that you just wanted to sit down and cry...?

Its 1.50am here and that is exactly how I feel...

I would love to blame it on the hour and alcohol but this feeling has been my friend for some days now... any advice or enlightenment...?

It would be MOST appreciated.
x

I just try not to think about it. I'm not alone really. I have some friends, I have a manfriend who lives with me, but this is still a new area to me so I don't have any longtime pals nearby and my fiance works nights. So I go to work and by the time I come home he's in bed, wakes up, and leaves.

I just try to keep busy when I feel that way. Or I watch movies. We have an extensive DVD collection.

Aren't you married?

FuzzyD said:

Go to bed hon, things seem better after a good sleep.

littlemissG said:

My mother always said... things look blackest at night.... she was right....
and Asianbomb - I am married
doesn't mean I don't feel alone sometimes. Even in a crowd you can feel alone... or is that just me!?

FuzzyD said:

It's not just you.

the night shifts perspective since you only got the insomniacs trying to keep it down for the "normal" people who are trying to sleep. i go to bed between 3 and 5am so I'm just starting to wake up now, sleep off the pain during the day, no one will know all the things that are missed

CortestheKiller said:

Thank God for that

This is the first time I have come here and such things... feels a bit weird. Don't normally say this type of stiff to anyone!

I've felt that way for the better part of my life, I could be somewhere pack wall to wall full of people and feel like I'm there by myself, I feel so detached from everyone.

NAnomaly said:

Those might as well be my words. I feel 100% the same way. It makes going out really tough, looking at people and thinking they might as well be a different species.

PurpleKnight said:

I keep telling myself that eventually I’ll stop feeling this way but I don’t and I’m starting to believe that I won’t that it’s just apart of my nature, apart of who I am and what makes me...me.

i haven't felt lonely in a long time. i like the company of those who i really love and feel at home with, but wow...i love my solitude. do something you enjoy. enjoy your alone time. make the best of it. you won't have it forever. use it now. really.

NAnomaly said:

I know what you mean. This is why I'm never able to make close friends; just acquaintances. I want to so badly, but it just doesn't ever seem to happen.

I guess it's also why it feels like a bigger deal when I lose a gf, since finding someone who doesn't make me feel even more alone and who "gets" me is rare as it is.

It sucks. My mother was always the same way, and she ended up basically friendless and in a loveless marriage. That keeps me very worried at nights.
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FuzzyD said:

That is such a true expression.

Most of us are winding down at night and not occupied with things like we are during the day, so our minds start going nuts.

I've always been someone who has a hard time falling asleep because I just can't stop thinking about things. If your dealing with some stress, this is usually when it seems to feel amplified.

I think it's somewhat normal to feel a bit more melancholy at night.

PurpleKnight said:

I saw something in a movie about interspecies sex..

yup. it sucks. i think it's kind of a fact of life to a certain degree.

think about the many stupid people in the world, and laugh at them.

I'm pretty lonely Friday and Saturday nights

I hope you're feeling a little better this morning.
When I feel like that I usually make an effort to get in touch with the things I like to do, like walking in the woods or fields or feeding the ducks by the river in our village. If I feel connected with nature, I usually feel less alone.

Oh yes. I am well acquainted with what you describe.

I am one who, by nature, enjoys solitude and being alone, but there are times when actual loneliness creeps in and becomes overwhelming, with nighttime indeed being the worst for that.

I've found immersing myself in a good book to be an effective distraction, as well as listening to talk shows on the radio, which helps a bit to lessen the sense of being utterly disconnected and isolated. Unfortunately these are merely bandaid remedies for loneliness.

Feel better soon.

Honey, I hope you're feeling better today

Im well versed in what you describe. Nights are black, and sometimes Im scared of the night coming, and being alone with my thoughts, cause this is where it ends

Sleep is my best cure. You cant think while you're sleeping hug:

welcome back Luv4all7

I rather like being alone sometimes.

gemini13 said:

sumtimes you need a cuppa, and quiet, ay?

purplerein said:

Yup..and with the things I see every day, like people being mean and greedy, I would rather be by myself sometimes.

gemini13 said:

purplerein said:

Do you ever feel that way?

gemini13 said:

well...not lately...but i have in the past. that's when i would watch porn. it made me feel better. not anymore tho.