I don't know if a middle class exist and if it did, it's getting blown over by the richer and poorer. Me personally I think I'm of lower middle class, not poor. But you have to live someway. | |
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It's not personal at all, but I did find the delivery of the initial post from that person condescending. It was as if one felt we actually needed to be explained to what constitutes an authentic, affluent lifestyle for the educated, gifted, and black. Perhaps they didn't mean it that way, but it certainly came off as both grating and laughable, considering the collective level of intelligence of the people here, and the width and depth of life experience black American orgers have on this forum. Frankly speaking, we are not that obtuse nor sheltered and I felt a great portion of what was posted unnecessary . | |
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Yeah it blew over into something it shouldn't have. | |
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you fucken with the wrong thugs... we admire those who capitalize on a good education, you are who we need to manage, hide, maintain, diversify, and keep our health and happiness intact... you must be speakin of 'bangers' who are NOT thugs in any sense of the word... i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT... STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE... | |
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Exactly.
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I just got on, and will be honest and say that I haven't read the responses to this post, but here are mine:
1) Yes, it IS divisive, just as much when the person who "got it" doesn't understand or remember how it feels to "not have it" and act like it's the other person's fault for not... It's still hatin', regardless of the direction.
2) Someone CAN "look down" on someone- very easily, for not having what he or she has... treating people like they're not worth their time or energy for not having what they have.
3) "Forgetting where you came from" is acting like you have no clue what it was like "before you made it"-- around your new friends & acquaintances you act like those from your past are "those people", and around people from your past, you act uncomfortable or that you can't relate.
4) Noooo.... I didn't mean how others "project their insecurities". I'm talking about the person who ASSUMES that people are against her because of her [perceived] looks. Maybe people treat her differently because of that stank-ass attitude that those around her are insecure because she's beautiful (even if it's only in HER mirror).
5) Funny... I take MUCH pride in my education... started a thread about it last year (call me "Dr. Chocolate1 )... Yet, no one refers to me as "bougie"/"bourgie". Why? Because:
6) Okay, I'm willing to concede that bougie & saditty aren't exactly the same...
I agree with the others that it was nothing personal... just conversation. (And prodigalfan was very gracious in last night's discussion... )
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@ Timmy:
@ Ottensen: Yes! That's what prompted me to respond... And respond to the response. (and I forgot to go back and correct my spelling! )
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I see; that's very interesting. Thank you! | |
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I have never heard of saditty either... Where are these folk talking like that??
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You can hear Brandy mouthing off about the word "Saditty" in her Afrodisiac album. I think her song is actually spelled "sadiddy" but it's basically her attacking anyone who calls her that. | |
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No, nothing personal here. I understand the response(s). However, keep in mind that post are viewed by a wider audience than what you've described ^ here.
My point here is the labels we use to minimize each other are useless and often time just plain wrong.
I thought about the term yesterday and I recall hearing it in the 1980s. I wondered if it was a replacement for the word "uppidty"? | |
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tried to respond to each point...still a little blurry from last night. i might have to revise, so go easy on me....lol. | |
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No need to revise...
We obviously don't see things the same way, and probably never will. It's really not worth going around in circles.
Hope you enjoyed your weekend...
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oh Lawd, I can't help but ask... difference please between "bangers" and "thugs".
Man communication or miscommunication can be a tricky thing. What means one thing to one person can mean something very different to the next. "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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Yeah, I think of the words "uppitty" and "sadditty" being synomonous "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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Yep Yep Don't laugh at my funk
This funk is a serious joint | |
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And you have been saying it the whole damn thread. What part of it they aren't getting? Don't laugh at my funk
This funk is a serious joint | |
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you don't usually see 'bangers' solo. you don't usually see thugs in a crowd. you tell a 'banger' about your PHD you may get your life took. tell a thug you get took out for a celibration and maybe pick out a nice ride for yourself. NOT a whole lot of education minded 'bangers' out there, their goal is turf, a thugs goal is property. whut a 'banger' owns belongs to his gang. a thug owns his/her shit and ain't beholden to nobody they don't wanna be beholden to...
i am KING BAD!!!
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me either! and me too I guess.
what I don't get is why some people even give a shit at all about what others are acting like? live and let live. "not a fan" yeah...ok | |
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If you read what I wrote then you will see that there is no need for me to keep anything of the sort in mind. Being a member of this site for many years, I'm well aware of the width of the audience that views this board and I said as much in my reply.
In any event it's not worth re-hashing further. I just wanted to make it abundantly clear that it's pretty damned likely that no black American person here needs to be educated on the attributes of what constitutes a middle class or traditionally African American bourgeois lifestyle by you or anyone else. A great portion of this board has been there and lived that already, but thank you for your post anyway.
As for uppity? I would say given the context in which bougie is used now the two words are pretty much interchangeable.
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I don't wanna shift the course of the conversation, but it kinda reminded me of this film,,,,
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Is anybody else familiar with it?
Watched it in a screening in the IFC theatre with a girlfriend. It was a pleasant surprise. I really thought I would hate this film. I have no desire to sympathetize with preppies, yuppies, or other over-priveleged Americans.
Loved his other two films as well. | |
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My suburban ass WISHES. | |
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^^ Dang! I didn't know this. <--- taking notes "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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Looks like a PBS movie that you think is awful but turns out to be pretty good. I will have to check this out. "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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Thanks "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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I've never even heard of the word. At first I thought you were mispelling the word "boogie" until I read some of the comments. Andy is a four letter word. | |
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Really Andy? I thought if you had heard of hot souse and crackers, you definitely heard the word bougie or bourgoise "Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack | |
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damn....bougie is serious bidness!!!! I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE UGLY. YOU JUST HAVE BAD LUCK WHEN IT COMES TO MIRRORS AND SUNLIGHT!
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