I used to have quite a healthy appetite for sex. I'm a guy and sex was something I thought of a lot. I used to always want it more than my girlfriend did, which I'm guessing is the plight of most straight relationships.

Lately though, I just don't want to do it anymore. I'm not interested, I'm never horny, I'd rather listen to a good album or watch a film.

Is it normal for a guys sex drive to just disappear like that? I know it's never going to be the same as when you're 16-23 and sex is all you think about... but I'm only in my late twenties and I can't help but feel like a bit of a freak for just not craving sex anymore.

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Genesia said:

This is something you should ask a doctor. When was your last physical?

Never had one.

I try to avoid the doctors when I can.

Honestly, it's probably a phase.

You sound like my wife!

MattyJam said:

I used to have quite a healthy appetite for sex. I'm a guy and sex was something I thought of a lot. I used to always want it more than my girlfriend did, which I'm guessing is the plight of most straight relationships.

Lately though, I just don't want to do it anymore. I'm not interested, I'm never horny, I'd rather listen to a good album or watch a film.

Is it normal for a guys sex drive to just disappear like that? I know it's never going to be the same as when you're 16-23 and sex is all you think about... but I'm only in my late twenties and I can't help but feel like a bit of a freak for just not craving sex anymore.

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Determine if its physical of psychological.

Porn turns you on? If so, it most likely psychological. How's your relationship?

Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

Has your relationship been stressful?

MattyJam said:

Genesia said:

This is something you should ask a doctor. When was your last physical?

Never had one.

I try to avoid the doctors when I can.

Even if you move past this phase, you ought to see a doctor.

Pop culture would have us believe that people are supposed to go around being horn-dogs 24/7 but it ain't necessarily so. Having a medical checkup is good advice though...it will help you decide whether it's a big deal or not.

dont think about it so much . get a checkup, talk to your spouse n let it be ok ..

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dJJ said:

Porn turns you on? Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

Not really. It used to, but I'm not bothered by it anymore.

dJJ said:

Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

I am on anti-anxiety meds, which I thought perhaps could be a cause.

Spinlight said:

Has your relationship been stressful?

Not at all. I don't think it's anything to do with my relationship. I don't even masturbate anymore... I just don't feel like it.

I'm kinda wary about going to the doctors, because it's quite an embarassing subject to bring up face to face.

I think about it 24/7 anyway, it might just be a phase.. for awhile I didn't want to do anything, and I'm only 18!

I used to be sex crazy...but haven't had sex for a year or something. It's ok, if you don't want to, you don't want to.

Like Babynoz says, in our society you're supposed to have sex 24/7, but that's just not natural.

It's not the end of the world if you don't have sex for a while....and the good thing is, you can put your energy in other stuff!

MattyJam said:

dJJ said:

Porn turns you on? Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

I am on anti-anxiety meds, which I thought perhaps could be a cause.

Spinlight said:

Has your relationship been stressful?

This could very well be the cause. I too had the same "loss of sex drive" when I was prescribed them

Speak to your doctor is the best idea for you and do not feel wierd or anything about it

Best wishes.

InternationalLover82 said:

I think about it 24/7 anyway, it might just be a phase.. for awhile I didn't want to do anything, and I'm only 18!

That's the fun part of being 18. Enjoy, however always have save sex. Otherwise, the fun part will turn into misery.

No, it's NOT normal, and YES, yo should visit a doctor

Personally, I'm much less sex-obsessed now that I'm 26 years old. I was a horny motherfucker when I was 17-22, but that's in the past. But I still need sex (like everyone else, I guess) on monthly basis, at least...and I'm talking about the real thing, not masturbation, which bores me to tears (porn is not what it used to be...)

MattyJam said:

dJJ said:

Porn turns you on? Do you take any meds? It can be a side effect.

Not really. It used to, but I'm not bothered by it anymore.

I am on anti-anxiety meds, which I thought perhaps could be a cause.

Spinlight said:

Has your relationship been stressful?

Not at all. I don't think it's anything to do with my relationship. I don't even masturbate anymore... I just don't feel like it.

