But it is soooo disappointing when you find a great dude and you finally get ready to do the nasty, and he springs out a pecker the size of a cocktail weiner, and I'm talking ERECT!
Chile, don't laugh. I really ended up with one of these letdowns! I was so goddamn disappointed and pissed! In the end, I had to cut him loose. I couldnt' deal with that q-tip. Hell, my baby finger was bigger than his dick.
But it is soooo disappointing when you find a great dude and you finally get ready to do the nasty, and he springs out a pecker the size of a cocktail weiner, and I'm talking ERECT!
Chile, don't laugh. I really ended up with one of these letdowns! I was so goddamn disappointed and pissed! In the end, I had to cut him loose. I couldnt' deal with that q-tip. Hell, my baby finger was bigger than his dick.
Girl, believe I overstand. I don't know what's worse, the weiner or the dreaded pencil [Edited 7/9/16 11:16am]
"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15
How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.
Most men get attention when they exude confidence, have a great smile, a pleasant disposition and are charming... the rest is all attraction based on a variety of things. Humans can be complicated, and beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.
But it is soooo disappointing when you find a great dude and you finally get ready to do the nasty, and he springs out a pecker the size of a cocktail weiner, and I'm talking ERECT!
That is some funny shit right there!!!
As a guy - who has never had complaints btw
I always wonder are we talking "girth or "length"?
You know... just like girls have "hang-ups" about boobs and poonany... so do guys about willies
Just by the way - you have a kid?? Didn't you say you were only 26?? Why'd you have a kid so soon....???!!! I mean, of course, it's no damn business of mine, feel free to tell me to shut up whenever you feel like.....
[Edited 7/9/16 8:41am]
Yes, I have a little girl. I was 22 when she was born which is quite young, I suppose, but I wouldn't swap her for anything in the world.
Just by the way - you have a kid?? Didn't you say you were only 26?? Why'd you have a kid so soon....???!!! I mean, of course, it's no damn business of mine, feel free to tell me to shut up whenever you feel like......
[Edited 7/9/16 8:41am]
Yes, I have a little girl. I was 22 when she was born which is quite young, I suppose, but I wouldn't swap her for anything in the world.
Nah...22 ain't young
My Mum came over here at 16 and had my bro & me at aged 21...then 22
And she is the toughest girl you ever saw!
It ain't about age... it's about what Motherhood inspires you to be...
Money - if your car is shittier than mine, we are not gonna last
Erin, I said - love , NOT a fling! If you fall in love with someone because of their car, well, you need to correct yourself.....
I'm not talking about a fling nor am I falling for their car. If I'm better off than them (especially considering my circumstances) he does not have the type of personality that I find attractive.
Just by the way - you have a kid?? Didn't you say you were only 26?? Why'd you have a kid so soon....???!!! I mean, of course, it's no damn business of mine, feel free to tell me to shut up whenever you feel like.....
[Edited 7/9/16 8:41am]
Yes, I have a little girl. I was 22 when she was born which is quite young, I suppose, but I wouldn't swap her for anything in the world.
Nah...22 ain't young
My Mum came over here at 16 and had my bro & me at aged 21...then 22
And she is the toughest girl you ever saw!
It ain't about age... it's about what Motherhood inspires you to be...
And as a guy btw - a huge turn-off is a woman who pays stock to money...
Funny you should say that - I was just articulating this in my own mind - My definition of a girlfriend is, say, if the economy was to turn bad tomorrow, or there are cutbacks or layoffs, or....one of a Hundred other factors,..... she could give me a bit of cash,..... y'know, just to tide me over a bad time.... in spite of the fact that I am the man, and she's the woman!! (Yes, I fucking KNOW I'm the man, I don't need goddamn lessons in manhood from no one!).... THAT would be My Definition Of a Girlfriend. This is what would make me love a girl. (And of course, I'd pay her back at the first available opportunity....)
And as a guy btw - a huge turn-off is a woman who pays stock to money...
Funny you should say that - I was just articulating this in my own mind - My definition of a girlfriend is, say, if the economy was to turn bad tomorrow, or there are cutbacks or layoffs, or....one of a Hundred other factors,..... she could give me a bit of cash,..... y'know, just to tide me over a bad time.... in spite of the fact that I am the man, and she's the woman!! (Yes, I fucking KNOW I'm the man, I don't need goddamn lessons in manhood from no one!).... THAT would be My Definition Of a Girlfriend. This is what would make me love a girl. (And of course, I'd pay her back at the first available opportunity....)
