single mother of one 15 year old male transmitting to you live via org radio do you read....

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any other single parents here? how do you find it? how are you coping? do you have good support?

how long have you been a single parent for?

Yes, to a 5 year old.

Fun times.

I am single and a parent. But she does not live with me.

Single mom of three.... always been a single mom. Raising two boys and one girl... ages 19, 10 and 8.

I feel like I have the best kids on the planet... they are all well behaved, and we have fun all the time. I enjoy my days with them... I even have great convos with my eldest son and we all laugh together daily.

As far as support....

I have little support and have my family members attack me over how I am raising my kids, almost wrote off my sister completely over it.

I have no babysitters in my family, no one in my family is allowed to babysit my kids, I never have babysitters... maybe a few times a year. If I can't go with my kids... I just don't go. My friends understand. So that dropping off kids here or there to work or go to school is outta the question. I keep my kids and no one else, my eldest son was a latch key kid... now, my kids are home with me and I work around their schedule.

Even though I don't trust my family, (they suck) I still love them and show them respect. Just the same... I don't leave my babies with those bitches.

Now my older son has a different dad from the younger two... so I am judged because of it. I don't care...

I'm happy with my choices... really happy. I also love living alone with my kids, don't want a husband or a man mucking up things for us now... maybe when I'm an empty nester, I may change my tune.... maybe not.

Early next year my Husband is going to pack his bags

I have 3 kids

And i am happy about it.... it's been on the cards for a very long time now, and will be a good thing for all concerned

But one thing for sure...never again...i will never marry again

that is something i am 100% certain about

yes. She is 8 nearly 9 and I don't recomend single parenting at all. However leaving her father was the best choice I could have made and I thank God I did. I regret her father is not a part of her life but I certainly do not regret having her. She is my wake up call and many a time she has snapped me out of a funk just simply because she needs me to pick my head up and carry on. I love her more than I can say .

Recently she said something about "you can have babies without a husband" in a way that made it sound like that was her goal. I told her "don't you wish that you had a daddy that could live with you?" she said yes. I said " I suggest you wait to have babies until you find a man that both you and your child would like to love and live with".

paintedlady said:

Single mom of three.... always been a single mom. Raising two boys and one girl... ages 19, 10 and 8.

I feel like I have the best kids on the planet... they are all well behaved, and we have fun all the time. I enjoy my days with them... I even have great convos with my eldest son and we all laugh together daily.

As far as support....

I have little support and have my family members attack me over how I am raising my kids, almost wrote off my sister completely over it.

I have no babysitters in my family, no one in my family is allowed to babysit my kids, I never have babysitters... maybe a few times a year. If I can't go with my kids... I just don't go. My friends understand. So that dropping off kids here or there to work or go to school is outta the question. I keep my kids and no one else, my eldest son was a latch key kid... now, my kids are home with me and I work around their schedule.

Even though I don't trust my family, (they suck) I still love them and show them respect. Just the same... I don't leave my babies with those bitches.

Now my older son has a different dad from the younger two... so I am judged because of it. I don't care...

I'm happy with my choices... really happy. I also love living alone with my kids, don't want a husband or a man mucking up things for us now... maybe when I'm an empty nester, I may change my tune.... maybe not.

As long as you're satisfied with what you're doing and how your children are fareing, it's no one else's business. If your family can't see that your children are doing well and are happy, then they are the ones with the issues, not you. Next time someone criticizes you for your parenting skills, just quote the Bible, "He who is among you without sin, let him cast the first stone." That should shut them the fuck up!

I'm a single mom of a five and seven year old for almost two years now.

I love it. My home is so much more harmonious without a grouch Father around.

It's hard and trying at times, and it was a big adjustment, but it's way fulfilling.

As far as support, I have an awesome boyfriend who is there for my kids WHENEVER I cannot be. He takes my son to cubscout meeting when I cannot, and gets my kids off the bus every day for me.

I don't have any family support, and no babysitters, but my kids are with their father one night every two weeks, so I get done what I need to get done then.

No, I can have sex for hours but find it impossible to ejaculate.

Single mom of six children 23, 21, 13 (twins), 6, and a baby that passed 20 mins after she was born two years ago. I've been divorced three years but with the kids in mind we remained friends. It can be hard BUT I know I'm not in this alone and for that I'm grateful. Dating is an issue because I don't want to bring a man around my kids.

JustErin said:

Yes, to a 5 year old.

