was very happy over the phone -- That was not even twenty minutes before the outburst. I did nothing to trigger that behavior.

When his wife asked him why he was mad at me, he said, he did not know.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Honestly, nothing not the slightest arguement. I think I will just walk away. We live on the same street, go to the same places -- boy, I might become a hermit.

Man, this is weird. I expect Rod Serling to walk in any time...

slm4m said:

I can relate sim4m. I also agree with raspberry that he may be exhibiting some kind of "mental" problem. I had recent extended contact (not exactly like ur situation) with a person who would one day be real nice and flirtatious & polite etc. Then the very NEXT DAY he would completely change. He'd act like he was jealous of me & disliked me. There was never any violence or outbursts, just the "complete changes". So one day I called him & told him I'd like 2 talk 2 him. He got very nervous & probably felt I was going 2 bitch at him 4 some work he did 4 me but screwed up. Well, that was 1 of the topics, but I wouldnt have gotten angry. Now, mind U, just days b4 I had contact with him at his place of work & he seemed very glad 2 see me & we joked around etc. So, then when I called & asked him 2 talk with me, he was VERY defensive & demanded 2 know why & what 4. I then asked why he was afraid 2 talk 2 me, & he said: I'm not, I just dont want 2 talk 2 u. I asked "why?" & said he found me annoying & hung up the phone, 2 which I called back 3 X & left 3 messages as 2 how he pissed me off etc. Never heard back. This was weeks ago. This was one dude who blew "hot" & "cold". It was scary kind-of too, how he could change so quickly, & then wouldnt explain himself. My decision was & is 2 stay clear of him. He cost me LOTS of money 2 fix the job he did wrong & get it done RIGHT by professionals. I guess he's not too honest either. (lies) I do go to his place of work 4 stuff I need but told him NEVER 2 help me as a customer there. I initially had a vested interest in being friends with him, but not after this. I mean if he ever apologized 4 the phone thing, I might reconsider, but I doubt he will. So, what I'm telling U sim4m, is 2 let him be unless he apologizes AND MEANS it, bcuz ppl tend 2 treat u like u let them, AND they will repeat their rudeness & get WORSE if U let it slide & go to them, trying 2 find out why they exhibited that behavior. U cant let ppl treat U like that without an explanation or some kind of OLIVE BRANCH from THEM! So, stay away. Do U really need an unstable person like him in ur life not knowing when this will happen again or if it will be even worse & he takes a hit at U, especially if this occured MORE than once. He MAY have issues he's dealing with, but then he has 2 get help 4 them. He cant lash out on others, even IF he EVER regrets doing so. U have 2 protect urself & be safe. IF U can EVER sit him down & talk, tell him how U feel & that he might need 2 seek help or ur friendship is null & void! GOOD LUCK./
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I think your friend got alot goin' on in his mind and got in a bad mood. The locked-car door part wasn't your fault.
The car has problems. Give him a few days, then call him.
i think he needs someone to talk to about wat's on his mind.

MrBliss said:

Seriously though, sorry your feelings were hurt Slm4m. As for what to do, listen to your gut. What are your instincts telling you? Get quiet and let them guide you. You have to live with yourself and look at yourself in the mirror.

Good luck to you.

have him institutionalized

slm4m said:

is your friend a little disturbed mentally? then maybe he cannot help it.

AaronMaximus said:

hmmm... paranoid Schitzophrenia maybe?...
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