Even unpleasant people deserve sympathy and at the very least acknowledgment of their humanity. I prefer to look at it as a testament to an uncaring society...do we really care what happens to the lady next door unless it involves us somehow? I'm a cynic at heart but damn... I want to believe humans are not this cold.

I actually do think people really care about those around them, in varying degrees of course.

There's 7 + billion people on the planet so on the scale of 1-Don't care at all to 10-Mother Teresa, there's lots of variations.

What I do think is that people have been conditioned to believe that caring = snooping. The whole, "It's nobody's gahtdamned bidness" attitude is so prevalent that it keeps people from getting close to each other.

Yes, there should be boundaries. No, everyone doesn't need to know my details.

But common caring, the sharing of details is not a crime.

Very sad

I guess there are many people who are not very important to many people and I have been getting the feeling in recent years I am one of them. Even though there are people who like me and people who love me I don't think a lot would be missing in their lives if I would not be part of their lives anymore. I guess that's just how life is .

Serious said:

Very sad

I guess there are many people who are not very important to many people and I have been getting the feeling in recent years I am one of them. Even though there are people who like me and people who love me I don't think a lot would be missing in their lives if I would not be part of their lives anymore. I guess that's just how life is .

Recently I have felt the same way. I've also had to own that if that is the case, it's my own doing.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Serious said:

Very sad

I guess there are many people who are not very important to many people and I have been getting the feeling in recent years I am one of them. Even though there are people who like me and people who love me I don't think a lot would be missing in their lives if I would not be part of their lives anymore. I guess that's just how life is .

Recently I have felt the same way. I've also had to own that if that is the case, it's my own doing.

banks said:

Pr1nceQuik said:

This is really sad...but I do agree with Errant in that, this woman, for all we know, could have been a really unpleasant person to be around when she was alive.

Pure speculation ofcourse, but it kinda raises those questions for an incident like this. I mean, 3 years...without a family member, friend, work associate or neighbor thinking to themselves, 'hmmm Joyce, we haven't heard from her in a while, I wonder how she is'?

Damn! Truly is a sad story and circumstance.

Did you watch the trailer ? cause that's not what the people who knew her are saying about her

Here's a portion of the interview abou her

LF: As you started to learn more about Joyce what were you most surprised about with regards to her life?

CM: That she was so popular and people said that she never argued. I found that quite a surprising detail at first, this idea that she’d never raise her voice and was really polite and reasonable with people. She presented herself so immaculately and all these details gave others, to an extent, the impression that she was alright a lot of the time. Almost everything surprised me as I went along. That she wanted to be a singer and her mother died when she was 11 and that was the age when my dad had died. And that we used to live on the same street in London, at different times. There were things like that surprised me because they made her closer to me.

http://www.lovefilm.com/i...-of-a-Life

[Edited 12/16/11 12:13pm]

Yeah my bad. I posted that comment before reading about the article. She seemed well loved and was popular........It makes this whole thing even more bizarre.

If she was well known, and social, I don't think someone, including her family would let that fly for three years.

Serious said:

Very sad

I guess there are many people who are not very important to many people and I have been getting the feeling in recent years I am one of them. Even though there are people who like me and people who love me I don't think a lot would be missing in their lives if I would not be part of their lives anymore. I guess that's just how life is .

My eyes watered and I almost cried reading this because I've been feeling the same damn way. Seriously, there are people out there who care about you, the org does..I agree sometimes thats how life is.. but reading this story made me very sad inside, esp the lady who was found in her car, who already had depression issues. I wish there were some kind of way it could all be fixed, they died alone and its sad.. esp older people who die without feeling the love of others.

IamFunkay7 said:

Serious said:

Very sad

I guess there are many people who are not very important to many people and I have been getting the feeling in recent years I am one of them. Even though there are people who like me and people who love me I don't think a lot would be missing in their lives if I would not be part of their lives anymore. I guess that's just how life is .

My eyes watered and I almost cried reading this because I've been feeling the same damn way. Seriously, there are people out there who care about you, the org does..I agree sometimes thats how life is.. but reading this story made me very sad inside, esp the lady who was found in her car, who already had depression issues. I wish there were some kind of way it could all be fixed, they died alone and its sad.. esp older people who die without feeling the love of others.

There are so many old lonely people and a lot of younger ones too.

[Edited 12/16/11 17:29pm]

noimageatall said:

IamFunkay7 said:

wow, that is really sad like I said.. but why didnt anyone care?

Because some humans suck...as is evident in this thread.

BklynBabe said:

If I buy y'all gifts...and die.....and y'all don't come check on me.....I'm taking all y'all gifts back!!!!!!

imago said:

It was really, really, REALLY odd to me all the stories they had in the documentary. Some people are completely invisible.

I think I'm alot llike Joyce, honestly.

I have a lot of friends, but none are terribly close.

I rarely ever see my familiy (just sister and mom), and my sister never calls. She visited me a few weeks ago, but we hadn't really spoken regularly in 2 years, even though we consider each other to be pretty close.

I doubt it would take 3 years in my case, but I could see folks not noticing after a couple of months.

It doesn't sadden me. I don't get the need to be missed and such.

ditto. my neighbor across the hall would hear my cat crying so i don't think it would take 3 whole yrs but i know what you mean.

I'm an only child and I live alone. I believe something like this could happen to me but not to that lenght of time. I'm super close to my cousins and I have close friends and I'm sure they would check up on me if they didn't get a text.

errant said:

In all reality, some people just aren't that memorable, interesting, or likeable to ring up to find out whether or not they are dead or alive. I'm certainly not. What's so surprising that she wouldn't be. I'm not reading anything here that would make me want to check on her.

sorry