After a very, VERY long hiatus from dating, I decided to create an online profile on a dating site (that I will not name for the moment). I really don't know what to expect but back in the day when I used dating sites it never really seemed to go anywhere with the guys that I met. Have any of you had good dating experiences from online dating sites? I might be meeting a guy this weekend and we'll see how that goes. Right now, he seems really eager to meet even though we just started chatting a few days ago.

What has the online dating experience been for some of you guys?

I had horrible experiences, because people lie, they don't tell you what you should know. So unless you are a parnoid person who has trust issues and a detective, you may not fair so well.

I guess I am a gullable person to think that there should be nice people in this world who do not mind sharing all of themselves openly if they are looking for love (or not), so they can find exactly what they are looking for ... if everyone was honest (if only). But no... bitches have herpes, married, mental health issues, abusive, ugly or are only looking for a come-up, they troll websites because they are too fucked up to date locally and so they want to pollute the world with their dysfunction and cast a wider net looking for more victims.

Good luck... BTW online dating, I found out a new thing called phimosis. Fuck online dating. Liars and head cases. But I am sure you will do better than me.

I only do online dating, sex dates and regular dates.

Never met a faker or something like that.

Sometimes the click just wasn´t there, my expectations were different, but most of the time it´s great and i date a lot.

What i hardly do is chat for months and than meet. I just meet and see where it goes.

Anyway, have fun, and be careful!

Not good. My wife hates it for some reason, says I'm an asshole.

Online dating can be a hit or miss..I feel it's no different than meeting someone in Public..Even if the Online person is picture-perfect & give Good-talk, meeting & talking face to face tells the whole story...People can come across as down-to-earth and when you start dating you realize they are too boring, bad in bed or whatever...I have no Online dating horror stories..If it was not a Match then it was not a Match..

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Empress said:

Thankfully, I've never had to do it. I really think it would creep me out. So many people on the internet are full shit and not who they say they are, so I'm really glad I don't have to play that game.

Your post is full of shit.

Nobody has to do it...it's a choice. For some people its fun.

Most people are pretty honest on the internet, just like in real life.

I hate that when people say other people don't say who they really are.

So you're always truly yourself in real life??? Never lie?

Call me old-fashioned but I'd rather our initial meeting be face to face. That way, I can tell right off the bat if they have missing teeth or halitosis or something. That way, I won't waste my time.

paintedlady said:

I had horrible experiences, because people lie, they don't tell you what you should know. So unless you are a parnoid person who has trust issues and a detective, you may not fair so well.

I guess I am a gullable person to think that there should be nice people in this world who do not mind sharing all of themselves openly if they are looking for love (or not), so they can find exactly what they are looking for ... if everyone was honest (if only). But no... bitches have herpes, married, mental health issues, abusive, ugly or are only looking for a come-up, they troll websites because they are too fucked up to date locally and so they want to pollute the world with their dysfunction and cast a wider net looking for more victims.

Good luck... BTW online dating, I found out a new thing called phimosis. Fuck online dating. Liars and head cases. But I am sure you will do better than me.

Yeah I have been out of the dating game in general for some years now. I am just now recently trying to get back into it and it seems a bit weird to say the least. There are guys who are content with having a brief chat or text message session but they never take it to the next level to actually meet. Then, there are other guys who are in a rush to meet and don't really want to talk much over the phone or text over the phone until they meet in person.

There is one guy that I was thinking about meeting but it seems that he has a few quirks that are a bit strange to me. For example, he asked me if I could tell him my full name but I told him that I wanted to know his full name first. Is that weird? I dunno....that seemed to annoy him a bit. But, I think I would rather have that information first before I give my information out. It all seems silly but you just never know these days. It seems that as soon as someone gets your name the first thing they do is run to Google and start digging around for as much information as possible. This is what sucks about 21st century dating!

kitbradley said:

Call me old-fashioned but I'd rather our initial meeting be face to face. That way, I can tell right off the bat if they have missing teeth or halitosis or something. That way, I won't waste my time.

Yeah over the past few years I had refused to do online dating but it seems that meeting the old-fashioned way is really not happening as much anymore. It's kind of a sign of the times it seems.

My experiences have been most of the guys are just looking for a hook up. Also, the area I am in, there is a large population of "polyamorous" and they are always looking for their 3rd, 4th, 5th, "lover". I've not had any good experiences with it.

prittypriss said:

My experiences have been most of the guys are just looking for a hook up. Also, the area I am in, there is a large population of "polyamorous" and they are always looking for their 3rd, 4th, 5th, "lover". I've not had any good experiences with it.

Oh wow, where do you live? LOL

SeventeenDayze said:

prittypriss said:

My experiences have been most of the guys are just looking for a hook up. Also, the area I am in, there is a large population of "polyamorous" and they are always looking for their 3rd, 4th, 5th, "lover". I've not had any good experiences with it.

Oh wow, where do you live? LOL

South Carolina - but the "polyamorous" live in Asheville, NC.

I met my husband online sixteen years ago, though not on a dating site. We're still together now. I met a few people before I met him and, aside from one, they were all perfectly normal.

maplenpg said:

I met my husband online sixteen years ago, though not on a dating site. We're still together now. I met a few people before I met him and, aside from one, they were all perfectly normal.

I second this. When you're both on a site of your favourite musician, or author, or artist, or whatever, you already have something in common, which is I think the best possible environment to meet someone. What d'you need dating sites for, you've got the Org....?

(have there been many couples who actually met *here*? I'd love to know.....)

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kitbradley said:

paintedlady said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

paintedlady said:

BTW online dating, I found out a new thing called phimosis.

What is phimosis?

