In the circle of life
It's the wheel of fortune
It's the leap of faith
It's the band of hope
Till we find our place
On the path unwinding
In the circle, the circle of life Elton John - "Circle Of Life"

Tuesday, February 15, 2005 @ 11:54 a.m. My nephew, Ty Ka-lel Flores, was born into the world The day began just like any other, but turned into a miracle.....

It was 7:15 and I had just woken up and was on my way to the restroom when one of my nephews passed on his way out the door to school saying "I think Aunt Alison's water broke". I said "What!?" I went to her room and my mother was in there with her and I asked her if it had broke and she said it had. I asked her if she was having contractions and she said she was and that they were 5 minutes apart It usually takes hours until the contractions are that close together. We all rushed around getting her ready for when her husband could take her to the hospital.

He arrived about half hour later. My other sister originally agreed to film the baby's birth but she was already on her way to work, so I took the day off and took her place. We got to the hospital around 8:30. She was dialated to a 3. by 10:00 she was dialated to a 6! Everything was happening so fast!!!

I sat on the little sofa while my baby sister lay on her side, crying from her pain and I just stared at her with so much love in my heart. I remembered back to when she was born. I was 12 years old. My mother involved us as much as she could in the experience. My stepdad took pictures of the birth and when my mom came home from the hospital, she shared the pictures with us, explaining the whole process. Those pictures showed everything, everything I was about to witness with my very own eyes.

I have always remembered those pictures. I've been around children my whole life. I've seen many pregnancies in my time. But never have I experienced first hand the miracle that is childbirth As I sat there remembering those pictures and looking at my baby sister, who was now a woman, I became flooded with emotion. I remembered holding her in my arms when she was a newborn. How much I loved her. How much I loved holding her and kissing her. And now, she was about to complete another link in the circle of life

The time was getting closer. I was so nervous. I could only imagine how my sister felt. It was 11:00 and the doctor was not there, even though the nurse had placed several calls. The baby wanted out and there was no stopping him. The doctor finally arrives I was starting to wonder if we'd have to deliever the baby


La la la la la.....so happy in here.
I've come so far to give you love.
Beautiful, beautiful love.
Beyond the stars, is where I'm from.
Go with me, we can live in love.
I come from a world made of love,
I wanna take you there.... Me'Shell N'Degeocello - "Love Song #2"

The doctor begins examining my sister and sure enough, the baby's arrival is near. I get ready with the camera. I'm so excited and scared all at the same time. I can't wait to see the baby, but I'm afraid for my sister and the baby. I pray that there are no complications.

Lights.....camera.....action! The nurses place my sisters legs in the stirrups and the doctor swabbed my sister down with Iodine. At this point I started the camera. The nurse began the counting 1-2-3...push!! 1-2-3...push!! As my sister pushed I could see the crown of the baby's head. And I just could not believe he could come out of such a small opening It really did look like it would be impossible. But my sister pushed, and pushed, and pushed and then pushed again and the head started coming out!!!

And on the 4th push the doctor grabbed the baby and pulled it the rest of the way out. A river of blood and water came forth and my nephew began crying. His first breaths The doctor asked her husband if he wanted to cut the cord and he did. He was with my sister the whole time. Loving her and caring for her and comforting her, stroking her hair and helping her through. It was beautiful. The doctor held the baby up so my sister could see him and she was so happy. It all happened so fast. I was a whirlwind of emotions, my mind being blown over and over and over and over.

The doctor turned to me and said "so, what did you think?" and I just stared at him, totally unable to say a word because if I tried I would have only cried. It was such an overwhelming moment. The room was so full of life. The room was pulsing with an energy that can only be equated with God. That day was God.


Hearts of fire creates love desire
Take you high and higher to the world you belong
Hearts of fire creates love desire
High and higher to your place on the throne....
Earth Wind and Fire-"The Way of the World"

My nephew was born in the midst of such love. 2 parents that wanted him. An uncle and a grandmother that anticipated his arrival. A doctor and nurses who devote their lives to helping women cross the bridge from daughterhood to motherhood. The doctor who delivered my nephew was the same doctor that delivered my sister when she was born! Amazing to see a baby he delivered, having her own baby.

