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The mourning period

Psychologists agree that a breakup can often feel like a death. So it makes sense that you go through a period of mourning. It's normal to feel down, and overwhelmed by grief. You have, in essence, lost someone close to you. Understand that it's inevitable that you'll feel bad for a little while, and plan your life accordingly. This is definitely not the time to take on a taxing new project at work, or force yourself to be the life of any party.

Take some time to recover - quietly and privately - from your loss. Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself some time for crying and moping. It helps to allocate a concrete amount of time to this stage. Depending on how upset you're feeling, decide on a date to begin the process of bouncing

back. It could be a week, a month, or longer. But choose a date and mark it on your calendar. Although down-time is essential just after a breakup, if you impose a time limit on feeling sad, you're less likely to develop permanent, or clinical depression

I hope this helps. IMO the end of a relationship is a bit like the death of a loved one. Sure you may cross paths more that often with that person. However it's his/her loss. Life goes on. Hopefully you will gain the courage and strength to move on and feel healed. BTW, it takes a bit of courage to share your feelings. That's a plus IMO, and shows that you have a true need to heal yourself and move on with your life. Send yourself some flowers and know you are "number 1 most beautiful to yourself." (that quote comes directly from the "Queen Latifah")

free2bfreeda said:

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The mourning period

Psychologists agree that a breakup can often feel like a death. So it makes sense that you go through a period of mourning. It's normal to feel down, and overwhelmed by grief. You have, in essence, lost someone close to you. Understand that it's inevitable that you'll feel bad for a little while, and plan your life accordingly. This is definitely not the time to take on a taxing new project at work, or force yourself to be the life of any party.

Take some time to recover - quietly and privately - from your loss. Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself some time for crying and moping. It helps to allocate a concrete amount of time to this stage. Depending on how upset you're feeling, decide on a date to begin the process of bouncing

back. It could be a week, a month, or longer. But choose a date and mark it on your calendar. Although down-time is essential just after a breakup, if you impose a time limit on feeling sad, you're less likely to develop permanent, or clinical depression

I hope this helps. IMO the end of a relationship is a bit like the death of a loved one. Sure you may cross paths more that often with that person. However it's his/her loss. Life goes on. Hopefully you will gain the courage and strength to move on and feel healed. BTW, it takes a bit of courage to share your feelings. That's a plus IMO, and shows that you have a true need to heal yourself and move on with your life. Send yourself some flowers and know you are "number 1 most beautiful to yourself." (that quote comes directly from the "Queen Latifah")

Yeah, I've been reading a lot about this. Thanks a lot.

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Well u obviously haven't met me Miss Virginie! Time, distance and distraction seem to be the best cures. However if it is prolonged pain then cold turkey may be the only answer. Remember exes are exes for a reason and while having sex again can be fun it usually leads to pain later ESP when that person then meets someone else...so maybe try cold turkey unless u think he is the one! If so tell him but make it exclusive ie you no longer date others or one of u will end up hurt.... Remember too in the words of Wendy and Lisa in Computer Blue extended...love and lust both have 4 letters but they're entirely different things!

I think avoid seeing him is a good start. But I tell you again, there's no sex involved ; I guess it would take even more time to heal and would be very painful at this end.

See ther's always a part of me hoping we'd be back together. That's not good.

www.bounceback.com

I noticed that I don't ever really completely get over somebody and my heart being broken, till I meet someone else that I like.

Then it becomes, "...Who are you, again?"

virginie74 said:

InternationalLover82 said:

Listen to happy music! Like Prince, of course . Remember that Prince went through heart break too!

He was a fan too. Listening to all the songs we heard together is quite a torture

armpit said:

I noticed that I don't ever really completely get over somebody and my heart being broken, till I meet someone else that I like.

Then it becomes, "...Who are you, again?"

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Virginie Well what were the reasons foe breaking up. Maybe it was necessary to find out that he is the one...try to work out his feelings too. Does he return calls or texts, he may or may not feel the same. However if you are convinced he is not the one then avoid bumping into him and allow it to heal. Otherwise it's like scratching an open wound. I was once in an addictive spiral and the only thing that worked in the end was volunteering in Brazil while going cold turkey. Painful at times but it worked in the end. But before going cold turkey work out if there's no chance of rapprochement in your mind as well as in reality! [Edited 5/15/11 23:27pm]

Orgnote coming 2morrow

Ottensen said:

www.bounceback.com

bookmarked.

virginie74 said:

Ottensen said:

www.bounceback.com

bookmarked.

sorry 2 hear u r suffering from a broken heart all eye can say 2u is that time is a good healer,u must give it time.whatever u do dont do what eye did!! ur heart heals but u then cover it in concrete letting no one else in ever again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope ur soon ok.

Things are getting better, friends.

virginie74 said:

Things are getting better, friends.

Glad to hear it!

Creativity and artictic expression are the key

Glad to hear things are better by now

MarySharon said:

Creativity and artictic expression are the key

Glad to hear things are better by now

Thank you !