Don't you worry about being catfished?

paintedlady said:

I had horrible experiences, because people lie, they don't tell you what you should know. So unless you are a parnoid person who has trust issues and a detective, you may not fair so well.

I guess I am a gullable person to think that there should be nice people in this world who do not mind sharing all of themselves openly if they are looking for love (or not), so they can find exactly what they are looking for ... if everyone was honest (if only). But no... bitches have herpes, married, mental health issues, abusive, ugly or are only looking for a come-up, they troll websites because they are too fucked up to date locally and so they want to pollute the world with their dysfunction and cast a wider net looking for more victims.

Good luck... BTW online dating, I found out a new thing called phimosis. Fuck online dating. Liars and head cases. But I am sure you will do better than me.

I agree with what you've stated. I would never trust anybody that I met online, for the very reason you stated: liars. I don't have time for that shit in my life, so I don't bother with it.

kitbradley said:

Call me old-fashioned but I'd rather our initial meeting be face to face. That way, I can tell right off the bat if they have missing teeth or halitosis or something. That way, I won't waste my time.

wildgoldenhoney said:

Don't you worry about being catfished?

That would definitely be a concern of mine.

I'm currently in my second long term relationship started online.

All together I have gone out with a dozen guys.

Most only once, three more than once, and two great men I fell in love with.

My advice for anyone thinking about online dating is relax and have fun with it.

Always talk to the person a couple of times before meeting face to face.

One surprise call from me at 7:30 pm revealed a guy was already three sheets to the wind.

Most common misreprentation - AGE.

I add five years and subtract three inches of height from every guys description- I'm usually right.

I always gave a current picture. My dates where always happy that I looked the same as the picture.

One guy told me he meet a woman who used her daughter's picture as her own.

If your not looking for a strictly sexual relationship do not respond to anyone who says they what sexy and sensual - period. Don't repond to anyone who just tell you want they want, not who they are, or really didn't put any effort in their profile.

That's my two cents.

Well, I finally met this guy in person and it was a total shock. He looked nothing like his picture. In fact, I think he may have used some else's picture! He wasn't the same height that he claimed he was. He said he was 6'5'' but he looked more like 6'2''. This creep also tricked me into thinking he was inside of the restaurant waiting for me. He sent me a text saying he was inside waiting but when I got inside he was no where to be found. This jerk decided to wait in his car and watch me walk in before he got out to actually meet me. That really creeped me out. Despite the fact that we met for dinner, he didn't order anything to eat and despite telling me in advance that it would be his treat when the bill came he only paid HALF the bill. He picked up the bill, looked at it and was like, "I'll put half on that" and then put the bill back down. He then tried putting his arm around me and hugging me as we were leaving. What a creep. I came out of dating retirement just to have THIS happen? Geez! LOL

SeventeenDayze said:

Well, I finally met this guy in person and it was a total shock. He looked nothing like his picture. In fact, I think he may have used some else's picture! He wasn't the same height that he claimed he was. He said he was 6'5'' but he looked more like 6'2''. This creep also tricked me into thinking he was inside of the restaurant waiting for me. He sent me a text saying he was inside waiting but when I got inside he was no where to be found. This jerk decided to wait in his car and watch me walk in before he got out to actually meet me. That really creeped me out. Despite the fact that we met for dinner, he didn't order anything to eat and despite telling me in advance that it would be his treat when the bill came he only paid HALF the bill. He picked up the bill, looked at it and was like, "I'll put half on that" and then put the bill back down. He then tried putting his arm around me and hugging me as we were leaving. What a creep. I came out of dating retirement just to have THIS happen? Geez! LOL

I'm sorry you had a bad experience. What happened to you are the exact reasons why I would never try online dating. I admit to joining several dating services when I was much, MUCH younger (in my 20s). I had some not-so-nice experiences with some of the men that I met as "blind dates". Those experiences have cured me of even attempting to go on another blind date. I have absolutely no interest in it now. Hopefully this will be a one-time thing for you, and your other dates will be better.

psychodelicide said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Well, I finally met this guy in person and it was a total shock. He looked nothing like his picture. In fact, I think he may have used some else's picture! He wasn't the same height that he claimed he was. He said he was 6'5'' but he looked more like 6'2''. This creep also tricked me into thinking he was inside of the restaurant waiting for me. He sent me a text saying he was inside waiting but when I got inside he was no where to be found. This jerk decided to wait in his car and watch me walk in before he got out to actually meet me. That really creeped me out. Despite the fact that we met for dinner, he didn't order anything to eat and despite telling me in advance that it would be his treat when the bill came he only paid HALF the bill. He picked up the bill, looked at it and was like, "I'll put half on that" and then put the bill back down. He then tried putting his arm around me and hugging me as we were leaving. What a creep. I came out of dating retirement just to have THIS happen? Geez! LOL

I'm sorry you had a bad experience. What happened to you are the exact reasons why I would never try online dating. I admit to joining several dating services when I was much, MUCH younger (in my 20s). I had some not-so-nice experiences with some of the men that I met as "blind dates". Those experiences have cured me of even attempting to go on another blind date. I have absolutely no interest in it now. Hopefully this will be a one-time thing for you, and your other dates will be better.

Yeah it was disappointing but I'm glad that I only spent a few days of my time talking to him before finally seeing him in person and seeing that there was zero attraction and a lot of dishonesty on his part. I never gave him my actual phone number but gave him my Google Voice number (and he complained about that) so hopefully now that I have blocked his number there will be no more encounters of any kind with this guy. I'm hoping that things will get better and that I have better dates coming up in the future. This guy that I met was a total creep and said a lot of ridiculous things to me during the date. It was the worst possible date that I could have had after not having dated for a couple of years now!