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Yeah I can understand that you have different priorities when you are recovering from a financial set back. Do you think you will ever be in a serious relationship again or have you not given it much thought? Trolls be gone! | |
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Haven't given it much thought | |
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So what do your family and friends think about it? I'm sure you don't care what they think but I'm just curious what they think Trolls be gone! | |
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I think my family understands that the pickings are slim out there. Before my mother got divorced, she used to wonder why I was still single. Now that she's in the dating game it's been AMAZING to see how less critical she has become of me for still being single. Amazing how that worked itself out!Wow Chancellor!!!..Your ex co-worker really went through the ringer. I don't know how I would have made it thru that. It seems now the days of meeting someone through someone (if you're over 30) is a thing of the past. Online dating is huge and mail order brides are popular. My buddy used to have REAL bad luck with women..He tried the mail order bride thing..He met his mail order bride online, she moved to the States and they seem to be doing real well. They have a child together but he found out she had a 17 year old daughter (in the Phillipines). The 17 year old now lives with them, but he's OK with it. I guess after all of the stuff he went through, he's real happy to finally have a wife and a family. | |
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I think the days of meeting someone in person as opposed to online dating are a thing of the past regardless if you're over 30 or not! Trolls be gone! | |
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uPtoWnNY said:[quote]
Always do what makes YOU happy.....fuck what society thinks.
Yes, I've been learning that the hard way, Thank u   "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Just curious, how have you learned the hard way? Any lessons you'd like to share? Trolls be gone! | |
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SeventeenDayze said:
Just curious, how have you learned the hard way? Any lessons you'd like to share? Tryna get me in trouble again with your curiosity?!  
Shit, that's a looonnnnggggg story! & I ain't brave enuf 2 put my biznis online like that! People have told me for yrs I should write an autobiography coz it's a lot.
That will never happen coz I'm mad private & telling my story would mean telling my loved ones business too. I'll say this, life truly IS SHORT, You face birth & death alone. In between the two no matter what u do someone's not gonna like it & people will always run their mouths. Everything is temporary, u own nothing, you're a caretaker. Fuck ego, vanity, materialism... all that matters is Love, love your people, be present in the moment with them coz none of us are here long. U can never take for granted that u or them will be here tomorrow. [Edited 7/10/15 9:15am] [Edited 7/10/15 9:47am] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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One other thing I'll share... how much of 'You' is 'You' ? & how much is programming/conditioning
from the times & place u were born into? Religions/Politics/Science/Education/Parents/Class/Race/Gender/Culture etc etc... [Edited 7/10/15 10:08am] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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I'm with Joni on that one ...We are stardust, billion year old carbon.
And the age old axiom "know thyself" In other words SeventeenDayze Do You! [Edited 7/10/15 10:19am] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Yes, I really wish you would write an autobiography! I just love the way you write
As far as dating goes, I am just tired of running into timewasters! For example, there was one guy's profile that I saw that I liked. We started messaging each other on the system. Then he's like, oh, lemme give you my number so you can text. We started texting and he's like why don't you call me. I called him. He didn't answer and I left a voicemail and he never called back! This guy wasted nearly two days messaging me just to disappear once I actually reached out to him. I don't have a husky sailor's voice or anything so that couldn't be the reason he didn't return my call. He's just another timewaster on the internet who enjoys seeing how many numbers they can get but they have no intention whatsover of going forward with getting to know someone. I am noticing a lot of this with guys who are in their 30s and 40s. Trolls be gone! | |
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I'm age 40 and still happily single with no children. | |
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SeventeenDayze said:
Yes, I really wish you would write an autobiography! I just love the way you write
As far as dating goes, I am just tired of running into timewasters! For example, there was one guy's profile that I saw that I liked. We started messaging each other on the system. Then he's like, oh, lemme give you my number so you can text. We started texting and he's like why don't you call me. I called him. He didn't answer and I left a voicemail and he never called back! This guy wasted nearly two days messaging me just to disappear once I actually reached out to him. I don't have a husky sailor's voice or anything so that couldn't be the reason he didn't return my call. He's just another timewaster on the internet who enjoys seeing how many numbers they can get but they have no intention whatsover of going forward with getting to know someone. I am noticing a lot of this with guys who are in their 30s and 40s. It's so funny u said u love the way I write! That's a first! Thank u! Somewhere my Mum is laughing right now She wrote beautifully & corrected my grammar/punctuation etc for me well into my adulthood. She, i, & numerous teachers would scratch our heads & laugh over the fact I eat books, love words, am articulate yet something goes very wrong inbetween my mouth & the page. Also I'm on a cell & get slack & tend 2 revert 2 text speech. I'm gonna post this now Coz if I take too long when I hit post everything gets lost! Give me 5 mins while I write another post responding 2 the online dating situation. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Yeah I read your other thread about this too.
I thought that lady who had 2 long term relationships (with men she met online) gave some really good advice. I didn't like that shit where he sat outside 2 watch u on the sly! or the rest. But saying that i still wanna say don't give up, def gonna have 2 kiss a few frogs so 2 speak. I say all this knowing damn well online dating ain't something I'm built 4! But don't give up! Anything u want you're gonna be tested for. [Edited 7/10/15 13:41pm] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Oh and wouldn't talking to them on Skype first cut down on some of the wasted time? [Edited 7/10/15 13:44pm] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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I'm guessing they think I'm "different", but only a few have asked "what's wrong with you not wanting to settle down"? (like my maternal grandmother, RIP). My family knows I've always gone my own way.
