JustErin said:

Deadcake said:

JustErin said:

I dunno, I'm sure it happens but I've never personally seen it.

If I guy likes you, he likes you...he's not looking for excuses to end it, which is what all this sounds like to me.

I'm still with one of the ones I mentioned in my post - I don't think the opinion was proffered with any ideas to end anything, but he said it out loud to see what I thought about it. My answer to his statement was "how so?" and he couldn't really explain so I ignored it. I thought perhaps it was a cultural difference. I was living in an apartment away from my family, working to pay my own way, and his sister was expected to live with her parents until she married or her mother wouldn't even talk to her

Sadly, this is the way of the "old". My grandparents were angry with me when I moved out of my mother's house 3 years ago and bought a townhouse. Now this is something that you would think that family would be proud of, but no they had major issues. My grandfather even mutted out the same statement you just made "you should stay home with your mother until you get married...and if you have extra money you want to spend you should give it to her for rent". Wow. I couldn't believe what I was hearing but I stood strong to my beliefs and still moved forward with my plans. Of course after I moved and they saw my townhouse, they acted like they were proud of me, as if they had supported me all along

In my years I have seen men intimidated by two things. The success of a woman and the beauty of a woman. However, those are the men you DON’T want – but having played it out many times I know that a) a high powered job with any insecure man will result in intimidation whether he be a co-worker or a lover. In the case of co-worker men, you just have to understand it for what it is – they feel threatened. If it’s a lover, a woman that hooks up with say a writer, a musician, an artist – you better know that you can’t change them to get a better job or make more $ because if you expect this you will feel resentment. If you go into it knowing this, it won’t matter who’s paying more or making more. Intimidation is a result of insecurity – plain and simple. As for beauty – I know men that have admitted to not approaching a woman because of her beauty – she’d never look twice at me, she’s too beautiful – I’d be so jealous with her around other men. Again, the intimidation is the problem of the one who has it. If you find that MOST men around you are intimidated, then there’s a clue, that maybe one should tone it down a bit (not dumb it down), i.e. maybe not continually talk business or flaunt your success. Loosen up. Be a woman, you must have other interests besides business and climbing the latter of success. If you’re a fun loving person, your personality should over-ride everything else. There are men out there that LOVE a confident woman. Bottom line - any man that doesn’t want that – well, there are 10 bimbos for every smart woman out there. They know where they can go.