paintedlady said:[quote]Do you attribute your great love making skills to having sex with mature lovers?

Or is it more a case of instinctively knowing how to vibe with a woman?

What drives you in your pursuit to reach orgasm? Is it the thrill of pleasing her, that get you off, or is it more you trying to reach multiple orgasms?


What would you tell a younger man seeking your advice in his quest to please a woman?[/quote]

Make her feel comfortable, lick lick lick her EVERYWHERE....know how to stimulate her vaginally, clitorally and mentally...the order depends on the mindset and libido of the woman.

I myself, enjoy eating pussy...I LOVE IT...will do it for hours if she can handle it!! I love to do it....I said that already!

And these two words:

YONI MASSAGE!!!

paintedlady said:

JerseyKRS says he attributes it to his awesome penis.

well, before it happened, I did a lot of reading about where everything was, and used that as a starting point. And then she taught me the rest of the way. But as for the romantic rubbing, touching, kissing, etc. that was instinctual I guess. Gentle biting, licking, sucking, all of that came naturally to me. Plus I love eating pussy. It's just awesome to see a girl get off because of what you're doing.

Advice for a younger dude. Read as much as you can about the subject. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes. And make her feel safe. Women like feeling safe, secure and comfortable more than straight up physical stuff. Foreplay starts in the mind.

paintedlady said:

guys with instinct are the BEST.

evenstar said:

I said, ENOUGH!

FunkMistress said:

they are!

evenstar said:

I know.

FunkMistress said:

I can't believe she posted that.

Instinct is great, but awesome lovemaking can be learned. For us guys, it's about knowing your woman's libido and finding out what makes her hot and getting her to that place of ecstasy. Most of the time, it's about making love to her mind long before making love to her body. And it also helps if the woman is comfortable with her sexual side, so that her lover can sort of steer her to her own orgasm. When a woman is really hot and horny she'll know how to get herself to cum and she will guide her lover on how and where to use his hands, tongue, and/or dick to do that.

Fury said:

Coming from the dude who boned the girl that ate Taco Bell right before sex!

luv4u said:

KidaDynamite said:

I remember that story.... Fury is a very brave man :doodooonadick:

oh lawd

Rhondab said:

don't you start acting like some old lady....

its a question inspired by the old/young women thread.
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728huey said:

And there you have it listen to the guy!

paintedlady said:

well at least you know i cum with credentials in the matter

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YEAH KINDA.

paintedlady said:

My first sexual experience was with a woman about 15 years older than myself. I'd seen many a porn movie so I thought I knew what to do, what to expect and what to say....

Anyway, the lady was going down on me, cautiously nibbling away like it was the tip of a carrot and I'm laying back thinking "What. The. Fuck. Is that it? This is head?" Sheesh! I wanted to tap her on the shoulder and say, "that's not how they do it in the movies" but I didn't think it was my place to comment on her technique, what with me being a virgin and all, and her being the 'older experienced woman'.

That lady left me with a poor impression of BJs, that's her legacy. Thankfully, my next conquest, a French lady who was twenty years my junior (really didn't look it!), restored my faith. She knew how to work it and I learned a lot from her. There was also another older lady who showed me the ropes... But that's another story.

paintedlady said:

Don't give head the first time around.. wait until the second or even the third encounter.

The guys that were the best with me were the ones that I, first - had amazing chemistry with, second - were really, really into it but were able to hold back enough to last a while. It didn't matter what techniques they had or what they were into most, or liked best. It was the fact that they were so into it and loved that I was so into it too.

That's what makes a great lover in my eyes.

JustErin said:

I agree, the funny thing about chemistry is that it can also be with someone that pisses you off.

when we both get lost in the moment, is when sex is the best for me too.

paintedlady said:

I've said it before on here that the best sex (or one of the best) was with a dude I had a sexual only relationship off and on for about 3 years. We did not get along at all outside of the bedroom...at all!

I'm not going 2 give away my secrets!!!

If I did, every man would have their woman gushing and women would be shocked that they could!

Also some things are just a gift - like a Bigass Dick and a hurricane tongue!
So if heard about me and it's from your woman, then I'm very sorry!

Okay on a practical note, advice to the 'younger' generation (and all), don't try to be something you're not - NEVER question a womans intuition trust me - this does translate in2 the bedroom - they are smarter than U think.

'dre
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DreZone said:

Now THIS is some pussy gettin' shit right here!!!!