I think everyone can see the argument for forgiveness and not endlessly judging someone for past transgressions, but surely that is premised on the person who was at fault taking responsibility for their actions and expressing contrition. I've never seen that from this guy. When someone brought it up on a tv show, he went back to his old ways and threw a chair through a window, and tweeted about his annoyance and his sense of victimhood - something which you see again in the statement in response to this interview.
I sympathise with him to the extent he's had to witness abuse as a child, but in the moment he visits that abuse on another person, I lose my goodwill towards him, and I see no reason to move from that position whilst he still (as far as I can see) fails to assume responsibility for his actions and take the steps necessary to avoid ever repeating them. "Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced." - James Baldwin | |
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Personally, I think the daft cow has to revisit it now in a tearful, 'sympathetic' tone to avoid people asking uncomfortable questions about why she make the glib choice to gain a bit of cheap publicity and further her own career by collaborating with him after the incident. Though I felt she handled herself well at the time, and I felt bad for her, I took that move as a betrayal of my goodwill. I don't have much respect for either of them, these days, if I'm honest. "Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced." - James Baldwin | |
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I just...wow
And regarding this whole Rihanna interview thing? Meh. I'll be tuning in tomorrow. | |
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While I can certainly have sympathy for any child exposed to the trauma of domestic abuse, at what point does the adult who endured that trauma take responsibility for themselves and make a personal choice not to perpetuate the dysfunction?
I am not seeing that from Chris and Rihanna comes off sounding like a bit of an enabler, possibly with a touch of battered woman syndrome.
Perhaps they would both be better served by seeking long term professional counseling and doing less talking/acting out in public with zero chance of resolving their issues and improving their lives. Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise. | |
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The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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obviously she still loves him | |
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"You stop being a victim when you harm someone else" and that's not true.
It kind of is. The victim is now an attacker and can never expect anyone to have sympthy for them since they are now doing the same things that happend to them or their family members.
I do not like using the B-word but this chick is a dumb B and if she keeps messing around with Chris she is going to be losing more teeth and having are eyes closed a few more times but maybe she will learn.
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Exactly.
Rihanna needs a good friend who is not just spending Rihanna's money on their holiday. She needs a friend who is going to tell her, that she needs to stop paying attention to Chris Brown or any other man in her life and start paying attention to herself.
She needs a friend who insists she reads all books by Robin Norwood, and reads out loud this book to Rihanna:
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I think love gets mixed up with obsession.
She seems obsessed, and that is quite different than love.
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Yes, that is why abusers can continue with their behaviour.
Abusers are like addicts, they will allways see themselves as the victim. They will come up with a sad story about their past.
However, it's the girls and woman that allow abusers to do what they do. And as long as women continue making excuses for their abusers, these man will continue.
I'm not blaming women at all. I do wish that women would educate themselves about how man manipulate them. I wished women would make an effort to become emotionally independent.
Only than women can stop their abusers. Because than, they see the reality of the situation and do what is best for everybody involved. Walk out of the abusive situation and never turn back.
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Rihanna said he needed help. Don't we "help" addicts? | |
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That exactly is Rihanna her problem.
She needs help.
She is addicted to him and imagening that he needs her.
She has a relationship addiction.
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to me any form of trying to have sympathy for him goes out the door when i look past the Rihanna incident, if you take that out of the equation his issues are deep and i can site many issues of him being a homophob, be-rating his fans on twitter, fights in clubs etc....There comes a time when u have to accept this is who you are, YES its terrible what he went through or saw as a child, but, if you keep making the excuse you cannot find a way around it. Daryl Strawberry former mets star, had drug issues for years, he blamed everyone, he blamed the fans for booing him, he blamed other players, ex wives until finally he looked in the mirror and found the real source to blame, HIMSELF. And im sorry the kid gloves have to come off with Chris, going on Oprah or whatever is making matters worse cause now he has reasons to continue. Robert Downey Jr was given pot by his father when he was like 10 years old and of course that enviroment got worse and grew into other drugs and violations, till Robert WENT TO JAIL for never ever hurting anyone striking anyone, he went in for possession of drugs, and he did time in REAL JAIL, and that woke him up, he seperated himself from the "fast lane" friends, and got better, learned to deal with it. Chris is surrounded by the same people all the time and then he goes clubbing with thugs and hangs with the guy who has slept with his ex and hes there with his thugs etc....
sympathy time is over "We went where our music was appreciated, and that was everywhere but the USA, we knew we had fans, but there is only so much of the world you can play at once" Magne F | |
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"No one wanted 2 help him, they only call him a monster"
"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
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I dont think people should have sympathy for him either because he is a grown adult. However, people have an understanding of why he acts the way he does.
