KingBAD said:

"asshole?"

i was once in a relationship

where we stayed in bed for hours

have the greatest of times. however,

she and i were always at odds over

other things. one day she said that

she never 'NEVER' came. that it was

not possible for her to do it.

at that point i decided that if she wasn't

commin, then i would not spend so much time

in the act of makin her do so.

when i told her of my intentions i was informed

that she had 'fun' havin sex so she wanted

to continue in the manner that we had

been accustom to.

i expressed my reluctance to do so

because it felt like i was the only one

gettin somethin out of it.

long story short is

we were often at odds on other

issues, but this was her way of havin

an issue that could not be worked out.

she soon came clean on that, but it distroyed

the relationship we had than. we are still friends now

but i wouldn't sleep with her again.

"assholes?"

there are women whom advise others to 'fake'

orgasms... why not just say "you ain't hittin it"

(cheeeeeeeeeeeeeese)

this is a very touchy subject for a man to touch on

however i thought i should have my say, at hte risk

of becommin a target for "women against insensitive creeps" or waic (wake)

anyway

if it's a real concern, we love you and will do whut we can to suport you through your time of trouble.

if it's just some more b.s. to show who's boss

i'm with the 'get yours' crew.

Being an "asshole", isn't gender specific. Women can certainly be just as big "assholes", as men.

That being said, the fact that you and your partner were "at odds over other things" could be very significant in the reason "why"... she was unwilling to "let herself go" with you during intimacy.

I can't speak for other women but speaking for myself, I am a total package type of woman.

A long, long...long, long, long...time ago...before I was married. I had my share of some awesome, mind-blowing sex. It was all that and then some. However, for me...it was the "at odds over other things" that prevented lasting connections.

I'm entirely too honest with myself and others...to "fake it"...in any capacity! "Faking it" is being dishonest, with your partner...as well as yourself. It's also a complete waste of time...plain and simple.

I was picky and brutely honest as hell...until I found someone that satisfied ALL of my needs! I've been happy ever since with absolutely no reason to be otherwise...for the last 12 years...as of yesterday!

ZombieKitten said:

JoeTyler said:

isn't that obvious?? I mean , wtf

Sure, and if you go from partner to partner this is likely to always be the case, right? I mean you end up in their bed because of the attraction. Spare a thought for those in long-term relationships where the lust is long worn off!!

ha! sorry, that's not my problem!

JoeTyler said:

ZombieKitten said:

JoeTyler said: Sure, and if you go from partner to partner this is likely to always be the case, right? I mean you end up in their bed because of the attraction. Spare a thought for those in long-term relationships where the lust is long worn off!!

ha! sorry, that's not my problem!

HELLO!

JoeTyler said:

ZombieKitten said:

JoeTyler said: Sure, and if you go from partner to partner this is likely to always be the case, right? I mean you end up in their bed because of the attraction. Spare a thought for those in long-term relationships where the lust is long worn off!!

ha! sorry, that's not my problem!

Anonymous long distance relationship with sparse contact and only superficial exchange of info, will keep the lust going!!!

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

JoeTyler said:

ha! sorry, that's not my problem!

HELLO!

dJJ said:

JoeTyler said:

ha! sorry, that's not my problem!

Anonymous long distance relationship with sparse contact and only superficial exchange of info, will keep the lust going!!!

Internet is such a cool place

Joyinrepatition said:

KingBAD said:

"asshole?"

i was once in a relationship

where we stayed in bed for hours

have the greatest of times. however,

she and i were always at odds over

other things. one day she said that

she never 'NEVER' came. that it was

not possible for her to do it.

at that point i decided that if she wasn't

commin, then i would not spend so much time

in the act of makin her do so.

when i told her of my intentions i was informed

that she had 'fun' havin sex so she wanted

to continue in the manner that we had

been accustom to.

i expressed my reluctance to do so

because it felt like i was the only one

gettin somethin out of it.

long story short is

we were often at odds on other

issues, but this was her way of havin

an issue that could not be worked out.

she soon came clean on that, but it distroyed

the relationship we had than. we are still friends now

but i wouldn't sleep with her again.

"assholes?"

there are women whom advise others to 'fake'

orgasms... why not just say "you ain't hittin it"

(cheeeeeeeeeeeeeese)

this is a very touchy subject for a man to touch on

however i thought i should have my say, at hte risk

of becommin a target for "women against insensitive creeps" or waic (wake)

anyway

if it's a real concern, we love you and will do whut we can to suport you through your time of trouble.

if it's just some more b.s. to show who's boss

i'm with the 'get yours' crew.