Fun times.

thats great, do you get some time to yourself? when my son first started kindergarten i was glad to have some time to myself. what a relief! lol

FauxReal said:

I am single and a parent. But she does not live with me.

do you get to see her?

paintedlady said:

Single mom of three.... always been a single mom. Raising two boys and one girl... ages 19, 10 and 8.

I feel like I have the best kids on the planet... they are all well behaved, and we have fun all the time. I enjoy my days with them... I even have great convos with my eldest son and we all laugh together daily.

As far as support....

I have little support and have my family members attack me over how I am raising my kids, almost wrote off my sister completely over it.

I have no babysitters in my family, no one in my family is allowed to babysit my kids, I never have babysitters... maybe a few times a year. If I can't go with my kids... I just don't go. My friends understand. So that dropping off kids here or there to work or go to school is outta the question. I keep my kids and no one else, my eldest son was a latch key kid... now, my kids are home with me and I work around their schedule.

Even though I don't trust my family, (they suck) I still love them and show them respect. Just the same... I don't leave my babies with those bitches.

Now my older son has a different dad from the younger two... so I am judged because of it. I don't care...

I'm happy with my choices... really happy. I also love living alone with my kids, don't want a husband or a man mucking up things for us now... maybe when I'm an empty nester, I may change my tune.... maybe not.

sounds to me like ur doing a great job, no matter what anyone says. i hear you about not wanting a man to muck things up. i've also been thinking i might wait til after my son is grown before i enter another relationship.

physco185 said:

Early next year my Husband is going to pack his bags

I have 3 kids

And i am happy about it.... it's been on the cards for a very long time now, and will be a good thing for all concerned

But one thing for sure...never again...i will never marry again

that is something i am 100% certain about

thats great if you've reached a mutual agreement. i've never been married but i think i understand what you mean about not wanting to marry again. but who knows? maybe you will meet someone someday.

Deadflow3r said:

yes. She is 8 nearly 9 and I don't recomend single parenting at all. However leaving her father was the best choice I could have made and I thank God I did. I regret her father is not a part of her life but I certainly do not regret having her. She is my wake up call and many a time she has snapped me out of a funk just simply because she needs me to pick my head up and carry on. I love her more than I can say .

Recently she said something about "you can have babies without a husband" in a way that made it sound like that was her goal. I told her "don't you wish that you had a daddy that could live with you?" she said yes. I said " I suggest you wait to have babies until you find a man that both you and your child would like to love and live with".

i too left my sons father, and it was one of my smarter decisions in life, thats for sure. they have a great relationship, but his father doesnt seem to understand what parenthood is. he thinks its an option. lol

i can totally relate when you say your daughter is often your wake-up call. my son has picked me up out of a lot of funks, most of the time he's the only one to be there for me.

you daughter sounds delightful, and i know what you mean about how much you love her.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm a single mom of a five and seven year old for almost two years now.

I love it. My home is so much more harmonious without a grouch Father around.

It's hard and trying at times, and it was a big adjustment, but it's way fulfilling.

As far as support, I have an awesome boyfriend who is there for my kids WHENEVER I cannot be. He takes my son to cubscout meeting when I cannot, and gets my kids off the bus every day for me.

I don't have any family support, and no babysitters, but my kids are with their father one night every two weeks, so I get done what I need to get done then.

my ex was a grouch too, to say the least, and yeah its so much nicer to be at peace again without all the negativity.

sorry to hear you dont have family support, sounds to me like ur doing just fine without it so good for you and thats fantastic you have a supportive boyfriend.

nammie said:

Single mom of six children 23, 21, 13 (twins), 6, and a baby that passed 20 mins after she was born two years ago. I've been divorced three years but with the kids in mind we remained friends. It can be hard BUT I know I'm not in this alone and for that I'm grateful. Dating is an issue because I don't want to bring a man around my kids.

6 children including twins? wow. what a big job. (so sorry to hear about your newborn )

i only have the one child so for me he is like the man around the house. dating someone wouldnt feel right plus its not something i feel a need for either.

but thats fantastic you are still friends with your ex. makes things so much easier.

Single mother to a 14 yr old boy who challenges me daily.

thefeistyone said:

Single mother to a 14 yr old boy who challenges me daily.

hi. know that feeling well. at the moment he's arguing with everything i say. and i mean every thing.

not in a rude or cheeky way, but just to have his opinion and assert it. teenagers.

you been on your own long?

robinhood said:

thefeistyone said:

Single mother to a 14 yr old boy who challenges me daily.

hi. know that feeling well. at the moment he's arguing with everything i say. and i mean every thing.

not in a rude or cheeky way, but just to have his opinion and assert it. teenagers.

you been on your own long?