They weighed the baby, measured him, cleaned him up and then brought him wrapped in a blanket to my sister. The doctor then called over my brother-in-law and in a huddle the doctor and my brother in law cradled my sister with one arm each and with the other they cradled the baby as he lay in my sisters arms. And the doctor said a prayer My nephew was brought into the world with a prayer and surrounded by love.



Predictably most men I've told the story to have reacted rather childishly..."no, don't tell me about that gross thing", "I don't want to hear about the mess" etc, etc... The morning after my nephew was born, my nephew (the one who told me my sister's water had broke) said "Ewwww, you filmed it. Don't show us pictures of Alison's thing". And I said "Hey, that's where you came from. There's nothing gross about it". At least my nephew is 12 years of age, not really understanding sexuality or women's bodies. His age is certainly an excuse, but grown men.....grow up! Not for one second did I focus on the blood or the physical trauma of it. I only saw the truth of it. That life was happening.

This experience has given me a whole new level of respect for women If the process were left to man, humanity would have probably died out millenia ago. Man has only experienced this one time. That was when God removed a rib from Adam to create the mother of all Humanity.....Eve. And even then, God had to put him to sleep.

Most of you know me as a woman's advocate. And when I say "new level of respect", that isn't to mean that I haven't realized the special, unique, strong, creation that is the female race. I just got to experience something that is the core of womanhood. And it made me respect women even more than I already do, if that is even possible. I am deeply grateful to my sister for allowing me to share in the experience. She has given me a gift like no other.

This experience really confirmed so many truths I know about women. In a thread, someone asked "if given the choice with what you know now, would you choose to be gay" and this experience only confirmed my answer. Yes, I would choose this path. I believe that it is because I am gay that I have been able to know women the way that I have. To know their hearts, feel their emotions, and share their strengths. I am grateful to God for having such strong female energy within myself. It has allowed me to connect with women in a way I don't believe I would have been able to if I was straight. I think we generally take for granted women's ability to bridge the gap between generations. I will never take women for granted. Ever again.

I'm sure many of you are probably burning to ask if this experience has made me want to have children. The answer is no. As it is, I have not had the drive to have children, although I appreciate the fact that others do. And that really uncomplicates my life because the road to parenthood as a gay man would not be easy. There are so many levels other than the lack of drive as to why I do not want children. Probably the main reason being that I wouldn't be able to be my childs' mother. I know most men cringe at the thought and believe me, it's obviously painful as hell. But I envy a woman's ability to be the source of life. I would feel that I was missing the biggest part of the experience, and for that I feel that I would have a hole in me that could not be filled. This really isn't to denegrate men's role in this, I just would want more.....for myself.


That’s the way of the world
Plant your flower and you grow a pearl
A child is born with a heart of gold
The way of the world makes his heart grow cold
Earth, Wind & Fire "The Way of the World

The world can be a cold cold place and the fact that he was born in the midst of the greatest love gives me ultimate hope for his future. This has made me appreciate and love my other nephews even more. I am so happy that he has what most others in my family have not had. A stable, loving father. A father who wants to be part of the process

To my sister Alison. I love you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this with me. It means more to me than can ever be said with words.

To my brother-in-law Fernando, thank you for loving my sister and for doing something great in this world.

To my sister Natalie, I never really acknowledged your doing this, three times. I respect you so much.

To my mom, I'm glad we got to experience this together.

To Vern, thank you for letting me have this experience.

To my nephew, my prayers are always with you and I look forward to getting to know you You are a link in the great chain of life. Our bond will never be broken

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awesome...and congrats

nice to see another mans experience of birth and how alive and mindful it makes them

This makes my day

Congrats

Mach said:

I was already alive and mindful, just moreso. I have been sharpened, like a tool

Viewing the birth of my daughter...easily lives within me as one of the most spiritual and profound moments ever.. Seeing a new soul enter our world...mg..it doesn't have to be your own, for you to feel the significance and profound beauty of it.

Congratulations to your sister and your entire family, Supa..

That is an awesome story!!! Made me very happy!!! Makes you wonder after seeing something like this how a man can beat his wife and kids or walk out on them and not know how they are going to mkae it!!! It sounds like you have a great brother-in-law for sure!!! I have never seen this type of emotion from straight, grown ass men!! I am glad to find a male in touch with his feelings for once!!!!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

yes... you were ...and YES thats what i meant... MORESO its GREAT to see !!

