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Thread started 02/04/21 12:02pm

funkbabyandthe
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"you drive by me like some kind of fag"

so i love the song blanche.

but this line does dissapoint me

ultimately it proves that prince didnt ever really take his interest in challenging gender constructs that seriously

it was probably really just a superficial thing - e.g wearing frilly costumes, womens clothes, high heels ('women dig em'), something everyone was doing at the time, so he was just going along with the trend in the late 70s/80s

which is actually totally fine, not everyone has to be a warrior on all issues, and hey, most people are contradictory, so i can accept that not everyone is going to be 100% consistent

but this line in blanche (in 87, not his JW period), and later stories of him and larry lecturing bobby z on why homosexuality is wrong show that prince didnt care much about offending his gay fans (idk if madonna for example, or dolly parton would cut a song with a line about fags in it), of which there is probably quite a big number, similiar i am guessing to all those people who saw bowie in the 70s and felt like there was a (sort of) gay presence they could see in popular music at last

ofc prince is allowed to mock gays if he likes

but i guess this line shows that for all the people who like to hold him up as some sort of fighter for marginalised groups is pretty questionable

prince was a freak, he flew a freak flag for others too, but didnt mean that that came without prejudices

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Reply #1 posted 02/04/21 1:11pm

TheBigBang

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I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.

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Reply #2 posted 02/04/21 1:19pm

TwiliteKid

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TheBigBang said:

I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.

A good point. As distasteful as the word is, judging Prince for using it in this context is a bit of a reach, but that seems to be the OP's thing today - trying to stir up shit by pulling out individual words or lines as inflammatory.

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Reply #3 posted 02/04/21 1:34pm

skywalker

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Guess what? Artists are free to do what they like.

"New Power slide...."
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Reply #4 posted 02/04/21 1:41pm

jdcxc

TheBigBang said:

I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.


Agree. I also believe it was written in character as the macho, working class, misogynistic Stanley Kowalski. You can tell by the other lyrics and Prince's vocal delivery. Whats interesting is that there has been scholarship about the possible gay subtext of the character.

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Reply #5 posted 02/04/21 2:16pm

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TheBigBang said:

I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.



It's merely more deliberate provocation and trolling. See also the post regarding the lyrical reference to the blind in 'Tic Tac Toe' by the same author.
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Reply #6 posted 02/04/21 2:32pm

Genesia

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TwiliteKid said:

TheBigBang said:

I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.

A good point. As distasteful as the word is, judging Prince for using it in this context is a bit of a reach, but that seems to be the OP's thing today - trying to stir up shit by pulling out individual words or lines as inflammatory.


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Reply #7 posted 02/04/21 2:42pm

TrivialPursuit

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As a lifelong member of the LGBTQ community, I'm going to say this as respectfully as possible:


"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #8 posted 02/04/21 3:28pm

LoveGalore

As another lifetime cardholder of the club, I admit the line is pretty lame. But of course, you still have people who say "that's gay" or white people who use the N slur or cis people who use the T slur... All because they attach their own bespoke meaning and intent to it. Are they painfully thick headed? Yes. But nobody should've ever conflated prince's musical prowess and the claims of genius with being politically intelligent.

Besides, even though he became much more well spoken by the end of his life, the dude was barely educated, was woefully naive and narcissistic, and was a conspiracy theorist to the Nth degree. The way people thought about chemtrail believers back in the day is how people think of QAnon folks today. I mean, so yeah, Prince was destined to say dumb shit like this.
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Reply #9 posted 02/04/21 3:40pm

TwiliteKid

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Genesia said:

TwiliteKid said:

A good point. As distasteful as the word is, judging Prince for using it in this context is a bit of a reach, but that seems to be the OP's thing today - trying to stir up shit by pulling out individual words or lines as inflammatory.


Today?

Haha, I meant the lyrics bit. Stirring up shit is definitely his/her thing.

