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Me and my boyfriend are breaking up Well, we almost made it to the year mark.
Though I believe in my heart that it's the best thing to do, breaking up is hard to do 
But, it's not fair to stay in a relationship when your heart isn't in it. It's not fair to him.....So I shall move on.... Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible? Smooches;) | |
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Im sorry to hear that Misha 
Not sure what to tell you to make things better, but good luck | |
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Thank you, Ella
Smooches;) | |
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Im so sorry Misha
I dont have much advice on making it painless....listen to music,read...go out and having loads of fun with friends. Try new things "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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Good advice, Threadcula 
Will try it Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible?  Don't kick him in his balls  | |
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PANDURITO said: MsMisha319 said: Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible? Don't kick him in his balls Will not....but if I had some, he would probably want to kick me 
Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: Well, we almost made it to the year mark.
Though I believe in my heart that it's the best thing to do, breaking up is hard to do
But, it's not fair to stay in a relationship when your heart isn't in it. It's not fair to him.....So I shall move on.... Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible? Smooches;) My only suggestion if for you to surround yourself with as many friends as possible and listen to a lot of Joni Mitchell. Those two things helped me move on...or is helping me move on, as I'm not quite over the heartache just yet. But heartache is not dire... much love! 
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TAKE IT BACK! TAKE IT BACK!
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AzureStarr said: TAKE IT BACK! TAKE IT BACK!
Maybe I will Smooches;) | |
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Being a guru on the subject of breaking up, here's my advice (in no order)
1. Try to avoid blaming yourself or him. It just happened. Ultimately, it's no one's fault. 2. Listen to breakup music. It's therapeutic because the singer is aching along with you. I recommend Damien Rice's "O" album or Nick Cave's "Let Love In." 3. Avoid sentimental romance movies. They'll just depress you. 4. Rally your friends for frequent social activities. I cannot stress the importance of this. Otherwise, you'll think of your ex even more. 5. Don't listen to Barbara DeAngelis. Bitch is crazy. 6. The book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" is GREAT and helpful. Check it out. 7. For the time being, remove all traces of your ex. This includes gifts he's given you, too. Put it all away in a box and stuff it into the attic. How are you supposed to get over him if you have constant reminders of him staring at you in the face? 8. Don't start dating someone new right away. If you need to get laid, fine. But don't date anyone steadily or start developing feelings for someone new. Trust me--if you do, this will bite you on the ass. 9. If your ex still has shit over at your place, arrange a "come get your shit" day. And when he comes over, be friendly, offer a hug or kiss on the cheek...but be ready for his seduction attempts. All guys try it. I know I have. Men are disgusting. 10. If you need to, see a counselor. There's no shame in it. | |
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That is the album to hear. Get past the "image" please. U know diane warren songs r the best 4 breaking up love....."when I'm back on my feet again" "time love and tenderness".....them songs could uplift a suicidal person. | |
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thesexofit said:
That is the album to hear. Get past the "image" please. U know diane warren songs r the best 4 breaking up love....."when I'm back on my feet again" "time love and tenderness".....them songs could uplift a suicidal person. Actually Michael Bolton has been known to induce suicidal tendencies in many listeners. | |
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VoicesCarry said: thesexofit said:
That is the album to hear. Get past the "image" please. U know diane warren songs r the best 4 breaking up love....."when I'm back on my feet again" "time love and tenderness".....them songs could uplift a suicidal person. Actually Michael Bolton has been known to induce suicidal tendencies in many listeners. Iam serious but I guess Michael Bolton is a hard sell.
