I think you're all douches. Cut the passive-aggressive BS and grow up.

Genesia said:

I think you're all douches. Cut the passive-aggressive BS and grow up.

Agreed.

I'm so confused, but why don't you just try telling him it hurt your feelings instead of being whiney and being like, well then I'm going on a vacay without you.

dont blow him for a week

purpledoveuk said:

I'm confused too...he friend wants to take you away alone and fuck you in a tent and you think it's odd he minded....but he might go away with a colleague on something less or the same level of 'inappropriate' and you go mental. Double standards...neither is appropriate but if his is a work thing he has the morale highground....just by a nano-metre

Well...we have a open 3 way relationship and have already went there with his friend that wanted to leave on the 4th Of July. The thing was that (his friend name is Chris) Chris in the past kind of 'took away' my partners ex and he was scared it would happen to me too.

Now I dont care if he goes out of town with Steve at all, hell we both tried and failed to 'get it going' with him..it was the simple fact that he would leave me and not take me on a fancy free vacation to beer haven.

purpledoveuk said:

PurpleRighteous1 said:

purpledoveuk said:

I'm confused too...he friend wants to take you away alone and fuck you in a tent and you think it's odd he minded....but he might go away with a colleague on something less or the same level of 'inappropriate' and you go mental. Double standards...neither is appropriate but if his is a work thing he has the morale highground....just by a nano-metre

You're making a huge assumption there. This was actually the topic of one of the OP's previous threads and the friend was not trying to take him on a romantic trip. I do agree that both of these situations are inappropriate. Also paisleypark4 your partner is being hypocritical for getting mad at you before and then thinking it's ok for him to take this trip w/o you.

i don't know.

i can see how you'd be hurt..

i'd say, all three of you should talk about it?

paisleypark4 said:

purpledoveuk said:

I'm confused too...he friend wants to take you away alone and fuck you in a tent and you think it's odd he minded....but he might go away with a colleague on something less or the same level of 'inappropriate' and you go mental. Double standards...neither is appropriate but if his is a work thing he has the morale highground....just by a nano-metre

Well...we have a open 3 way relationship and have already went there with his friend that wanted to leave on the 4th Of July. The thing was that (his friend name is Chris) Chris in the past kind of 'took away' my partners ex and he was scared it would happen to me too.

Now I dont care if he goes out of town with Steve at all, hell we both tried and failed to 'get it going' with him..it was the simple fact that he would leave me and not take me on a fancy free vacation to beer haven.

That's the problem right there.

purpledoveuk said:

Well, and perhaps I'm being a stick in the mud, but see where you're fun, care free attitude towards relationship has ended - paranoia and distrust. I don't think I'm being presumptuous at all...if I was I hit the nail on the head by luck

Its far from that...Its not about the trust..its about whats fair and not fair..to me at least...heck..

missfee said:

paisleypark4 said:

Well...we have a open 3 way relationship and have already went there with his friend that wanted to leave on the 4th Of July. The thing was that (his friend name is Chris) Chris in the past kind of 'took away' my partners ex and he was scared it would happen to me too.

Now I dont care if he goes out of town with Steve at all, hell we both tried and failed to 'get it going' with him..it was the simple fact that he would leave me and not take me on a fancy free vacation to beer haven.

That's the problem right there.

No, that keeps the edge in the relationship, and it's hot imo....I could not even think about going back to just being extra monogamous...BORED

I'm with Genesia... seems like the rules of your relationship need to be discussed.

Me personally, if my guy goes on a trip with someone else, I would have fun at home... if he wants to go without me , let him... if I think he's cheating... I dump him. End of.

If you feel hurt by anything he does, you must tell him so. Iron things out so this doesn't grow any uglier.

paintedlady said:

I'm with Genesia... seems like the rules of your relationship need to be discussed.

Me personally, if my guy goes on a trip with someone else, I would have fun at home... if he wants to go without me , let him... if I think he's cheating... I dump him. End of.

If you feel hurt by anything he does, you must tell him so. Iron things out so this doesn't grow any uglier.

paisleypark4 said:

paintedlady said:

I'm with Genesia... seems like the rules of your relationship need to be discussed.

Me personally, if my guy goes on a trip with someone else, I would have fun at home... if he wants to go without me , let him... if I think he's cheating... I dump him. End of.

If you feel hurt by anything he does, you must tell him so. Iron things out so this doesn't grow any uglier.

Ok I will. Thank you very much. When the subject arises again I will definitley be public and not be a douchebag about it.

Uh, see this is were you and I differ. I wouldn't wait until it was brought up again.

I would approach him about it and bring it up so that its squashed immediately, if not then the next time this happens, you'll be bringing old stuff into a new argument and things get blown out of proportions that way.

Just bring it up and decide not to yell or argue, just say what you mean only. Give him a chance to talk and also get yourself ready to possibly hear something you may not want him to say, but be repectful to allow him to say it and let that response allow you to move on from that point.

good luck

paisleypark4 said:

paisleypark4 said:

missfee said:

That's the problem right there.

No, that keeps the edge in the relationship, and it's hot imo....I could not even think about going back to just being extra monogamous...BORED

Then you shouldn't mind going through this drama.

[Edited 8/19/10 12:01pm]

paintedlady said:

paisleypark4 said:

Ok I will. Thank you very much. When the subject arises again I will definitley be public and not be a douchebag about it.

Uh, see this is were you and I differ. I wouldn't wait until it was brought up again.

I would approach him about it and bring it up so that its squashed immediately, if not then the next time this happens, you'll be bringing old stuff into a new argument and things get blown out of proportions that way.

Just bring it up and decide not to yell or argue, just say what you mean only. Give him a chance to talk and also get yourself ready to possibly hear something you may not want him to say, but be repectful to allow him to say it and let that response allow you to move on from that point.

good luck

Exactly, it's all about handling issues in a mature manner.

paintedlady said:

paisleypark4 said:

Ok I will. Thank you very much. When the subject arises again I will definitley be public and not be a douchebag about it.

Uh, see this is were you and I differ. I wouldn't wait until it was brought up again.

I would approach him about it and bring it up so that its squashed immediately, if not then the next time this happens, you'll be bringing old stuff into a new argument and things get blown out of proportions that way.

Just bring it up and decide not to yell or argue, just say what you mean only. Give him a chance to talk and also get yourself ready to possibly hear something you may not want him to say, but be repectful to allow him to say it and let that response allow you to move on from that point.

good luck

Thank you! Defenitley will take that home. he just never likes to talk about serious stuff but Im going to make him