well...all good things come to an end, inlcuding love. i ams ure she has hergood reasons but she hates me and theliats goes on

....how i look a fat asian

....how i treat my threekids..not very well it seems

how i make love...

i dont take her out...

i dont do the house work

i tellher off

...she loves me but i ama thorn inher side

not in love with me

...that i shoat in the mornings

...that i have autism...

in her defence i understand how stressfull life is, on a day to day basbasis all i want is to get te kids to school on ti,e get to work, get her to work, make dinner, tidy up, pick up my son every night...and yes i love wild sex. i cany deny i have my moments. \i have always stcuk with her,indeed today i said that you are agreat mum, during a meeeting with our sons team, ashe has aspergers. in mydefence iam a full time dad and i am not perfect.

i cant remember the last time she put her arms around me...saying that iam no angel, but ditto, but i never stop her from having her fun.

i am glad ive posted this as its eased the pain and i amhappy to welcome any suggestions

is there a quick fix if your wife hates you?

are you happy with who you are?... before she told you these things, were you happy?... i mean truly happy

MoBettaBliss said:

are you happy with who you are?... before she told you these things, were you happy?... i mean truly happy

I may of been happy once. it just seems that everythng i say and do, i really try to do the right thing from the mOment i wake up...and itS always wrong. you can love all those aroud you and still get hurt at every turn. But then Mo, i accept that this is what i have to do as human being and is part of the human condition. My heart hurts more and more and my love for those around me is more then enough to see me through i think, through these dark moments, i hope so. This is the challenge. I am not the ony one but this only helps when you have time to thin about stuff.

when was I really happy

well infact for a short time today wen i was sitting wit my youngest and helping him to get ready to go to sleep, playing on ps3, that was the last time i was happy.

any way she said sorry for the things but we seem to have gone back to sqaure one. A situation developed in which I did my best to manage and I did the right thing to keep people safe. i understand what is at stake. Even that is not good enough. sometimes there is no right or wrong answer and you have t think fast to prevent any more damage being done..olnly you can do your best.

i think some radical change is required but not sure what it is...

..i keep on having the same dream..it starts ona beach with calm sea...

and thanks Mo.

Change yourself and re-committ to the life you have.

Easier said then done I know, but if you love her, show her with actions.

Talk means nothing.

Just my

m22 said:

MoBettaBliss said:

are you happy with who you are?... before she told you these things, were you happy?... i mean truly happy

I may of been happy once. it just seems that everythng i say and do, i really try to do the right thing from the mOment i wake up...and itS always wrong. you can love all those aroud you and still get hurt at every turn. But then Mo, i accept that this is what i have to do as human being and is part of the human condition. My heart hurts more and more and my love for those around me is more then enough to see me through i think, through these dark moments, i hope so. This is the challenge. I am not the ony one but this only helps when you have time to thin about stuff.

when was I really happy

well infact for a short time today wen i was sitting wit my youngest and helping him to get ready to go to sleep, playing on ps3, that was the last time i was happy.

any way she said sorry for the things but we seem to have gone back to sqaure one. A situation developed in which I did my best to manage and I did the right thing to keep people safe. i understand what is at stake. Even that is not good enough. sometimes there is no right or wrong answer and you have t think fast to prevent any more damage being done..olnly you can do your best.

i think some radical change is required but not sure what it is...

..i keep on having the same dream..it starts ona beach with calm sea...

and thanks Mo.

i guess what i was getting at is i think sometimes we can expect our loved ones to be happy ... even if we're not
i mean if you're cruising along in a blissful state and someone comes at you from out of nowhere and voices their frustration, that can be a different thing

how are you managing your autism?... do you have any support?

i'm sure the fact that your son has asbergers puts a lot of extra pressure on you guys (i'm also sure he brings you a lot of joy)

how is the communication between you two?... do you sit down and really talk?... i know it can be hard to find the time

i'd suggest you try and look at what she said honestly, trying to take the hurt out of it, and ask yourself if there's any merit to it... you'll know if there is

i mean should you do more housework?.... do you shout in the mornings? etc... and if so, what can you do about it?

and what are you frustrated about?... what can be done about it?

it sounds like you guys have a lot going on... i hope you can get to a place where you feel you have each other's backs... imo, you both being willing to communicate is the key