If so, why'd you do it?

thekidsgirl said:

You mean like a 90 year old Billionaire Tycoon? Why did I do it? why? guess

LleeLlee said:

Good personality?

2the9s said:

Wrong.



He had a lot of money.

no.

But I've breifly gone out with women i wasn't originally attracted to. Personality REALLY enhances someone's looks. I think there has to be some potential--they don't have to be your 'type', but they have to have something there that you can don't originally notice, but start to once you fall under the spell of their charms. (yes, I can be charmed ).



I have, however, 'taken the grenade' for a couple of my friends , with some dumpy sidekick to the hot chick my buddy was trying to go out with. Although not an ideal position to be in, I did receive some decent blowjobs out of it from time to time.

Imago said:

I agree with you, thats exactly what I mean, I guess I shoulda said 'someone eho wasn't yer type'





wow

LleeLlee said:

not exactly what I meant, but okay

I've never "dated" someone I didn't find attractive. If the attraction wasn't there after one date it never would be.

thekidsgirl said:

I was young and needed the money

Imago said:

tis okay...racier things have been done for cash ...

CarrieMpls said:

but what if the person had a phenomenal personality

thekidsgirl said:

If there's no chemistry, sexual and otherwise, why bother? BTW, I've had chemistry with folks that weren't my "type" but there has to be some kind of basic attraction to even go "there."

thekidsgirl said:

If they have a phenomenal personality, I'll likely find them attractive.

"Attractive" to me isn't about looks. My last two dates were with a physically hot guy who turned out to be a racist homophobe (SO not attractive) and a guy who was so-so lookswise but seemed to have a lot in common with me, but then he had an odd voice and mannerisms and overall, we just didn't click. Not attractive. So neither got a second date.

CarrieMpls said:

i rarely 'date' anyway, because by definition 'dating' isn't for me. i prefer 'hanging out'.

but i wouldn't even consider it if i felt no attraction at all..

XxAxX said:

I don't think I'm ever dating again.

It's way too much like a job interview.
I feel like I'm interviewing men for the position of being my boyfriend.
Yuck.

CarrieMpls said:

mmmm hmm. exactly, it's like both poeople go into it with 'expectations' of a relationship, and that alone can skew things. imo 'dating' is awkward and ikky

To answer the question:

Yep-for a week!

Nope- it or they started to annoy me

No. Why would anyone do that?

no, I hate myself, but not that much.

CarrieMpls said:

ok, I mostly agree with this.

I've been lucky enough to have hooked up with folks way way beyond my league , and not a single one of them was worth the effort. Is there some type of correlation between commonly accepted norms for "good looks" and lacking a personality or intelligence? I'm not saying that all hot people are lacking personality, ,but do think that if you're really good looking, there's not alot of incentive to concentrate on the other factors. In some sense my fine ass is atypical.

what are you laughing at?

I wouldn't call what we did "dating" but I've been with plenty of people that I wasn't attracted to. In fact, most of them.


Why? I was horny. They were horny (or at least easily persuaded). Needs must be met occasionally.

CarrieMpls said:

oh ok well then in that case Im with ya

XxAxX said:

I prefer 'hanging out' too. Only thing thats annoying about that though is how things can so easily slip into the 'friend zone'

thekidsgirl said:

See, I usually do it the other way around. Things start in the friend zone then seem to easily slip into 'oopsy, we just slept together'.

And 'attractive' to me is totally about looks because that's what gets me interested initially. After that initial attraction he's gotta have more to him or I'm not interested anymore. I'll still find them attractive I just won't want to be around them in any romantic way...or even in a platonic way really.

JustErin said:

yeah, I wish it worked that way for me

No.

No I have always been attracted to them at first...I usually have the problem of losing the attraction for them later on.

Once - when I was much, much younger.

He was someone who treated me well (initially, at least), took me places, bought me gifts. What I mostly liked about him were his friends and family.

Gradually, he began to show his true colors. He was a very controlling guy - about everything. The first time he tried to tell me what to wear on a date - and pouted all night when I didn't oblige - was the beginning of the end of the relationship.

Turned out - the reason he asked me out in the first place was because I worked in television. He wanted to date a "star." When he found out I was an actual person, he wasn't interested anymore.
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No. Why waste you and the other person's time?