CarrieMpls said:

If someone breaks up with you and you still want them, frankly there's nothing you can do. They are their own person who has already told you what they want - and that's to not be together.

The best thing to do for yourself is to have no contact so you can heal and not delude yourself into thinking you might be able to get back together.

Delete all the pics, all the chat/text history, cut all the social media and anything that remind you of your time together. Otherwise you'll torment yourself everytime you walk down memory lane & decide to check those stuff from time to time.

It may sound harsh and I'm sure its a scary thing to do because you get attached to them. But the memories in your mind/heart are more than enough, cherish them and give yourself time to heal.

My ex broke up with me and cut me off entirely, back then I thought it was a cruel thing to do but in retrospect, I think it was all for the best. Time healed me and I didn't any closure for it to happen.

I hope you get closure and heal from this and I do hope that you guys remain on good terms.

GeorgieAto said:

naw none of that.there's still love there on both sides..never had a fight or angry words its just right now both situations make it tough... like distance & family on both sides...in other words we can't be free at the moment to do what we want without stress on both sides..with the most stress being on her end..so i understand why it happened its just after 3 years i miss her

Of course you do miss her. Give yourself time to grief. And try to have fun on the good days. And allow yourself to cry on the bad days.


I promise you, it will get better. You will be able to move forward and have a good life without her.


And one day, you will notice that you have not thought about her all day. And then you will find yourself not thinking about her for a week. Some day you will notice that you did not think about her, for a whole year.

It just takes time to get over it. In the meantime, be good to yourself and do things that you like. Take a course in sewing clothes, carpent furniture, drawing, writing or whatever you like. Distract yourself by filling your time with things that make you tik.



this too will pass.

[Edited 3/21/16 16:27pm]

"She's a sweet girl and I love her to pieces, but fuck her man...You gotta get on with your life. You gotta let go of the past, and when you do, I'm telling ya, the future is beautiful!" - Trent in 'Swingers'

kitbradley said:

Throw yourself a pity party for a few days and then move on. A clean break is best. The only time begging works is when YOU are the one who f*cked the relationship up. But even then, begging doesn't always work. It's depending on what you did.

The thing is Georgieato said they've been together for 3yrs and they been split for only 12 days...They'll be back together and eating a Coca-Cola Ham with her family on Easter Sunday...

Like a band aid, rip it off! Watch out, don't fall for a rebound person...

Chancellor said:

Hamad said:

dJJ said:

You will save yourself a lot of time, sleep well, not get gray hairs etc if you accept it and move on

put the facts of the relationship/breakup together.
Think it over, write the person a letter of sorts releasing the things you may have turning around in your head. And let it go. Get among people you love/who love you.