Oh right have it ur way.....go play some depressing shit that makes u think blah blah blah "life's actually shit" sort of thing..... | |
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Case said: Being a guru on the subject of breaking up, here's my advice (in no order)
1. Try to avoid blaming yourself or him. It just happened. Ultimately, it's no one's fault. 2. Listen to breakup music. It's therapeutic because the singer is aching along with you. I recommend Damien Rice's "O" album or Nick Cave's "Let Love In." 3. Avoid sentimental romance movies. They'll just depress you. 4. Rally your friends for frequent social activities. I cannot stress the importance of this. Otherwise, you'll think of your ex even more. 5. Don't listen to Barbara DeAngelis. Bitch is crazy. 6. The book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" is GREAT and helpful. Check it out. 7. For the time being, remove all traces of your ex. This includes gifts he's given you, too. Put it all away in a box and stuff it into the attic. How are you supposed to get over him if you have constant reminders of him staring at you in the face? 8. Don't start dating someone new right away. If you need to get laid, fine. But don't date anyone steadily or start developing feelings for someone new. Trust me--if you do, this will bite you on the ass. 9. If your ex still has shit over at your place, arrange a "come get your shit" day. And when he comes over, be friendly, offer a hug or kiss on the cheek...but be ready for his seduction attempts. All guys try it. I know I have. Men are disgusting. 10. If you need to, see a counselor. There's no shame in it. Unfortunately, if we do break up, it will be my fault
We are still working on it though Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: Case said: Being a guru on the subject of breaking up, here's my advice (in no order)
1. Try to avoid blaming yourself or him. It just happened. Ultimately, it's no one's fault. 2. Listen to breakup music. It's therapeutic because the singer is aching along with you. I recommend Damien Rice's "O" album or Nick Cave's "Let Love In." 3. Avoid sentimental romance movies. They'll just depress you. 4. Rally your friends for frequent social activities. I cannot stress the importance of this. Otherwise, you'll think of your ex even more. 5. Don't listen to Barbara DeAngelis. Bitch is crazy. 6. The book "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" is GREAT and helpful. Check it out. 7. For the time being, remove all traces of your ex. This includes gifts he's given you, too. Put it all away in a box and stuff it into the attic. How are you supposed to get over him if you have constant reminders of him staring at you in the face? 8. Don't start dating someone new right away. If you need to get laid, fine. But don't date anyone steadily or start developing feelings for someone new. Trust me--if you do, this will bite you on the ass. 9. If your ex still has shit over at your place, arrange a "come get your shit" day. And when he comes over, be friendly, offer a hug or kiss on the cheek...but be ready for his seduction attempts. All guys try it. I know I have. Men are disgusting. 10. If you need to, see a counselor. There's no shame in it. Unfortunately, if we do break up, it will be my fault
We are still working on it though Smooches;) Relationships don't end on account of ONE person. It takes two to fuck things up. Don't carry all the weight of this on your shoulders. I've done that many times. It only makes it hurt worse. | |
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The bad thing about relationships is that if one keeps on loving or wanting to hav that relationship, and the other not, you cannot give "rational advices".
I just wish the best for you and your boyfriend. | |
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Case said: MsMisha319 said: Unfortunately, if we do break up, it will be my fault
We are still working on it though Smooches;) Relationships don't end on account of ONE person. It takes two to fuck things up. Don't carry all the weight of this on your shoulders. I've done that many times. It only makes it hurt worse. Not necessarily, its just sometimes one of the members of the couple changes, has new needs, or expects other thing. Love is not like Mathematics, we just cannot control how we feel. One day we can love intensely, and the next day not. Just try to be understanding with him, dont blame on you all the time, and dont try to find a rational explanation for this. | |
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Thank you all for your advice
Smooches;) | |
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Misha...hope you're ok and remember everything happens for a reason  | |
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Oh yeah! If you break up....stay away from him! Don't go over to see him, don't contact him by phone or email either. If he get's a new girlfriend...don't contact him and go crazy saying that she's not good enough and just putting down the new girlfriend.
It's probably best just to stay away. | |
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Natisse said: Misha...hope you're ok and remember everything happens for a reason Thanks, natisse Smooches;) | |
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Sorry to hear about your breakup. I'm sure it's for a good reason. Sometimes it just doesn't click. I was with this one guy for about 3 months and I kind of knew by then that it wasn't happening. I had to break up with him. The unfortunate part is that he was actually a nice guy. But this is not about me....
Good luck in any decision you make, I'm sure it will be the right one for you. Miguel MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MsMisha319 said: Natisse said: Misha...hope you're ok and remember everything happens for a reason Thanks, natisse Smooches;) *cough* hopes she looks up and see's althom's advice | |
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ALTHOM, thank you for your advice as well 
Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: ALTHOM, thank you for your advice as well
Smooches;)  | |
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MsMisha319 said: Well, we almost made it to the year mark.
Though I believe in my heart that it's the best thing to do, breaking up is hard to do
But, it's not fair to stay in a relationship when your heart isn't in it. It's not fair to him.....So I shall move on.... Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible? Smooches;) Sorry to hear about this Misha, that sux!  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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No, it isn't fair to him!
Be gentle with him, Misha. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections... unknown | |
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Copious amounts of liquor helped me through my split, though I wouldnt recommend it for everyone. | |
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MsMisha319 said: Well, we almost made it to the year mark.
Though I believe in my heart that it's the best thing to do, breaking up is hard to do
But, it's not fair to stay in a relationship when your heart isn't in it. It's not fair to him.....So I shall move on.... Any suggestions on how to make "moving on" as painless as possible? Smooches;) hey sweet 1, well me and my man have seperated after 17yrs so my heart goes out to u, 2nite is my 1st nite alone, and im so , so sad, so shame ur not any closer, we could of shared a bottle of wine and wept, oh well be strong my dear and keep ur head up, u will always have ur peeps on here Pardon me for living', but this is my world too! | |
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