Imago said:

I'm going to forever quote you on that

Sorry to hear about her reaction, one of my close friends mother had the same sort of reaction. She was crying etc and now she ignores it completely, asking him things like "So when you bringing a girl home? When you getting a girlfriend" But his dad is completely supportive.


Is there another family member you have that you can go to?

Hope things get better for you soon

MikeMatronik said:

That was pretty brave of you. I find most initial reactions to be somewhat over the top. Give her a chance to think about it and you. Most people tend to calm down after a bit once they have accepted it, unless they are extemely homophobic and religious. Then again, I doubt you would have said anything if you thought she'd absolutlely go nuts.

Here's a bit of a secret...most parents esp the mothers...already suspect way before you tell them. Many might feel that they failed somewhere along the line and that it's their fault somehow.

My Dad found out and it was never spoken about. That's almost worse than going off the deep end. About 5 years after I came out I was shocked whaen he asked me if I was Married yet

Very happy you told her! Trust me it's for the best as you don't have to lie or pretend about your life anymore. You are you. You are not pretending to be someone you are not nor are you prenting to be something someone else wants you to be. I mean really... does your mom really want you to pretend? What so she can always doubt what's going on? She says she wants you to pretend to have a girlfriend for her sake. Does she even realize how ridiculous that would be? Trust me I think she'd prefer the truth than to a lie.

Good luck Miguel.