Byron said:

It is without a doubt one of the most spiritual experiences I have ever had. And "profound" doesn't even come close to describing it. This experience is just so huge that there simply aren't sufficient words to describe what happened and how I feel.

You have the best life experiences..

Congratulations, Uncle Supa!!

What a beautiful experience!

Miss you!!!

rachel3 said:

unfortunately men have wreaked havoc on our family units and it really is so moving to see a man who is really there and who really wants to be the other half in this child's life. He's already got so much more than most of us have had. And for that I am absolutely grateful

A big thank you to my step-dad for taking that role in our lives. Thank you Vern

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I understand what you're both saying...but I do have to say that there are literally millions of men who do appreciate this experience and don't view it as disgusting...it's not as rare as you may fear it is.

Byron said:

Maybe I happen to know all the boobs

Congratulations!

I don't know of to many men that find this experience repulsive..

I think they are more frightened than repulsed.

Supa we want pictures...









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So beautiful Richard... silly emotional beautiful Pisces you.

sag10 said:

It would be up to my sister as to whether or not she wanted pictures up

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Freespirit said:

While they were examining my sister, my brother-in-law and I went down to the cafeteria and he ate a huge breakfast. I was way too emotional to eat! I was a wreck. I would have probably thrown up from nerves if I did eat. It was almost like riding a roller coaster. You know, kinda having your breath taken from you. It was amazing.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:[quote]

sag10 said:

I'm sorry!

I was thinking of the infamous picture...
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Poor thing got snipped last week. They give babies a local anisthetic now instead of circumsizing without pain relief. Thank God.

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Nice prose man, but the idea of song quotes puncturing the text should never have been let in the door. It cheapens the context. But I am Scottiosh and you are Californian, so we are destined to be polarised.

But nice work.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I know, I know!!! I'm sorry!!!!!


Forgiven? Please!?!!!!!

no harm no foul edit....
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Number23 said:

I included lyrics simply because music is such a large part of my life. Songs are usually the sparks that inspire my thoughts when I write. Music is one of the most powerful elements in life and connecting my thoughts to music is natural for me.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Duuude.

Number23 said:

I don't indulge anymore. Believe me, it would be much more hardcore if I did

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Aye, it's certainly different over your side of the playground. A guy who looked like Andre 3000 gave me some outrageous planet for free at Height/Ashbury a few months back just because I was wearing a kilt. My friend started crying because he believed his thoughts to be alien transmissions and I bit into a lightbulb in our hotel room while it was still on, narrowly averting death and cutting my mouth to pieces.
God bless America. The two sideybits away.

VERY nice, Supa!!! Congrats!!! A fantastic, beautiful description of a truly sacred experience!

Also, nice to see you give your step-dad props. I'm about to become a step-dad myself, and I'm already raising my fiancee's two kids. Its good to see that its appreciated down the line. I get some flack from folks who say stupid things like "well, you're not their REAL dad". Oh yeah? Well, their REAL dad is a loser junkie who thinks that being a good dad is giving them a phone call a few times a week for two minutes. I digress.

Anyhoo, mucho conratulations, my friend!!!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

When I was in the Nursing Assistant Program a couple of years ago... I saw the procedure with my own eyes. Poor souls... they lined them up four at a time... straped their litte legs wide apart... gave them the local anesthetic...

Let me tell you... the first one did not have a chance, he SCREAMED... although as they went down the line and time allowed the anesthetic to take it's toll, the fourth one... he did not feel a thing.

~Note: Make sure your baby gets the procedure done last... if done in group.

Ps~ I got the perfect headshot of my cutie niece... coming into this world. She was practically smiling... from ear to ear. My sister on the other hand... looked as if she was hit by a train... in the wrong place. Heh. Ok, not funny.

JediMaster said:

I absolutely appreciate everything he did for us. I won't lie and tell you that there won't be issues you have to work through, not being the natural father and all, but kids definitely feel where the love is coming from and as long as you are understanding of the situation as a whole, you'll be one hell of a father to those kids and they will love you for it