Heiress said:

She was hitting on me...and I was 18 and a virgin! But I thought with my upper head and didn't do it! Two days later I lost my virginity with her daughter!

MikeMatronik said:

Did your girlfriend ever find out about this?

I just can't imagine my own mother doing such a thing.

Heiress said:

I never told her...but I told my mom! We had good laugh

I think that if you would have asked her dad the hand of his daughter in a proper way, her mom would not give you a hard time.....

at least, that's the way it works over here!

SammiJ said:

uhhh nothing ... When the guy was talking about getting you knocked up and luv4u had the icon...I mean I agree
[Edited 3/3/06 4:34am]

unlucky7 said:

Oh Lord goodness. I was JOKING. I wish ya'll would stop taking me seriously. It's a shame that only Sammi knew I was joking. Sheeshish.

SammiJ said:

How come you are always trying to tell other people what to post?

SammiJ said:

this is a free forum where people can post what they please. plus, i dodn't here bobgeorge complaining about people's analysis of the situation.

Obviously most everyone here know nothing about the true situation which really makes any analysis AS WELL AS any advice useless. So as long as we're all posting useless advice, we may as well post some useless analysis along with it.

As long as i'm in everyone's business I have to say that I don't get your response to lovemachine's post. He's just sharing his experience and made no judgement on yours what so ever. Bobgeorge said that he didn't think that common folks asked for the permission of the parents before asking for their daughter's hand in marriage. Well, many people actually do and lovemachine was using himself as an example. I don't think there was any judgement there. Everyone does there own thing. I don't know you or your mother so I don't know if asking her would have made anything better but I already gave my two cents earlier in the thread.

But whatever the situation, I hope it works itself out with maturity and understanding. I hope your mother comes around and can see how much this man loves you.

lovemachine said:

because at times people stray off topic. While it is hard to not want to analyze a situation, take into account that we have probably done this ourselves(though sometimes it does help 2 see another's train of thought). Just looking for advice here and I have gotten some great advice from the thread and I appriciate it.

Mother in law's are generally a pain in the ass.

I say it's none of her business, and who cares what she thinks.

Sammi is an adult, no?

You know that "I don't think I can ever get over it statement." To hell with it.

Be concerned about how you make SammiJ feel, that is important..

DynamicSavior said:

sorry

you need to hire a few trusted, scary-looking friends to "court" your sammi in front of her mother. Make sure sammi is in on the maneuver, and make sure she is really enthusiastic about her new 'suitors'. then, after 'mom' has had an eyeful of how bad a match her daughter COULD make, you sweep in, rescuing her from those other lowlife intruders. mom is happy, you're happy, and your friends make a buck or two.

is that too cynical?
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XxAxX said:

not cynical at all...PURE GENIUS!!!!


if I've never said "I Like U XxAxX" in the past...I'm saying it now!

and thanx 4 all the advice y'all.

BobGeorge909 said:

lovemachine said:

if that's how you see it that's fine.
that's not what i'm doing, and i'm not going to argue about it.

gemini13 said:

thank you
and yeah, i am.

All of this could have been avoided if she had proposed to you. As usual this did not happen.

Spats said:

he beat me to it to tell you the truth...

My turn!!!

When my sister and brother in law got married (bless their souls) my mom disowned my sister. Darnell my bro in law check my mom on her bad behavior. He was not going to let my mom be mean to my sis. All hell broke loose and my mom refuse to have anything to do with them. All of a sudden my mom appear in the wedding party as the parents were being seated. Moms figured out what she was missing out on and got over it. Bob, don't trip and show you new in laws respect no matter what but do not put up with nonsense. Sammi, if moms disrespects your man you know what you have to do. You two are grown and have made your decisions. Love each other and put each other first. :hugs:

girrl..thank u

mmmkay - so i just spoke with mommy
things seem a tad better... *tad*

just going 2 keep the faith as they say

and it looks like i'll be goin to cali in august fo sho!

BobGeorge909 said:

Wow, BobGeorge, I'm sorry to hear that, that sux! And the fact that she cuts you off when you try to talk to her makes the situation even worse.

BobGeorge
SammiJ

psychodelicide said:

thanks hun
yeah it's quite annoying
she was doing it 2 me today and i called her out on it

SammiJ said:

Good for you! Parents need to chill and let their adult kids do their own thing, whether they agree with it or not. As gemini13 said above, you are an adult.

SammiJ said:

good! I've had to do that with my own parents on occassion. sometimes you just have to let your parents know that you are an adult and you are choosing to live your life a certain way. They can accept it and be a part of your life or they can not accept it and live with the consequences. Once you give them that choice they often realize that your happiness matters more than their idea of what's right. good luck.

SammiJ said:

OMG!!!!...U didn't yell @ Spats!!!!!