I fixed that emoticon for you!

He's driving me crazy!

His father left before he was born.

thefeistyone said:

robinhood said:

hi. know that feeling well. at the moment he's arguing with everything i say. and i mean every thing.

not in a rude or cheeky way, but just to have his opinion and assert it. teenagers.

you been on your own long?

I fixed that emoticon for you!

He's driving me crazy!

His father left before he was born.

lol thanks for the emoticon fix. sorry to hear about his dad. my ex threatened to leave when i got pregnant, saying he'd only stay if he didnt have to take any responsibility for our child.

i shouldve told him to get out right there and then, but i didnt. i waited another 5 years to leave him. best decision i ever made considering all the ish he put me through.

do you have a good relationship with your son?

robinhood said:

FauxReal said:

I am single and a parent. But she does not live with me.

do you get to see her?

She lives 2400 miles away but yes. We also talk every day. I've had to be creative in finding other ways to stay involved. It's possible to be in the picture without being in the pictures. I imagine those who don't aren't really trying.

FauxReal said:

robinhood said:

do you get to see her?

She lives 2400 miles away but yes. We also talk every day. I've had to be creative in finding other ways to stay involved. It's possible to be in the picture without being in the pictures. I imagine those who don't aren't really trying.

mm well i can only speak for my own situaton and i know for a fact that my sons father doesnt know the meaning of the word 'try', but he definitely knows what does and does not suit him.

they see each other whenever its convenient for him, and at no other time, so usually once a month for a weekend and maybe an odd day here or there.

which is why i get all teary eyed when i hear you say how much contact you have with your girl, thats awesome you speak to her every day and you are making a real effort to be involved, when she lives so far away.

i like what you said about being in the picture without being in the pictures too.

robinhood said:

FauxReal said:

She lives 2400 miles away but yes. We also talk every day. I've had to be creative in finding other ways to stay involved. It's possible to be in the picture without being in the pictures. I imagine those who don't aren't really trying.

mm well i can only speak for my own situaton and i know for a fact that my sons father doesnt know the meaning of the word 'try', but he definitely knows what does and does not suit him.

they see each other whenever its convenient for him, and at no other time, so usually once a month for a weekend and maybe an odd day here or there.

That sucks. Not that it is much consolation, but sometimes it is better that a father that doesn't want to be there for his child go ahead and leave rather than "just show up". I had the type of father that when he was there, we'd wish he wasn't. We were much better off and far happier when he was finally out of the picture completely. I hope your situation improves, be it more positive involvement on the father's part, or simply your son growing into a good young man despite his father's absence.

which is why i get all teary eyed when i hear you say how much contact you have with your girl, thats awesome you speak to her every day and you are making a real effort to be involved, when she lives so far away.

i like what you said about being in the picture without being in the pictures too.

Thanks. I just kinda made that up.

FauxReal said:

That sucks. Not that it is much consolation, but sometimes it is better that a father that doesn't want to be there for his child go ahead and leave rather than "just show up". I had the type of father that when he was there, we'd wish he wasn't. We were much better off and far happier when he was finally out of the picture completely. I hope your situation improves, be it more positive involvement on the father's part, or simply your son growing into a good young man despite his father's absence.

his father is a very intelligent, and cunning man. got his son thinking he's a hero.

i'm glad they dont see each other as much as they could, because of the influence he has on him.

its more about how my son is being 'led by example' that pisses me off.

like "see. this is all one needs to do to be a father. pay 5 dollars a week in child support, and see the kid once a month. then when we get together, play hero, make it fun, and woo hoo - suddenly i'm more popular than his mother and i deserve so much more respect."

know what i'm saying? but yes, my son will grow into a wonderful young man, if i have anything to do with it, which is quite a lot.

he's already pretty amazing. i just hope he doesnt end up with a warped view of what is the 'norm' when it comes to being a father, and that he wakes up and takes the rose-colored glasses off in regards to his dad.

i got a really low tolerance for weak, egoic men. its great ur not one of them.

robinhood said:

single mother of one 15 year old male transmitting to you live via org radio do you read....

come in do you read?

any other single parents here? how do you find it? how are you coping? do you have good support?

how long have you been a single parent for?

What ? I thought you were a guy.

angel345 said:

What ? I thought you were a guy.

most people do. are u a single parent?