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Learned helplessness and/or being afraid of change or losing security, be it financially, emotionally or functonally. Peer pressure is another one, from friends, family and even society that likes to make you feel bad for being single when that's bs. [Edited 7/17/12 2:20am] | |
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Loads of things if you are a woman with kids for example: Loss of financial security for you and your kids (likelihood of a far lower standard of living) Fear of the unknown Losing half your friends if not more Losing custody of your kids More unhappiness (surveys report that often people are way more unhappy AFTER a divorce) Of course if there is violence involved, get out now. I'm going speculate on some other reasons, say a childless man staying with a woman he doesn't love because: The sex is regular and she's hot He's lazy and breaking up would be a whole lot of drama She cooks  I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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Yeah, the learned helplessness reasoning came from possible abuse and being afraid to leave. | |
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Because change is hard. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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familiarity... better the devil you know... lack of confidence in self or others... the shit you know about the other person knowin about you... sympathy... knowin your part in it... too much invested in the relationship.... you've seen/been in worse best head on earth... AND, maybe they'll be dead soon. i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT... 
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Yes. Hard, intimidating and scary for many people. | |
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Of course, in many instances, a change in ONESELF is what's really needed.
Happiness is a state of mind.
You can be living in a 1-room shanty with mud floors and be the happiest person alive (I've witnessed that myself). You can be living in the lap of luxury and be the most miserable person alive (see plenty of that around here).
You can be unhappy and still be in "love".
You can be happy and yet not be in "love".
There are so many variables.
I champion the case of trying to make changes to your routine and have frank conversations with your significant other BEFORE you decide that your unhappiness warrants the end of your relationship (especially a marriage with children).
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ok.... how many hours a day could they entertain themselves spinnin a plate in the middle of the floor??? i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
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In the case of women this is what I've noticed.
As Genesia said yes change is hard.
But my other observation (and this still kinda surprises me), is that women will do anything so they're not alone.
They'll deal with anything, put up with all kinds of BS...because they're scared of ending up alone and without a form of support (whatever that may be).
The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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