What do you say?
At my age (42) and at this point in my career, there is no way I am interested in being with a man long term that does not have his shit together - at least when the relationship is beginning. Of course, shit can happen and things can change but I want to see at least see the same level of ambition and success as I have when we first meet. The comment about the car was really more about wanting someone that is financially stable. It wasn't about some dude being rich so I can be taken care of - I take care of myself.
I simplified it to the type of car he drives. If I'm driving a Mercedes and he's driving an old Ford Tempo - that's a good indication that we are not on the same page in life.
Funny you should say that - I was just articulating this in my own mind - My definition of a girlfriend is, say, if the economy was to turn bad tomorrow, or there are cutbacks or layoffs, or....one of a Hundred other factors,..... she could give me a bit of cash,..... y'know, just to tide me over a bad time.... in spite of the fact that I am the man, and she's the woman!! (Yes, I fucking KNOW I'm the man, I don't need goddamn lessons in manhood from no one!).... THAT would be My Definition Of a Girlfriend. This is what would make me love a girl. (And of course, I'd pay her back at the first available opportunity....)
What do you say?
At my age (42) and at this point in my career, there is no way I am interested in being with a man long term that does not have his shit together - at least when the relationship is beginning. Of course, shit can happen and things can change but I want to see at least see the same level of ambition and success as I have when we first meet. The comment about the car was really more about wanting someone that is financially stable. It wasn't about some dude being rich so I can be taken care of - I take care of myself.
I simplified it to the type of car he drives. If I'm driving a Mercedes and he's driving an old Ford Tempo - that's a good indication that we are not on the same page in life.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
Funny you should say that - I was just articulating this in my own mind - My definition of a girlfriend is, say, if the economy was to turn bad tomorrow, or there are cutbacks or layoffs, or....one of a Hundred other factors,..... she could give me a bit of cash,..... y'know, just to tide me over a bad time.... in spite of the fact that I am the man, and she's the woman!! (Yes, I fucking KNOW I'm the man, I don't need goddamn lessons in manhood from no one!).... THAT would be My Definition Of a Girlfriend. This is what would make me love a girl. (And of course, I'd pay her back at the first available opportunity....)
What do you say?
At my age (42) and at this point in my career, there is no way I am interested in being with a man long term that does not have his shit together - at least when the relationship is beginning. Of course, shit can happen and things can change but I want to see at least see the same level of ambition and success as I have when we first meet. The comment about the car was really more about wanting someone that is financially stable. It wasn't about some dude being rich so I can be taken care of - I take care of myself.
I simplified it to the type of car he drives. If I'm driving a Mercedes and he's driving an old Ford Tempo - that's a good indication that we are not on the same page in life.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
Old cars are worse for the environment. [Edited 7/11/16 16:29pm]
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
Old cars are worse for the environment. [Edited 7/11/16 16:29pm]
At my age (42) and at this point in my career, there is no way I am interested in being with a man long term that does not have his shit together - at least when the relationship is beginning. Of course, shit can happen and things can change but I want to see at least see the same level of ambition and success as I have when we first meet. The comment about the car was really more about wanting someone that is financially stable. It wasn't about some dude being rich so I can be taken care of - I take care of myself.
I simplified it to the type of car he drives. If I'm driving a Mercedes and he's driving an old Ford Tempo - that's a good indication that we are not on the same page in life.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
When I see someone with a "nice" car, that generally means "I have a big car payment".
When I see someone driving an older model car, that generally means "I'm fiscally responsible and don't have a car payment".
Big ups if you have an expensive car that you paid cash for, but very few people do.
At my age (42) and at this point in my career, there is no way I am interested in being with a man long term that does not have his shit together - at least when the relationship is beginning. Of course, shit can happen and things can change but I want to see at least see the same level of ambition and success as I have when we first meet. The comment about the car was really more about wanting someone that is financially stable. It wasn't about some dude being rich so I can be taken care of - I take care of myself.