I really think single women get more crap than single men. Why does a woman have to get married and have kids in order to be fufilled as a woman? Never understood that. | |
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NinaB said: Oh and wouldn't talking to them on Skype first cut down on some of the wasted time? [Edited 7/10/15 13:44pm] I dunno I'd rather see them in person instead of video first. I need to see how tall they really are, how they are dressed, what they smell like etc. Trolls be gone! | |
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uPtoWnNY said:
I'm guessing they think I'm "different", but only a few have asked "what's wrong with you not wanting to settle down"? (like my maternal grandmother, RIP). My family knows I've always gone my own way.
I really think single women get more crap than single men. Why does a woman have to get married and have kids in order to be fufilled as a woman? Never understood that. Trolls be gone! | |
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NinaB said: Yeah I read your other thread about this too. So do you still meet people the old fashioned way? It seems so hard to meet people that ways nowadaysI thought that lady who had 2 long term relationships (with men she met online) gave some really good advice. I didn't like that shit where he sat outside 2 watch u on the sly! or the rest. But saying that i still wanna say don't give up, def gonna have 2 kiss a few frogs so 2 speak. I say all this knowing damn well online dating ain't something I'm built 4! But don't give up! Anything u want you're gonna be tested for. [Edited 7/10/15 13:41pm] Trolls be gone! | |
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...he probably wants to keep being single  | |
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SeventeenDayze said: NinaB said: Yeah I read your other thread about this too.
So do you still meet people the old fashioned way? It seems so hard to meet people that ways nowadaysI thought that lady who had 2 long term relationships (with men she met online) gave some really good advice. I didn't like that shit where he sat outside 2 watch u on the sly! or the rest. But saying that i still wanna say don't give up, def gonna have 2 kiss a few frogs so 2 speak. I say all this knowing damn well online dating ain't something I'm built 4! But don't give up! Anything u want you're gonna be tested for. [Edited 7/10/15 13:41pm] Yeah I suppose so, I mean men have stepped to me in the old fashioned way of on street, out & about, thru people I know etc. These last few yrs tho my focus has been on serious matters & I've really not been on the frequency. Also I ain't feeling none of the ones who've tried it. Seen 2 much shit, some of them prob woulda had a chance in my late teens - early thirties but now I see shit lightning quick. Can't see me ever living with anyone again either. I'm now at a point where I'm really used to the solitude & silence in my home. [Edited 7/10/15 16:51pm] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: SeventeenDayze said: So do you still meet people the old fashioned way? It seems so hard to meet people that ways nowadays Yeah I suppose so, I mean men have stepped to me in the old fashioned way of on street, out & about, thru people I know etc. These last few yrs tho my focus has been on serious matters & I've really not been on the frequency. Also I ain't feeling none of the ones who've tried it. Seen 2 much shit, some of them prob woulda had a chance in my late teens - early thirties but now I see shit lightning quick. Can't see me ever living with anyone again either. I'm now at a point where I'm really used to the solitude & silence in my home. [Edited 7/10/15 16:51pm] Trolls be gone! | |
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SeventeenDayze said: NinaB said: Yeah I suppose so, I mean men have stepped to me in the old fashioned way of on street, out & about, thru people I know etc. These last few yrs tho my focus has been on serious matters & I've really not been on the frequency. Also I ain't feeling none of the ones who've tried it. Seen 2 much shit, some of them prob woulda had a chance in my late teens - early thirties but now I see shit lightning quick. Can't see me ever living with anyone again either. I'm now at a point where I'm really used to the solitude & silence in my home. [Edited 7/10/15 16:51pm] I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a decent man, but he ain't moving in! Sex for sex's sake with the wrong guy just ain't worth the multilayerd price imo. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Yeah it would be nice to be in a good relationship. I think the problem that I am having is finding available men who are actually interested in the same thing. It seems that as the years go by it's become harder and harder to find this. I have to sort through an enormous amount of time wasters and players online who are predators seeking to hurt women along the way. It's been a few years since I have been actively trying to date and it seems that the cesspool that I escaped from hasn't left! There are so many weird guys, losers, players and all around jerks out there that just aren't worth my time. There just has to be hope out there somewhere. But, I guess being hopeful that a 46 year old never married man with no kids might not be the best man to get my hopes up about! Trolls be gone! | |
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Lemme get this straight: If a man has resisted marriage because he values the institution enough to NOT want to get married to the wrong person or for the wrong reason, and if a man is responsible enough to avoid bringing a child into this world with the wrong person or in the wrong situation, he should be forced to prove there's nothing wrong with him? "Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself." | |
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thanks for bringing some sense into this mess of a thread | |
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So once I found out this guy's full name I looked him up online and came across his LinkedIn page. This guy's work history is suspect. There are several jobs where he was only there a few months! In one part of his job description he wrote that he worked 10 hour days but also slept a lot! Unreal... [Edited 7/11/15 13:16pm] Trolls be gone! | |
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"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself." | |
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Funny Trolls be gone! | |
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SeventeenDayze said:
Yeah it would be nice to be in a good relationship. I think the problem that I am having is finding available men who are actually interested in the same thing. It seems that as the years go by it's become harder and harder to find this. I have to sort through an enormous amount of time wasters and players online who are predators seeking to hurt women along the way. It's been a few years since I have been actively trying to date and it seems that the cesspool that I escaped from hasn't left! There are so many weird guys, losers, players and all around jerks out there that just aren't worth my time. There just has to be hope out there somewhere. But, I guess being hopeful that a 46 year old never married man with no kids might not be the best man to get my hopes up about! I & a number of grown women hear u on the slim pickings. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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