errant said:

As a society, we have to give up this desire to not be judgemental.....

Bout fucking time somebody started making judgements. Especially their own as they relate to their personal lives. Chris Brown & Rihanna are good places to start.

^^ I agree with these statements.

artist76 said:

errant said:

As a society, we have to give up this desire to not be judgemental.....

Bout fucking time somebody started making judgements. Especially their own as they relate to their personal lives. Chris Brown & Rihanna are good places to start.

^^ I agree with these statements.

Must be nice not having to go through life being judged to the point that it stops people from wanting to do things for you, such as: giving you job opportunities, deciding whether to arrest you or not, and etc.

Unholyalliance said:

artist76 said:

^^ I agree with these statements.

Must be nice not having to go through life being judged to the point that it stops people from wanting to do things for you, such as: giving you job opportunities, deciding whether to arrest you or not, and etc.

He's marked for life

artist76 said:

errant said:

As a society, we have to give up this desire to not be judgemental.....

Bout fucking time somebody started making judgements. Especially their own as they relate to their personal lives. Chris Brown & Rihanna are good places to start.

^^ I agree with these statements.

I agree yet I have to make my reasons clear.

There's a difference between "judgement" and being "quick to judge". "Judgement", to me, means you've made a decision on the matter based on facts that are presented to you (or you reseached them). "Quick to judge/judging" is when you pass idle judgement without having all the facts or without "seeing the big picture".

I think people today are confusing the two, and that's why our society is so "politically correct" it's almost stifling. People are too quick to judge because majority are too cowardly to pass real judgement, even if it is different from everyone elses.

NDRU said:

^^^It would certainly be better for HIM if she stopped bringing it up!

No shit! That's what abusers want...no one to bring it up. What a jackass.

Beautifulstarr123 said:

duccichucka said:

HAPPYPERSON said:

Quote from her interview with Oprah, airing August 19

on own network
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❝ I lost my best friend… everything I knew switched — switched in a night. And I couldn’t control that. It’s not easy to interpret on camera, not with the world watching. I felt like the only person they hate right now is him. It was a weird, confusing space to be in, because as angry as I was — as angry and hurt and betrayed — I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help, and who’s going to help him? Nobody’s going to say he needs help, everybody’s going to say he’s a monster, without looking at the source. And I was more concerned about him.

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I ain't no pop-psychologist but you gotta wonder about the self esteem of a girl (Rihanna

doesn't strike me as a "woman") who feels more concerned about the dude who knotted

her face up as opposed to abstracting herself from that same dude's life and circle of

friends.

It also makes you wonder about what my friends and I call the "soul-tie*" that happens

during sex; particularly, when that soul-tie is between two virgins having sex with each

other for the first time.

soul-tie - a phrase describing the emotional, psychological, and spiritual union between

two or more people who are emotionally, psychologically and spiritually inclined and

metaphysically attracted to each other usually as the result of sexual intercourse.

EDIT: my post makes it seem like Rihanna's beat down was solely her fault and I

do not believe this to be the case.

EDIT #2: had to fix that definition to include the clarification "usually."

EDIT #3: for all you pop-tart starlets out there, go to school and learn how to read;

Rihanna ain't the most articulate person in the world.

EDIT #$4:...neither is Chris Brown.

Yep.

However, she's not alone. That mechanism accounts for most heterosexual women.

That's what they do. Make excuses for why their boyfriends/husbands are right for making the girl feel bad about herself.