I simplified it to the type of car he drives. If I'm driving a Mercedes and he's driving an old Ford Tempo - that's a good indication that we are not on the same page in life.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
This is very interesting
So...in the UK (I don't know where you guys are based)... but the culture is one of being more unaffected by wealth
Our Prime Minister has made a point of buying his wife an old Nissan Micra - whilst he was the most powerful Man in the country
There is something quite classy about inconspicuous wealth - and what it attracts
Driving a flash car - is just that.... flash...unless you are a serious petrol-head
Otherwise it is a status symbol
And make no mistake - ostentatious wealth does not equate to mental/emotional happiness or fulfilment
Sometimes (and I am equally susceptible to this)... there is a misguided perception that the better things you have - make you a better person...
Or indeed a more "happy" person...
Which is a fallacy
What really matters is how someone makes you feel...
Do they make you feel loved/secure/optimistic/beautiful/spiritual/confident in yourself/comfortable
Dare I say it "connected" to the other person
Disclosure: I do now have a sports car - because I know it will attract a certain type of girl - don't get me wrong, there are great girls who don't know the name of a badge
But there are girls out there who go for a "package" - car/clothes/pad/wallet
Which is cool - as long as we both know (without saying it) what the "deal" is
When it comes to something more concrete though - something more sustainable - something more fulfiling
Then it is more about - would that person be with you to build with you...and if you then became broke...would they still be there to have your back, like you would theirs?
End of the day, Long-term is about partnership in it's truest sense
As a 40yr old divorced guy - I am messing about at the mo - but for me (and it is only my perspective)... When I want to settle again - it will be with a girl who "Loves Me 4 Me"
And I have no hangups about whether she has to get the bus to work or owns the company
Hook-ups... simple...get a flash car, money in the wallet, a decent crib, good clothes, decent haircut and cologne,
And there will plenty of people you can sell the transient dream to - and then when your done...move on to the next...
If that is what you want
And at some time in our life - we all want that....
Seems to me that most partners really want someone who GETS them, who understands and accepts who they are.
I understand why some people list finances among the desirable traits. You want your partner to be independent, at least. If they are totally dependent on someone else, that implies they could eventually become totally dependent on me, which is scary when we're still on a first date.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
This is very interesting
So...in the UK (I don't know where you guys are based)... but the culture is one of being more unaffected by wealth
Our Prime Minister has made a point of buying his wife an old Nissan Micra - whilst he was the most powerful Man in the country
There is something quite classy about inconspicuous wealth - and what it attracts
Driving a flash car - is just that.... flash...unless you are a serious petrol-head
Otherwise it is a status symbol
And make no mistake - ostentatious wealth does not equate to mental/emotional happiness or fulfilment
Sometimes (and I am equally susceptible to this)... there is a misguided perception that the better things you have - make you a better person...
Or indeed a more "happy" person...
Which is a fallacy
What really matters is how someone makes you feel...
Do they make you feel loved/secure/optimistic/beautiful/spiritual/confident in yourself/comfortable
Dare I say it "connected" to the other person
Disclosure: I do now have a sports car - because I know it will attract a certain type of girl - don't get me wrong, there are great girls who don't know the name of a badge
But there are girls out there who go for a "package" - car/clothes/pad/wallet
Which is cool - as long as we both know (without saying it) what the "deal" is
When it comes to something more concrete though - something more sustainable - something more fulfiling
Then it is more about - would that person be with you to build with you...and if you then became broke...would they still be there to have your back, like you would theirs?
End of the day, Long-term is about partnership in it's truest sense
As a 40yr old divorced guy - I am messing about at the mo - but for me (and it is only my perspective)... When I want to settle again - it will be with a girl who "Loves Me 4 Me"
And I have no hangups about whether she has to get the bus to work or owns the company
Hook-ups... simple...get a flash car, money in the wallet, a decent crib, good clothes, decent haircut and cologne,
And there will plenty of people you can sell the transient dream to - and then when your done...move on to the next...
If that is what you want
And at some time in our life - we all want that....
But at some point...it becomes boring
I'd buy all that if so many fancy car drivers didn't marry the pretty young thing they bought the boob job for, but too many of them do. Which lets me know shallow is on both sides of the aisle.
