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Thread started 10/04/13 1:14pm

paisleypark4

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new boyfriend curious questions....help?

So i have been dating a guy for three months now and these things
In particular raises my eyebrow...what should i do?
Or not do?

Ok hes really hot ..39 ..really built and i wanna sleep with
Him but we still have not had sex. He says he wants to make sure im
Not a cockhopper and that i am "the one". Good lord no guy
Ever made me wait this long. Im losing my mind but i have been a good boy.

Second, he has a dog with his ex. They been broken up for a year
And he picks up the dog weekly to spend the night or walk her. He says he doea jot feel sexually
Or emotionally attracted to him anymore after their five year relationship.


I also left my ex in Jan and feel the same about him.

I dunno..could this guy be genuine? Im scared what u think?
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Reply #1 posted 10/05/13 4:53am

missfee

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If your instincts are recognizing red flags, then you should pay attention to them.

[Edited 10/5/13 4:53am]

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Reply #2 posted 10/05/13 5:12am

tinaz

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Would you feel any different if it was a child he was picking up? Your just feeling insecure... Just because they still have the dog that brings him in contact with the ex doesnt mean they are sleeping together... Unless, like Miss fee said, your "real" gut is telling you different, not the voice in your head.... People can be civil with their exes without screwing them...
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Reply #3 posted 10/05/13 12:12pm

Shyra

Well, three months is a bit of a stretch, but maybe this guy wants to take his time and really get to know you before jumping your bones. But if you're feeling something isn't right, then heed your instincts and tread litghtly. He might be hinding something.

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Reply #4 posted 10/05/13 3:08pm

dJJ

What's the issue here?


If he would want to be with his ex, he would still be with him, right?


Obviously, he'd rather be with you.

I think sex changes a lot in a relationship. So, I understand that he wants to wait and see how your personalities are going together, before you both get all in.

Just give eachother some time and see where it goes.


Having contact with an ex does not seem weird to me. I still see some exes now and then, they'r good friends, but also an ex for a reason. Nothing to be jalous about.

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Reply #5 posted 10/07/13 7:32pm

paisleypark4

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Thanks guys!!

yeah I don't exactly feel anything. I just never dealt with this kind of circumstance before so don't know how to understand it. Im letting go however of the built up wall and just embracing it. Guess it's better than children.

The dog actually really likes me and when i come over sleeps on my legs. Never met the ex before but don't think I need to. Dont think he need to meet mine either although we have tons of mutual friends

Thanks I have calmed down really....

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Reply #6 posted 10/10/13 2:00am

ScarletScandal

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More power to you Izzy! I couldn't do it!

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Reply #7 posted 10/19/13 12:25pm

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ScarletScandal said:

More power to you Izzy! I couldn't do it!

LOL!!! Defenitley mind over matter

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Reply #8 posted 10/19/13 6:28pm

Cinny

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He needs to put out, like, yesterday.

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Reply #9 posted 10/19/13 6:31pm

Cinny

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paisleypark4 said:

Not a cockhopper and that i am "the one".

Yknow, you might be hoppin to the next anyway if he remains that cagey. Would "the one" really resist for that long (even in the olden days of this sort of thinking, I am sure waiting was impossible for truly attracted partners)?

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Reply #10 posted 10/29/13 4:36pm

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Cinny said:

paisleypark4 said:

Not a cockhopper and that i am "the one".

Yknow, you might be hoppin to the next anyway if he remains that cagey. Would "the one" really resist for that long (even in the olden days of this sort of thinking, I am sure waiting was impossible for truly attracted partners)?

clapping Well we finally had an orgasm together but intercourse he been sending messages and giving signals but stops me when its time. Im an aggressive sexual partner so taming myself is quite hard and I almost feel for bait about 4 times already.

Dude don't even know what im doing to keep myself out of trouble.

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