Not to be a downer,but lately my father has been driving me crazy. My mom lately has started to see a guy,and whenever I mention anything about it,he gets really nasty in the way he talks about my Mom..it pisses me off,Hello!! your not married anymore!! She can see who she wants!! Agh!

I am an adult so I know this should'nt be my problem,but when I mention that I have to go to my Mom's to watch my Uncle (my job IHSS),and he asked why,cause I might usually have that day off,and I tell him she has a date,he starts the ritual of either bad talking my Mom or the guy,whom he has never seen, met or laid eyes on.
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No

Best wishes with your parents

I am married to a man that divorced his 1st wife
My brother and his wife divorced and then remarried 3 yrs later

I think in some way divorce touches all our lives

Yes...

Yes. When I was 4. It affected me profoundly. Still does.

If you took a full poll I'm sure the majority of us don't have our original parents together.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Mine have been married for 46 years and still happy together

(For your poll)

My parents divorced when I was about 26. I was so happy for them. Living with parents who don't love each other is terrible--I'd argue that it's as bad as a divorce is on a kid.

Fortunately they were mature about it and didn't talk bad about one another. Both are so much happier now, and I'm closer to my dad because he HAS to try in order to be in my life.

Parents divorced when I was 3.

My brother is going through it right now.

My parents separated, but never divorced. I was around 6 at the time. The don't speak to each other unless it's necessary.

I was 9 when my parents divorced

Yep ...my parents divorced when I was around 14...my dad had been living in another state due to business for a good three to four years before then so it wasn't as much of a shock to me since I was used to them not living together anyway and only seeing him on weekends. I only caught a handful of their arguments (thankfully) while they were going thru the emotional rollercoaster of divorce, so they pretty much kept me from having to experience whatever anger or down times they went thru. They still remained very close, though, through the many years after they ended their marriage, and at times you would have sworn they were still married, they treated each other so well, even when both had other relationships form in their lives. And for that I'm eternally grateful.

I hope your dad is able to get to whatever place he needs to be emotionally and spiritually to put the past behind him and let those things that were loving and positive about his time with your mother define their relationship, and then move on to a more peaceful place.


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My parents divorced when I was 7. They should have done it long before that.

My parents divorced when I was 12. I am not sure why they ever got married in the first place. My mom still hates my dads guts. Very unhealthy but I understand her reasons.
I have been divorced myself but chose not to hate and hold on to the past.

My parents have been divorced for over 10 years, to this day I can't talk about my moms boyfriend to my dad, it still bothers him With mom I can talk all I want about my dads girlfriend!

Yeah, and I've never understood the big deal. They're not together. Why is that supposed to break my heart and ruin my life?

FunkMistress said:

Hopefully your daughter has the same attitude! Chances are she might have issues. I mean I have no idea the circumstances of why you and her father aren't together but most do have massive feelings on the issue

Looking back I'm glad my parents divorced because it would have probably meant I would have grown up watching him beat her which would have fucked me up way worse than them divorcing. Still sometimes I can't help but wonder how it could have been had he been a stable normal person during that time.
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I was never married to their bio father.

I wanted my mother to leave my father. He was a bad person. She waited too long to do it.

FunkMistress said:

Well then that's probably different to most circumstances. Most people have nice dads!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

FUCK YOU!!!

FunkMistress said:

Is that a come on?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well, I do have Daddy issues...

FunkMistress said:

Me too! Notice I'm not married to my pretend kids dad?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Slap me around and I'll call you a whore and we'll both feel better.

EmeraldSkies said:

i'm sorry you have to go through that. it really is terrible

my father is exactly like that, only he is still married to my mom.

it sure is awful to see them stuck together like that.

Yeah that would be great,but unfortunately I don't see that ever happening. My Mom says he should try to find someone,but his motto is "I have already been screwed over twice,I don't want any other women" Okay..but that doesn't mean you have to share your negativity with me!

My parents divorced when I was 27,and had been separated many times throughout my life,my sisters,and I all knew that my Mom did'nt really love my dad anymore way before that. It became normal for us. Like others on here, they should have done it long before they did.

Thanks for all the responses!! I really kind of felt alone with my situation.
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FunkMistress said:

Same here.

FunkMistress said:

My father wasn't a bad person but my parents were not good together, it was a relief once they were finally divorced!

shanti0608 said:

FunkMistress said:

I'm kinda half and half about the issue

I'm happy that my parents divorced because my mother deserved better than how my father was treating her


but at the same time, I never really got to experience a father/son relationship. I was uncomfortable around men early on but around women, I've always felt at home, except when the girl likes me or I like her, I become a complete nerd because I rarely saw any examples of romance at home

Yes ..after 47 years of marriage
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