Wow ... you can own an old car and still money in the bank / your shit together. What if he cares about the environment and wanted to keep his old car going rather than being disposable and chucking it in for a new one?
I'll admit to taking in to account physical attractiveness as one of the first things that draws me to someone, but their material stuff like their car, watch, clothes etc ... if I see someone that's being flash with that stuff to me that seems like its a substitute for more genuine traits, like "hey I don't have a great personality but look how much stuff I own". Of course, it might just be an aversion to people in flash cars who think that makes them a better person to someone walking / cycling / getting the bus
This is very interesting
So...in the UK (I don't know where you guys are based)... but the culture is one of being more unaffected by wealth
Our Prime Minister has made a point of buying his wife an old Nissan Micra - whilst he was the most powerful Man in the country
There is something quite classy about inconspicuous wealth - and what it attracts
Driving a flash car - is just that.... flash...unless you are a serious petrol-head
Otherwise it is a status symbol
And make no mistake - ostentatious wealth does not equate to mental/emotional happiness or fulfilment
Sometimes (and I am equally susceptible to this)... there is a misguided perception that the better things you have - make you a better person...
Or indeed a more "happy" person...
Which is a fallacy
What really matters is how someone makes you feel...
Do they make you feel loved/secure/optimistic/beautiful/spiritual/confident in yourself/comfortable
Dare I say it "connected" to the other person
Disclosure: I do now have a sports car - because I know it will attract a certain type of girl - don't get me wrong, there are great girls who don't know the name of a badge
But there are girls out there who go for a "package" - car/clothes/pad/wallet
Which is cool - as long as we both know (without saying it) what the "deal" is
When it comes to something more concrete though - something more sustainable - something more fulfiling
Then it is more about - would that person be with you to build with you...and if you then became broke...would they still be there to have your back, like you would theirs?
End of the day, Long-term is about partnership in it's truest sense
As a 40yr old divorced guy - I am messing about at the mo - but for me (and it is only my perspective)... When I want to settle again - it will be with a girl who "Loves Me 4 Me"
And I have no hangups about whether she has to get the bus to work or owns the company
Hook-ups... simple...get a flash car, money in the wallet, a decent crib, good clothes, decent haircut and cologne,
And there will plenty of people you can sell the transient dream to - and then when your done...move on to the next...
If that is what you want
And at some time in our life - we all want that....
But at some point...it becomes boring
You said exactly what I was thinking ... only you worded it much better than I did!
I'm UK based and have been with my wife 17 years this year. We were lucky; we met when both of us had nothing essentially (I was 18, she was 17) so we were able to grow and build our lives together. We'd both had a couple of short relationships before so weren't 'high school sweet hearts' or naive.
I'm so glad we found each other when we did as relationships these days seem like an absolute minefield. I get what you mean about the 'transient dream' and the appeal of it...I think we all have moments where we dream of that a little. But I know for sure it won't come close to what I have.
Seems to me that most partners really want someone who GETS them, who understands and accepts who they are.
I understand why some people list finances among the desirable traits. You want your partner to be independent, at least. If they are totally dependent on someone else, that implies they could eventually become totally dependent on me, which is scary when we're still on a first date.
Then it is more about - would that person be with you to build with you...and if you then became broke...would they still be there to have your back, like you would theirs?
Yes, I hear you. I think we're both saying the same thing.
I'm not about to disclose where I work but just know that I started at the total shit bottom and started working my way up over 4 and a half years...was just offered my choice of 2 new positions within the company today as a matter of fact.
When I was just out of college, I owned a couple Mercedes convertibles (a 1975 450 SL and then a new 1983 380 SL). In 1986, I sold the SL and bought two cars, one of which was a red Jeep CJ-7.
I can count on one hand the number of girls that my 380SL pulled in. But the Jeep?
Holy smokes, I could not keep the girls away! Now, I was the same guy in both cars, but I found out that, in my case any way, an expensive car was absolutely no attraction.
Then it is more about - would that person be with you to build with you...and if you then became broke...would they still be there to have your back, like you would theirs?
Yes, I hear you. I think we're both saying the same thing.
Thanks!!!
It reminds me of an old saying my Uncle shared with me once...
"When Money goes out the door...Love flies out of the window"...
..."So Son...when you do finally want to settle...make sure it is with a girl who isn't all about the money..."
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