CONCLUSION : your a crap shag...

you shouldn't objectify women

it's 2011, she was not my proporty

and she was, actually a good fuck.

but then i've never been with a woman

who wasn't.

oh shit!!!

did you mean 'you're'???

not ever. i would give references

but for you, it's unessisary.

i'm international

you cann't do that and be a

"crap shag"

conclusion:

you must have heard that

in your past.

Frankly, there are some women who are just naturally frigid, either because they actually have physical issues, or they have been so brianwashed by their upbringing (particularly those in overly religious families) that sex is so dirty and evil that they simply can't allow themselves to experience any type of sexual pleasure.

Having said that, sex is a lot more like calculus for women, as opposed to it being easy arithmetic for men. Most women need a lot of buildup to get themselves in the mood sexually, and that requires not only a decent amount of foreplay, but some comfortable rapport with their lovers long before the sexual act. Some days women will be hot and horny depending on their mood and/or menstrual cycle, and even a simple compliment will make them want to ride their lover's dick like a bucking bull and cum like an erupting volcano, while on other days no amount of foreplay or loving embrace by their man will make them want to have sex that day or night. But then again, a lot of women are either ignorant of their own sexual turn ons or only have orgasms via masturbation but refuse to share that information that will make them cum to their mates. (Ladies, most guys are not mind-readers, so at least clue us in on what makes you hot.) Then again, there are some guys who are assholes who are only concerned with their own sexual pleasure, while a lot of other guys keep giving their mates bad sex because the ladies don't want to hurt their man's feelings. Once again, guys aren't mind readers, so let them in on what makes you cum. If they are really bad in bed , take a quiet moment preferably away fron the bedroom when you aren't in the mood yet and let your man know in a loving but instructional way what turns you on and how he can become your knight in shining armor in bed.

It's called study your partner learn her, talk to her, LISTEN to her. What works for one woman doesn't work for all. Both people should be concerned with the other that way everyone leaves happy. Also men don't get upset when she tells you it's not right do the above and all should be fine.

KingBAD said:

Joyinrepatition said:

CONCLUSION : your a crap shag...

you shouldn't objectify women

it's 2011, she was not my proporty

and she was, actually a good fuck.

but then i've never been with a woman

who wasn't.

oh shit!!!

did you mean 'you're'???

not ever. i would give references

but for you, it's unessisary.

i'm international

you cann't do that and be a

"crap shag"

conclusion:

you must have heard that

in your past.

i was going to edit my response, but having read your reply you obviously bored her with your "international" repartee.

Vendetta1 said:

ParanoidAndroid said:

Vendetta1 said:

Many, many women don't climax during penetration. For many women, there has to be direct clitoral stimulation in order for her to get off and that just does not happen during regular missionary sex. This is why some women prefer to be on top.

It is also, like Haterina said, can be attributed to bad sex partners. Many women need foreplay to get her to the point where she can be driven over the edge during coitus. Some men just get a woman naked and fuck like he's digging for something in there and it's "too bad" if the woman doesn't get hers. The technical term for men like these is "assholes".

But what if a woman doesn't like foreplay?

Translation: It's simply not being done right!

Vendetta1 said:

Many, many women don't climax during penetration. For many women, there has to be direct clitoral stimulation in order for her to get off and that just does not happen during regular missionary sex. This is why some women prefer to be on top.

It is also, like Haterina said, can be attributed to bad sex partners. Many women need foreplay to get her to the point where she can be driven over the edge during coitus. Some men just get a woman naked and fuck like he's digging for something in there and it's "too bad" if the woman doesn't get hers. The technical term for men like these is "assholes".

Ivy, I would love to get under you skin just to hear what comes outta your mouth

For me a lot of it has to do with feeling comfortable enough with the partner I'm with to just let go...

TotalANXiousNESS said:

For me a lot of it has to do with feeling comfortable enough with the partner I'm with to just let go...

Yeah, for me too. It's a two way street. If the partner makes you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, than I'm comfortable with myself and go for it.

It's the way he touches you or looks at you. His hungry eyes, those make me glowing all over.

However, when I found myself in emotional turmoil over the relationship, hurt or not understood, that was a feel-sexy-glowing-let's take a few hours-thing was just non existing.

Idk what the problem is, but I don't really think about it anymore.. As long as I can do it myself when necessary, I'm happy.

Tokyo89 said:

Serious said:

Tokyo89 said:

Idk what the problem is, but I don't really think about it anymore.. As long as I can do it myself when necessary, I'm happy.

It might suddenly change when you get older. I did not come when I started to have sex and after a while it just happened naturally.

