tinaz said:

dJJ said:

That is what I wish for myself!

A relationship with somebody who apreciates what I'd do for him and who will make an effort to make me happy, too.

Effortless, just because you both want to be happy, as well as the other.

You and your husband sound great together.

Thank you! I soooo wish that for you as well!

Im not going to lie and say the road has always been smooth, because weve had our moments!

But in the overall big picture it is effortless because making each other happy is a part of what we enjoy..

Thats not saying I nor he gives up anything major within ourselves, or that we only live for each other, but that we are aware of each other and whats makes us happy and make the effort to keep working on it..

I could say I am a very lucky girl, but, i dont think luck plays into anything.. It takes effort on both parts to create and keep a good relationship! But both parties have to want this.. When you find your guy, (or girl) You have to be able to let go of a part of "yourself" so you can become a part of them which is why I cant understand the selfishness of people who demad their mate to make them happy but take no part or effort in the turn around of it all..

I am not trying to be "preachy" at anyone, Just kind of putting it out there from my life experiences and what has worked for us.. Heck, I have 25 "married" years under my belt!!

FUCK ME that makes me sound old!!!

I love the bolded parts!

Serious said:

tinaz said:

Thank you! I soooo wish that for you as well!

Im not going to lie and say the road has always been smooth, because weve had our moments!

But in the overall big picture it is effortless because making each other happy is a part of what we enjoy..

Thats not saying I nor he gives up anything major within ourselves, or that we only live for each other, but that we are aware of each other and whats makes us happy and make the effort to keep working on it..

I could say I am a very lucky girl, but, i dont think luck plays into anything.. It takes effort on both parts to create and keep a good relationship! But both parties have to want this.. When you find your guy, (or girl) You have to be able to let go of a part of "yourself" so you can become a part of them which is why I cant understand the selfishness of people who demad their mate to make them happy but take no part or effort in the turn around of it all..

I am not trying to be "preachy" at anyone, Just kind of putting it out there from my life experiences and what has worked for us.. Heck, I have 25 "married" years under my belt!!

FUCK ME that makes me sound old!!!

I love the bolded parts!

Yeah me too!!

Last summer I was with someone that didn't particularly enjoy kissing. That didn't work with me as I'm one of those people that believe a relationship is about spending the rest of your life attached from your mouth to the other person.

Preach it Tinaz!

We hear you.

And, yes, I'll dig up my running shoes out of a box.

I may be very wrong; after all I am single at 51 so what do I know. Things seem to flow best with couples that have some overlapping but are not entirely perfect for one another. They sort of have a shared "subset" of interests. (Remember your grammar school math with the interlocking circles,lol). They both bring something different into the relationship but they can also do at least a few things together without one of them having to completely ignore the fact that they are bored out of their mind.

Things I could do that I don't enjoy now;

I could go fishing, but not all out camping in the woods for a week while sleeping in a tent.

I could go to some professional and college sporting events on a regular basis.

I don't own a motorcycle but would ride on the back of one. I would not want to travel for a week on one.

Really, I think I could handle most anything as long as it was not something that I truly do not enjoy and it being the focus of a weeks vacation.

I love the beach and would like it if they did to, but I wouldn't insist on making it a yearly week long adventure if they hated it. I don't think I am an ass like that.

Cinny said:

thekidsgirl said:

Don't think I'd be drawn to someone who I didn't share some common interests with, in the first place . I mean, we don't have to be clones, but if we don't share an interest in basic things, how would we even meet?

Live in the same area and are attracted to each other's conversation at first is enough.

Well, if I'm attracted to the conversation, then we probably have some common groud.