I'm kinda wary about going to the doctors, because it's quite an embarassing subject to bring up face to face.

Well, that sounds physical, and not psychological or related to your relationship at all.

This appears to be a side effect of your meds. There are a lot of different anti-anxiety meds nowadays, and sometimes it just takes a while before you have found the right one and right dose for yourself. It's wise to go back to the specialist who describes them and under his/her supervision vary with a new one. Do you get behaviour therapy next to your medicines? Because that is the most effective in the long run

Good luck, anxiety is an ordeal, however can be treated effectively. Go for it! Wish you well

get off those meds and start humping again!!

eat the right foods and you should be normal

but eating American foods, your sex drive is bound to decrease and well

so add some Viagra to your greasy American diet and you should be fine

It's time to find a man.

itsnotallover said:

MattyJam said:

I am on anti-anxiety meds, which I thought perhaps could be a cause.

This could very well be the cause. I too had the same "loss of sex drive" when I was prescribed them

Speak to your doctor is the best idea for you and do not feel wierd or anything about it

Best wishes.

My therapist wanted to prescribe Xanax for me, but didn't b/c it definitely lowers libido.

PurpleJedi said:

itsnotallover said:

This could very well be the cause. I too had the same "loss of sex drive" when I was prescribed them

Speak to your doctor is the best idea for you and do not feel wierd or anything about it

Best wishes.

My therapist wanted to prescribe Xanax for me, but didn't b/c it definitely lowers libido.

Not for everybody. Side effects are very personal. Not everybody has them, and not everybody has the same

I think it's normal to not want it as often but I don't think it's normal to not want it at all, especially for a guy in his 20's. But, then again, I have heard some men say they just don't have a sex drive and there was nothing medically wrong with them. I still think you should maybe see a doctor. A lot of times people who suffer from depression loss interest in sex. Don't know if that's the case with you. But, being that you do suffer from anxiety, that could very well be the culprit.

I was horny all the time when I was in my 20's and early 30's. Now that I'm 40, I'm not obsessed with sex the way I was when I was young. I still LOVE it and crave it but I just don't want it all the time. The weekend is fine with me.

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dJJ said:

PurpleJedi said:

My therapist wanted to prescribe Xanax for me, but didn't b/c it definitely lowers libido.

Not for everybody. Side effects are very personal. Not everybody has them, and not everybody has the same

Good point.

Same goes for just about any mind-altering agent (booze, weed, etc.) I guess.

Instead of Xanax I tried the "glaucoma therapy" instead, and found that it just makes me either very sleepy or relaxes me to the point where all the thoughts swirling in my head take over. Not very comforting.

im was on zoloft and beta bockers and i lost my sex drive..i really think its just the meds

tons of weird side effects are really common in anti-despressants

It happens.

Whenever I get too busy, have many demands on me like exams, papers, studying....it just goes away.

Depression also takes the feeling of needing sexual gratification away. I fall in and out of it, and sex is the last thing on my mind. Medications also

But then, there are the days where I'm so damn crazy I'd shag the first cute, and possibly charming guy I see. Thank God for amazing self-control, eh?

When you say "lately", what kinda time period are we talking about here? A month? A few months?

It's defo a phase, it happens, it happened to me a couple of times, one time lasted a few months. Make sure you're getting enough exercise and eating a balanced diet. If you smoke/drink, try cutting down a tad.

I don't have a sex drive, a sexual craving or anything... yall are making me feel like a space alien... maybe I should go see the doctor too.. I'm a female.. so maybe it's different

IamFunkay7 said:

I don't have a sex drive, a sexual craving or anything... yall are making me feel like a space alien... maybe I should go see the doctor too.. I'm a female.. so maybe it's different

As Archie Bunker would say...

"You ever hear of "chromostones"? They're what give men the "carnival instincts"."

Mike: "I see. And women...they don't have these "chromostones"?"

Archie: "No. That's why they're women. Dummy."

And don't feel bad. Maybe you just haven't seen anyone worth while. You can't force it. When it happens it'll happen.