That's what my sister said. I'm 22

Tokyo89 said:

JoeTyler said:

JerseyKRS said:

My very same reaction!

Tokyo89 said:

Serious said:

Tokyo89 said: It might suddenly change when you get older. I did not come when I started to have sex and after a while it just happened naturally.

That's what my sister said. I'm 22

You'r sure you got the right mister on your hands????

Does he make you feel sexy and the most beautiful girl that he ever saw on earth?

Did you explain him about where to find your clitoris and what gentle touching means?

Shyra said:

JoeTyler said:

My very same reaction!

o.0

Vendetta1 said:

Many, many women don't climax during penetration. For many women, there has to be direct clitoral stimulation in order for her to get off and that just does not happen during regular missionary sex. This is why some women prefer to be on top.

It is also, like Haterina said, can be attributed to bad sex partners. Many women need foreplay to get her to the point where she can be driven over the edge during coitus. Some men just get a woman naked and fuck like he's digging for something in there and it's "too bad" if the woman doesn't get hers. The technical term for men like these is "assholes".

"The talk" we have with our girls has to go beyond the mechanics of sex and speak more to the psychological and physiological aspects of sex. It's kinda pathetic that children are still getting a lot of their misinformation about sex from friends and TV.

^ I agree. Boys watch porn and that's their eduaction. Probably the same for girls.

I remember my kid brothers when they were around 12/13 years old. They were all giggly and showed me their biology books with female and male genital organs. They asked me (redheaded) questions. I told them that sex wasn't just abouth 'pumping' and promised them that if they would lick the clitoris of a girl, they would become the most popular boys at school.

Their reaction was historic; translated it was in the lines of "eeeew, that's groce!"

Than they ran to their mother (my stephmom) saying: "you know what DJJ says?"

And she replied: "Yes, I heard, and she is right".

The two of them just looked at eachother, groced out, with faces expressing: 'Well, in that case I'm not even going to try that sex thing.'

It was hilarious.

Nowadays, the youngest even doesn't have a social account on internet because of fear of stalking. When he goes out, girls just throw themselves at him. They even offer him money to give him head. I did everything I could to make him respect woman, however, the way most of these girls throw themselves at him, sort of makes my story unbelievable for him.

Another one that I taught them: the girls are just as nervous and insecure as you are. So, talk to eachother and have fun exploring eachother. It's not a contest, it's a fun and pleasing game.

[Edited 5/17/11 9:41am]

missfee said:

A disorder? Or just a normal fact?

I'd say they are having sex with some who has no idea what he is doing.

Vendetta1 said:

Many, many women don't climax during penetration. For many women, there has to be direct clitoral stimulation in order for her to get off and that just does not happen during regular missionary sex. This is why some women prefer to be on top.

Take note gentlemen.

Also, miss vendetta, some women have a preference for more ferarum, also more commonly known as doggy style. This does not stimulate the woman´s clitoris as much as the on top position, but it does greatly enhance the chance to become more intimate with her g spot. And it leaves her plenty of room to stimulate her clitoris herself. So, if done right, this can ensure many intense orgasms, anally too, and when the dick is right and the owner knows what he is doing. But I digress lol...

Graycap23 said:

missfee said:

A disorder? Or just a normal fact?

I'd say they are having sex with some who has no idea what he is doing.

Yeah. That's sadly enough oftentimes the case.

And there are also a lot of woman who flight into their insecurity in stead of opening up towards their lover and let go of control.

dJJ said:

Tokyo89 said:

That's what my sister said. I'm 22

You'r sure you got the right mister on your hands????

Does he make you feel sexy and the most beautiful girl that he ever saw on earth?

Did you explain him about where to find your clitoris and what gentle touching means?

Yes he does.. and he makes it all about me. He's gentle. Still can't "bust" from penetration, only oral

[Edited 5/17/11 9:54am]

Tokyo89 said:

dJJ said:

You'r sure you got the right mister on your hands????

Does he make you feel sexy and the most beautiful girl that he ever saw on earth?

Did you explain him about where to find your clitoris and what gentle touching means?

Yes he does.. and he makes it all about me. He's gentle. Still can't "bust" from penetration, only oral

[Edited 5/17/11 9:54am]

That's normal. I've never met a woman who has an orgasm from penetration. Orgasm comes from stimulating the clitoris. And that doesn't happen during penetration. So, eventhoug penetration can be a great and satisfying feeling, and a pivotal experience, the orgasm only happens from stimulating the clitoris.

So, that sounds all pretty normal and healthy to me.

Films and porn miseducate women about their orgasms. Good to have the prince.org to get educated about it