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Rihanna: 'I do miss Chris Brown' – video'I'm reminded of a lot of good memories', says singer of her ex-boyfriend Rihanna has admitted that she misses her ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in her interview with US chat show host Oprah Winfrey – scroll down and click to watch. I'm reminded of a lot of good things. A lot of good memories. The slightest things… hotel rooms, tour venues, any little thing. Music, songs. I do miss him at times.
"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
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great post!
C & R's even boring the queen. [Edited 8/19/12 23:23pm] “Transracial is a term that has long since been defined as the adoption of a child that is of a different race than the adoptive parents,” : https://thinkprogress.org...fb6e18544a | |
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If she loves Breezy that much then go back to him and enjoy your beatings. Silly cow. | |
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I'd just like to point out that he strangled her until she passed out.
It's one thing to say "beat", or "abuse", but that man strangled her to unconsciousness.
And she's wrong about perspective; it's easier to see from far away, and harder to see from up close.
He's an asshole. | |
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he also smashed her head into a car window, threatened her life, and repeatedly punched and bit her.
i mean, if we're getting specific. | |
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I knew she has sad father issues, and she admitted it right during the interview. "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
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That's because he is a monster. | |
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She said she still loves him | |
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First and foremost, Rihanna is an AWESOME young woman with a generous spirit and loving family and friends.
Abuse is absolutely NOT acceptable and should NEVER be tolerated. I don't think she should re-kindle her romantic relationship with Chris however, they both need to establish a healthy friendship. There is/was much love there. I agree with her that you must forgive people that hurt you because those bottled up feelings with only hurt YOU. Rihanna shows great maturity and even with her young age is following a good path. JUST MY OPINION.
She clearly has been able to sort and analyze her feelings. It's wonderful, she's human!
Her grandmother left her with great advise that some never get to hear. I'm sure Chris' new girlfriend feels insecure with Rihanna hot on the tails of their breakup.
Hopefully, soon that man that values her worth and provides her with all she needs to stay grounded will come and the memories of Chris will be just that....memories.
KEEP ROCKIN' RIHANNA!!
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Ill Doctorine sums it all up pretty nice.
http://www.illdoctrine.com/2011/03/a_history_lesson_for_chris_bro.html
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kimberly1 said: First and foremost, Rihanna is an AWESOME young woman with a generous spirit and loving family and friends.
Abuse is absolutely NOT acceptable and should NEVER be tolerated. I don't think she should re-kindle her romantic relationship with Chris however, they both need to establish a healthy friendship. There is/was much love there. I agree with her that you must forgive people that hurt you because those bottled up feelings with only hurt YOU. Rihanna shows great maturity and even with her young age is following a good path. JUST MY OPINION.
She clearly has been able to sort and analyze her feelings. It's wonderful, she's human!
Her grandmother left her with great advise that some never get to hear. I'm sure Chris' new girlfriend feels insecure with Rihanna hot on the tails of their breakup.
Hopefully, soon that man that values her worth and provides her with all she needs to stay grounded will come and the memories of Chris will be just that....memories.
KEEP ROCKIN' RIHANNA!!
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I ain't no pop-psychologist but you gotta wonder about the self esteem of a girl (Rihanna doesn't strike me as a "woman") who feels more concerned about the dude who knotted her face up as opposed to abstracting herself from that same dude's life and circle of friends.
It also makes you wonder about what my friends and I call the "soul-tie*" that happens during sex; particularly, when that soul-tie is between two virgins having sex with each other for the first time.
soul-tie - a phrase describing the emotional, psychological, and spiritual union between two or more people who are emotionally, psychologically and spiritually inclined and metaphysically attracted to each other usually as the result of sexual intercourse.
EDIT: my post makes it seem like Rihanna's beat down was solely her fault and I do not believe this to be the case.
EDIT #2: had to fix that definition to include the clarification "usually."
EDIT #3: for all you pop-tart starlets out there, go to school and learn how to read; Rihanna ain't the most articulate person in the world.
EDIT #$4:...neither is Chris Brown.
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