NinaB said:

SeventeenDayze said:

SeventeenDayze said:

NinaB said:

NinaB said:

SeventeenDayze said:

maybe I could just use him for sex lol

Does that mean he's foine then?

SeventeenDayze said:

So I'm still trying my hand at online dating and came across a guy who caught my eye. He said he's 46 and has never been married and has no kids. I haven't really quizzed him much about why he's never been married but is that a red flag that he's made it to 46 without ever being married? To me, it seems that it's much easier for men to find women who want to get married than for women to find men who want to get married. I haven't met this guy in person yet (that should be coming up in the next few days or so) but I was wondering what you guys think. Could there be something wrong with this guy or should I just give him a chance and see what he's about first?

I dont see anything wrong with this, give him a chance. I might end up 46 unmarried with no kids but because I'm super selective & very picky, maybe the issue is with the people he's dating and not him. Selective men are hard to find, it maybe a good sign he's been uncaught.

LeonardZelig said:

SeventeenDayze said:

LeonardZelig said:

I dont see anything wrong with this, give him a chance. I might end up 46 unmarried with no kids but because I'm super selective & very picky, maybe the issue is with the people he's dating and not him. Selective men are hard to find, it maybe a good sign he's been uncaught.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts... What do you think about his job hopping though?

oh I didnt see that part, not good LOL he should have a steady CAREER by 46, he probably still lives at home with his mother find someone else

SeventeenDayze said:

So once I found out this guy's full name I looked him up online and came across his LinkedIn page. This guy's work history is suspect. There are several jobs where he was only there a few months! In one part of his job description he wrote that he worked 10 hour days but also slept a lot! Unreal... [Edited 7/11/15 13:16pm]

Does he have his own place or does he still live at home (living at home is a red flag)?

Does he have any chronic health issues?

What car does he drive?

What occupation does he have? Can't hold a job or jobless (red flag)

Is he in debt? broke? (both are red flags), or financially stable?

Has he ever been in jail? and if so, for what? What is his criminal background? (biggie red flag....... RUNNNNN!!), or is he a law abiding citizen?

How many girl friends has he had (online and in real life);

If you want to meet this guy in person, do so at a public place (for safety reasons). And don't let him pick you up or drop you off at your place (again for safety reasons). You don't know this dude that well yet to see if he is for real. Never let your guard down and always trust your intuition.

SeventeenDayze said:

Wow that DOES sound like bad luck! Do you know how long he knew her before moving her to the States? How terrible!

She is a Philippine..Can't remember how long they had the long-distance-thing going on but he had the money to travel to the Philippines and see her. He also would send her money..The money he sent fed her entire family including his future in-laws. They were Beyond Poor...My personal opinion, she used that Brotha..She had 5 kids (don't know if they had the same Daddy) and he was her ticket to get to The States...He was her BLESSING and he moved all of them here...She eventually got a job cleaning Hotel rooms and Slept with the Head Janitor...My friend found out by hearing her talk to the Dude on the phone in the other room, she thought he was asleep and stupid...They Divorced..He told me it hurt him more to lose the kids....I can't do the long distance relationship thing, and I definitely ain't trying to Holla at somebody Online in Japan..I'm not sending ANYBODY my hard earned Money no matter how sexy they Look in their online-pics...They can call me but I'm not running up my Cell-Bill to talk to somebody overseas...I'm still trying to save-up to make it to Hawaii...

nursev said:

Not married is ok...but not one kid? Run....run quickly

Oh it looks like things fizzled...we were texting each other back and forth trying to decide on when and where to meet up. Despite the fact that his profile said he has a car, it turns out that he really DOESN'T have one! Yes, I live in a "big city" but the public transit here needs improvement. It's not like New York to say the least. He was like, "Oh, I don't have a car so can you meet me at XYZ spot" (which of course is near where he lives). I didn't feel comfortable with that and I asked him what happened to his car. He said that he sold it before moving to the city. This didn't make sense to me since he told me before that he moved to the city nearly a year ago. It's impossible to survive here without a car so I asked him how he gets around. His response?...."I have wings"....I told him that he and I should reconnect when his life is more stable....So, ladies and gentleman, the mystery is solved. I CLEARLY see why this dude is 46 and never been married, LOL.