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Reply #10 posted 02/04/21 3:54pm

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Well he had every right to use the word fag since he was gay himself.


razz I kid I kid lol


No but seriously, I'm glad I don't care for this song because as a lifelong fan of his, through TRC and NPGMC and loving his bonkers religious stuff just as much as anything else he did, hearing him use the word fag was the first time I thought to myself 'no Prince, that's kind of disgusting' -especially knowing he recorded it just after Sign O The Times. Nice confused


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Reply #11 posted 02/04/21 4:48pm

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He'd write from characters, he'd write from different parts of his personality, he'd write from the social influences of whoever was around him in his bubble and what was perceived as cool, he'd evolve, he'd regress... you know, it's Prince.

Also, not for nothing but the 80's were all about using slurs and offensive language casually without meaning it.

I don't think Prince had Bowie appeal within the LGBTQ community after Dirty Mind or maybe Controversy. Not sure how many Gays identified with Prince after he shed the Sylvester influences. He had Gay fans, sure, but Bowie was actually living a gender fluid, non-hetero normative lifestyle it wasn't just image.

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Reply #12 posted 02/04/21 5:00pm

jfenster

What r complete lyrics to song?? Best to judge in context
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Reply #13 posted 02/04/21 5:02pm

mbdtyler

TheBigBang said:

I'll never understand this current need to go back in time and pick apart songs that were written over three decades ago using today's social morays. Also, understand that in "a song about a girl named Blanche and a dude named Stanley," that Prince isn't actually talking as Prince.

I think it's pretty valid to criticize works from that past that involve discriminatory language or content. Homophobia wasn't okay in the 80's just because people threw it around so casually and openly. Slavery wasn't okay in the 1700's just because tons of white folks had them (definitely a more extreme example, but it still stands)

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Reply #14 posted 02/04/21 5:03pm

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Tennesee Williams, self-repression, homoeroticism - read up on 'em. smile

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Reply #15 posted 02/04/21 5:12pm

Margot

lavendardrummachine said:

He'd write from characters, he'd write from different parts of his personality, he'd write from the social influences of whoever was around him in his bubble and what was perceived as cool, he'd evolve, he'd regress... you know, it's Prince.

Also, not for nothing but the 80's were all about using slurs and offensive language casually without meaning it.

I don't think Prince had Bowie appeal within the LGBTQ community after Dirty Mind or maybe Controversy. Not sure how many Gays identified with Prince after he shed the Sylvester influences. He had Gay fans, sure, but Bowie was actually living a gender fluid, non-hetero normative lifestyle it wasn't just image.

Bowie was in an environment that was more tolerant of gender fluidity.

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Reply #16 posted 02/04/21 7:46pm

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Well, now we see how well releasing Extralovable and Lust U Always would go over with this bunch. confused Thanks for saving us all with your bullshit woke outrage. Yes - save us all through censorship.
"I like to watch."
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Reply #17 posted 02/04/21 7:50pm

gandorb

No, Prince doesn't need to be crucified for this and yes there is to much judgment of what people said decades ago. Nevertheless, given it was such a homophobic time it is disappointing that he wrote the lyric. Glad it wasn't released, so perhaps he would have given it more thought if it had. The 80s were so hard for gays with the AIDS backlash, so anything negative from the few seemingly accepting stars is a drag. I would have been equally disappointed in Bowie, Madonna, or Queen to include something like this. It doesn't change my overall perspective of being a huge fan of his music and career.

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Reply #18 posted 02/04/21 8:37pm

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Margot said:

Bowie was in an environment that was more tolerant of gender fluidity.


The environment wasn't the difference between Prince and Bowie, their individual sexualities were. Prince was a heterosexual man.

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Reply #19 posted 02/04/21 8:41pm

mbdtyler

sulls said:

Well, now we see how well releasing Extralovable and Lust U Always would go over with this bunch. confused Thanks for saving us all with your bullshit woke outrage. Yes - save us all through censorship.

yawn.

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Reply #20 posted 02/04/21 8:53pm

Margot

lavendardrummachine said:

Margot said:

Bowie was in an environment that was more tolerant of gender fluidity.


