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Monogamy is abnormal and unnatural It just is. 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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I think it goes against our nature to be monogamous, but Western society expects us to be. Monogamy is a choice. I myself cannot be 100% monogamous, I consider myself monogam-ish: there has to be some room to fool around with someone else at some stage. Doesn't have to be often, but the idea that I'm only limited to having sex with one and the same person for the rest of my life will not work for me. I'm always upfront about it when meeting a potential partner | |
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Swans, snow-geese, gibbons, wolves, albatrosses, voles, turtle doves...caring, grooming, huddling each other for life.
Just a few examples from nature to demonstrate that monogamy can be in fact normal and natural.
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Human beings are a strange creature...we are a varied species with many differences. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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So is wearing shoes or pants, sitting a commode, sleeping in a bed and a host of things we do on a daily basis that make life bearable. In other words we found out that just being purely natural sometimes doesn't work out so well for human beings as a group. Monogamy is very challenging and a lot are not up to the challenge. | |
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While I do think finding the right person might help someone be monogamous when they previously weren't interested, I do think it's more difficult for some people than others. If someone knows they have a hard time with it or finds it “unnatural” for themselves, I would tend to believe them. I know what feels right for me, I’m not going to tell someone else what feels right for them.
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It is against all nature.............it really is. | |
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Monogamy shouldn't be a rule that is forced upon a relationship, because that way it will only serve an illusion and suppress unwanted emotions (which will still be there, nevertheless). The illusion that "you shouldn't sleep with other people when you're 'with' someone" only serves to get rid of the effect, but never deals with the causel, which might simply be that your "significant other" doesn't give you all that you want/need. | |
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morningsong said: So is wearing shoes or pants, sitting a commode, sleeping in a bed and a host of things we do on a daily basis that make life bearable. In other words we found out that just being purely natural sometimes doesn't work out so well for human beings as a group. Monogamy is very challenging and a lot are not up to the challenge. Not necessary to put down people who don't wish to partake in monogamy by saying they're not up to the challenge. Sounds like a dumb challenge. People should just do what they want as long as they're not hurting anyone else. The "challenge" of not ever having physical relations with anyone except one particular person for a whole lifetime, when you are sure as hell also attracted to other people, seems like a big waste of time. You think someone's gonna give you a medal on your deathbed? I'd rather my challenges be things like writing a really good song, doing my job successfully and gaining the respect of my peers, making a living out of doing something I really enjoy, becoming more proficient at things I like to do and becoming a good cook than some kind of deprivation! Music, sweet music, I wish I could caress and...kiss, kiss... | |
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I think it's against men's nature. My Legacy
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No, it isn't--several species of animals are monogamous by nature. "Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
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I don't think there's anything strange about people losing interest in their partners after a certain time spent with them. However, I'm quite convinced that it's "natural" to stay committed to you partner and your family at least during the period when the children are growing up. The idea that all men are "designed" to mate with as many as women as possible doesn't seem correct to me. | |
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First you're automatically imposing more on what I wrote than what I actually wrote. I could care less what people agree on within their own relationships whether they jump every 3 months to a new one, stay thoroughly committed til death or choose to remain single enjoying other life's challenges. I'm defying saying that monogamy is not natural, period, I'd like to know what do human beings do on a regular basis that is natural yet we still expect each other to do it, no excuses, because it has worked better for our overall survival. It is what it is, bullshitting about doesn't change it. I think it's a silly statement to attach to anything that's difficult and challenging. . Even in societies where males can just choose as many mates as they want, when you talk to the woman in those societies, you find out they're not happy, they're just forced to put up with a situation so they deal with it. I don't think there's a system that's going to make anybody happy. | |
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1.) Can't blame Western Society for everything, especially since most societies have monogomy the 'primitive' Natives of South America mate for life
2.) You can't only because you choose to, not saying you have to, it just means you choose to. If you are lying to a partner or spouse or lead them to believe 1 thing and you are doing something else. Then that is a very different issue.
3.) Many people never learn self control and what to do if a situation occurs... I mean we are dealing with 'appetites'. And many people get in trouble (because you dealing with another human, who may have jealousy issues, diseases, etc) many people bring trouble back to the other person.
4.) I always say go for whatever you want, if you want multiple partners be honest, because someone else does too. But for people to get into a relationship where the other person most likely is looking for straight out monogamy, that's dishonest
5.) Most people don't go deep with sex, sex with the same partner can be a bottomless well of lust desire fantasies etc. Many people don't have sex right. | |
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People talk about a life time, like from the time they come into the world till the time they reach 120yrs their tied to that one person. Most people don't even live to be 55yrs old. Most people start being sexually active from 17-20 depending on gender(something like that) and of course as we age we have less sex. (even with Viagra) so the idea of being with 1 person for a lifetime, shouldn't be that bad, especially because companionship is really big as we get older. Some people aren't up to the challenge, and a lot of people don't know why they do what they do or like what they like. And a lot of people are not honest with what they want or like. If a person doesn't want a monogamous relationship, then be honest with the other person. But a lot of people are not. And that's where hurting others and trouble comes in. There are all kinds of diseases out there, and a lot of troubled people have sex. . This definately isn't a perfect world, and sex can be very good or very bad.
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It's it not your nature to be monogamous, then don't be. But it is ridiculous to me to say its not natural or tat it has to be forced. I think some people look for an excuse to not honor their commitments. | |
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Even in those cultures where polygamy is allowed, there have been interviews with the women in those situations, and from what comes back, I can say isn't natural either. To subject yourself to feeling of jealousy, competition and rejection. Because they all seem to feel those when a new women enters the relationship.
. If she could have it so she has other men or women as well then cool. But watch how the man reacts if she brings another home.
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There you go and here in-lies the issue... because some folks would rather lie for various reasons. They want their cake and they want to eat it too.
For human beings by in large I think its an unatural state.
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By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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