I have been in touch with a few other guys from the online dating sites that I use but nothing seems too promising. There are a lot of time wasters and guys who just apparently want a pen pal to pass the time.

I was in touch with a different guy who seemed like it could have been a connection BUT everything went south when he told me that he still has a female "friend" that he used to date when he lived in another city in our state but he's no longer "in love" with her but he loves her. In fact, he said she even stayed at his place a few weeks ago when she was in town for a family function but they haven't official dated since 2009 he said....needless to say, I ended that conversation as well. I don't need drama from women that he sees but no longer officially dates...

Geez, I removed myself from the dating world for YEARS only to come back to this? LOL

[Edited 7/13/15 8:40am]

SeventeenDayze said:

nursev said:

Not married is ok...but not one kid? Run....run quickly

Oh it looks like things fizzled...we were texting each other back and forth trying to decide on when and where to meet up. Despite the fact that his profile said he has a car, it turns out that he really DOESN'T have one! Yes, I live in a "big city" but the public transit here needs improvement. It's not like New York to say the least. He was like, "Oh, I don't have a car so can you meet me at XYZ spot" (which of course is near where he lives). I didn't feel comfortable with that and I asked him what happened to his car. He said that he sold it before moving to the city. This didn't make sense to me since he told me before that he moved to the city nearly a year ago. It's impossible to survive here without a car so I asked him how he gets around. His response?...."I have wings"....I told him that he and I should reconnect when his life is more stable....So, ladies and gentleman, the mystery is solved. I CLEARLY see why this dude is 46 and never been married, LOL.

I have been in touch with a few other guys from the online dating sites that I use but nothing seems too promising. There are a lot of time wasters and guys who just apparently want a pen pal to pass the time.

I was in touch with a different guy who seemed like it could have been a connection BUT everything went south when he told me that he still has a female "friend" that he used to date when he lived in another city in our state but he's no longer "in love" with her but he loves her. In fact, he said she even stayed at his place a few weeks ago when she was in town for a family function but they haven't official dated since 2009 he said....needless to say, I ended that conversation as well. I don't need drama from women that he sees but no longer officially dates...

Geez, I removed myself from the dating world for YEARS only to come back to this? LOL

[Edited 7/13/15 8:40am]

Yeah, major boolshyte here - busted

Online dating has too many pitfalls to be bothered with...

Hang in there Seventeen..It'll get better! It's good you found that out now.

TD3 said:

SPYZFAN1 said:

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

nursev said:

Not married is ok...but not one kid? Run....run quickly

Oh it looks like things fizzled...we were texting each other back and forth trying to decide on when and where to meet up. Despite the fact that his profile said he has a car, it turns out that he really DOESN'T have one! Yes, I live in a "big city" but the public transit here needs improvement. It's not like New York to say the least. He was like, "Oh, I don't have a car so can you meet me at XYZ spot" (which of course is near where he lives). I didn't feel comfortable with that and I asked him what happened to his car. He said that he sold it before moving to the city. This didn't make sense to me since he told me before that he moved to the city nearly a year ago. It's impossible to survive here without a car so I asked him how he gets around. His response?...."I have wings"....I told him that he and I should reconnect when his life is more stable....

"Holla when you got some wheels" Maybe he uses the transit system to get to and from work.

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Kinda bigoted. I am 51 and have never been married. Just haven't fell in love. Love is not an easy thing. Very mysterious. Sex, that's easy.

I take it he is a black dude? lol.

2freaky4church1 said:

Kinda bigoted. I am 51 and have never been married. Just haven't fell in love. Love is not an easy thing. Very mysterious. Sex, that's easy.

I take it he is a black dude? lol.

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

I would!

Genesia said:

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Well no, no one add the adjective "hot car", you did. Still, I agree with Erin.

expection: I'd give a man a pass if he lived in NY but othewise, red flag. A 46 year old man without a car... red flag.

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

to the OP: I strongly think you're both better off without each other