The environment wasn't the difference between Prince and Bowie, their individual sexualities were. Prince was a heterosexual man.

[Edited 2/4/21 20:37pm]

Oh, OK...

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Reply #21 posted 02/04/21 9:11pm

TrivialPursuit

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lavendardrummachine said:

Margot said:

Bowie was in an environment that was more tolerant of gender fluidity.


The environment wasn't the difference between Prince and Bowie, their individual sexualities were. Prince was a heterosexual man.


Oh, sorry, is Iman a drag queen or something? Cuz the last time I checked, she's all woman, and she's been married to him since 1992 until he died. And he was married before and had kids. Sooo... your point?

He said, in the early 80s, that saying he was bisexual was "the biggest mistake I ever made," (mainly because of the "puritanical" attitude in the U.S.), and that he was a "closet heterosexual." Ziggy declared himself gay a decade before, but David Bowie was hetero.

If anything, Bowie played with sexuality and androgyny 100x more than Prince ever did, all while fucking women and having kids with them. Apparently, it confused more people than he anticipated.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #22 posted 02/04/21 9:18pm

Margot

TrivialPursuit said:

lavendardrummachine said:


The environment wasn't the difference between Prince and Bowie, their individual sexualities were. Prince was a heterosexual man.


Oh, sorry, is Iman a drag queen or something? Cuz the last time I checked, she's all woman, and she's been married to him since 1992 until he died. And he was married before and had kids. Sooo... your point?

He said, in the early 80s, that saying he was bisexual was "the biggest mistake I ever made," (mainly because of the "puritanical" attitude in the U.S.), and that he was a "closet heterosexual." Ziggy declared himself gay a decade before, but David Bowie was hetero.

If anything, Bowie played with sexuality and androgyny 100x more than Prince ever did, all while fucking women and having kids with them. Apparently, it confused more people than he anticipated.

Bowie was bisexual.

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Reply #23 posted 02/04/21 9:20pm

Margot

Margot said:

TrivialPursuit said:


Oh, sorry, is Iman a drag queen or something? Cuz the last time I checked, she's all woman, and she's been married to him since 1992 until he died. And he was married before and had kids. Sooo... your point?

He said, in the early 80s, that saying he was bisexual was "the biggest mistake I ever made," (mainly because of the "puritanical" attitude in the U.S.), and that he was a "closet heterosexual." Ziggy declared himself gay a decade before, but David Bowie was hetero.

If anything, Bowie played with sexuality and androgyny 100x more than Prince ever did, all while fucking women and having kids with them. Apparently, it confused more people than he anticipated.

Bowie was bisexual, (read a little more), Prince, likely as well.

I'm going to bed, not in the mood for any arguments about this.

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Reply #24 posted 02/04/21 9:38pm

lustmealways

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as a flamingly gay male i can say with 110 percent accuracy that prince was decidedly not bisexual

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Reply #25 posted 02/04/21 9:41pm

TrivialPursuit

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Margot said:

Bowie was bisexual, (read a little more), Prince, likely as well.

I'm going to bed, not in the mood for any arguments about this.


Oh, cowardly response. Tuck n' run. "Likely" is conjecture, at best. Not fact, just ill-informed and obtuse opinion.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #26 posted 02/04/21 10:06pm

Purplegarden

TrivialPursuit said:

As a lifelong member of the LGBTQ community, I'm going to say this as respectfully as possible:


yes yeahthat

I got plenty good loving for ya baby
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Reply #27 posted 02/04/21 10:14pm

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It rhymed lock lol
For all time I am with you, you are with me.
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Reply #28 posted 02/04/21 10:16pm

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I'm sure he meant like a cigarette, the car was emitting too much exhaust that it looked like a lit fag

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Reply #29 posted 02/04/21 10:21pm

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funkbabyandthebabysitters said:

it was probably really just a superficial thing - e.g wearing frilly costumes, womens clothes, high heels ('women dig em'), something everyone was doing at the time,

Not where I come from they weren't.

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