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Signs that you are his Sidepiece So...I have a delusional friend that thinks this guy is really in love with her. Her awful track history aside (she was a side piece for 7 years with her last "man") I want to ask the infomative folks on the org.
She is already ignoring that A: He's a doctor, but always asks you to meet him at the destinations of their vacations. B: He says he "loves" her, but she has never seen nor been to any of his residences. and C: He is incredibly jealous and manipulates her into not doing things because he doesn't want her to cheat on him.
I would LOVE to compile a list of useful tidbits! [Edited 6/26/11 13:01pm] | |
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A............he will cheat on her B............he will hit her C............being with him will ruin her life Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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Give her the book by Robin Norwood, 'Women who love too much'
Hopefully she will read it. More likely, she will say that the book doesn't apply to her.
Then when she really lost everything in life, due to her love and relationship addiction, she will read the book. However, it is my personal experience that a severe crisis, a damaging marriage, psychological or even physical abuse, is necessary to finally admid to yourself that everything written in that book applys to oneself.
Also think, she would be enlighted if she read the book by M.-F. Hirigoyen, "Stalking the soul".
The only thing you can do is be there for her. Unconditionally. Don't judge or make mean comments to her. Just tell her that, if she really thinks, that the way he treats her, is the way she should be treated, that is okay with you, because it is her own decision.
You can't change her. She apparently needs these kind of experiences before she realizes she has an addiction and is in denial.
Wish you and your friend the best.
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You are wise, my friend! And you are right about the crisis. We humans can be so hard-headed! | |
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I agree with all of the above except the one I bolded..partially. Sometimes that's not always the case that a man is up to no good. I've met plenty of single guys who don't like to make things set in stone because things come up and they don't want to disappoint if they have to change or drop plans....however....it all depends. If the guy says "I'll let you know" when he's available but to only come over to your house, then that's a red flag. If the guy says "I'll let you know and give you a call to see what's up" and he does in fact call, during the day and either invites you to his place to chill or to go out then I don't see anything wrong with that. But here are some other red flags:
I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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He wants you to stop by around 2 or 3 am just to "hang out".
He tells you "he's been hurt before and is careful with his heart."
You've only ever met his ugly friends.
He has kids that you've never seen.
He has a tan line on his ring finger
He won't hold your hand in public
He only wears condoms WITH YOU.
He has more than one cell phone and calls you from the "disposable" one.
He has forgotten your name on more than one occassion. Always calls you "girl".
He bought you a t-shirt that says "IMA SIDE PIECE"
I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE UGLY. YOU JUST HAVE BAD LUCK WHEN IT COMES TO MIRRORS AND SUNLIGHT!
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"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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LOL. "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
"Water can nourish me, but water can also carry me. Water has magic laws." - JCVD | |
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How would you know that? | |
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Because he has lots of kids by random hood rats but you are not baby momma worthy. I saw that in a movie. I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE UGLY. YOU JUST HAVE BAD LUCK WHEN IT COMES TO MIRRORS AND SUNLIGHT!
RIP Dick Clark, Whitney Houston, Don Cornelius, Heavy D, and Donna Summer. | |
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Say WHA????? | |
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Yep. Dude had this side piece that he didn't want his boys knowing about but they knew all his baby mommas. When they found out about said side piece he said something like "she aint cute...she aint worthy of my seed". I'M NOT SAYING YOU'RE UGLY. YOU JUST HAVE BAD LUCK WHEN IT COMES TO MIRRORS AND SUNLIGHT!
RIP Dick Clark, Whitney Houston, Don Cornelius, Heavy D, and Donna Summer. | |
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he keeps u at arms length for 9 years. "It's time for you to go to the wire." | |
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Oh my damned, that was actually a statement? Is this what the mentality has come to these days? Shouldn't it be the woman to say "get the condom" because she'll be damned before she becomes baby momma #4 because the guy isn't worthy of fertilizing her eggs? I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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To be a side piece you have to have gotten WAYYY closer than arm's length . "I don't think you'd do well in captivity." - random person's comment to me the other day | |
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You've been with him for a year and you've never met his friends, never met any of his family, and the only time he ever calls you is after 2 A.M. JERKIN' EVERYTHING IN SIGHT!!!!! | |
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Remember that Chris Rock song: "if you've been dating the same guy for six months and you've never met any of his friends, you are NOT HIS GIRLFRIEND!" | |
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